Living with Scleroderma

Reflections on the Messy Complexity of Chronicity

Cutting Bandages

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Every morning and every night, when I get dressed and before I go to bed, I cut bandages for my ulcers. I divide them lengthwise to layer over my fingertips, then wrap a whole bandage around each finger to secure the half bandages in place. It’s become a ritual, this hand management, a routine essential to avoiding infection, a pit stop for damage control, a meditation.

For the past two weeks, as I traveled in Tel Aviv, Jerusalem and London, this ritual-of-necessity anchored me. No matter where Al and I were staying or who we were with, twice a day I had to stop and take care of my hands.

I cut bandages on my fold-out tray in a British Air Boeing 777 en route to Tel Aviv, on a bed in Al’s cousins’ apartment in Ra’anana before sundown on the Jewish Sabbath, at the kitchen table in our friends’ Tel Aviv pied-à-terre over a 1:00 a.m. heart-to-heart about letting go of your adult children, at an old oak table in our cousins’ London flat after our late night arrival from Israel, wanting only to go to bed and knowing I couldn’t, yet.

I was in the midst of cutting bandages when Mindi came to greet us at our friend’s apartment in Tel Aviv, the morning after we’d first arrived. I hadn’t seen her for nearly six months, since she’d left to make a life for herself in Israel, so I jumped up from the table, fingers half-done, to give her a big hug.

And I was cutting bandages last night, sitting on our own bed once again, relieved to have peeled off the day’s grubby dressings, blackened by twelve hours of travel. Were we really at the Tate Museum in London that morning?

Sometimes, the bandaging ritual during our journey was a damn nuisance, the last thing I felt like doing before leaving the house for the day’s adventures or when all I wanted to do was go to bed.

But at other times, it was peaceful, a time to collect my thoughts when everyone else was either asleep or away, an island of quiet to sort out what I’d seen and done and learned that day. As I’d cut the bandages, I’d listen to the familiar sounds of an unfamiliar setting—a wall clock’s tick, a dog’s bark, the click of heels on the floor above, the subterranean rumble of nearby Tube trains—and feel grounded.

I needed that stillness. Travel is so packed with newness, the unpredictable, the need to process so much information quickly and make snap decisions based on estimates of how your experience of your own world approximates this one, even though the two may be only tangentially related. Much as you’re constantly on the go, to fully appreciate the experience, it’s essential to slow down and just be.

So, I guess I have my bandages to thank for that.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Good Medicine

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Half-way around the world from home, I’m writing at our friends’ kitchen table in their Tel Aviv apartment, watching a lemon sway from the branch of a tree on the neighbor’s patio, listening to the swish and blare of traffic, the wall clock’s soft tick, a distant outdoor chime of Rock-a-Bye Baby, a jackhammer’s clatter.

Al and I have traveled nearly 5,500 miles to get here, partly for business, partly to see his family, and mostly to visit Mindi, our eldest, who has been living and working in Israel for almost six months.

It has taken the past four days for my body to adjust. The trip was, by most travel standards, easy—our flights were on time, our connection a 20-minute walk through cavernous Heathrow. We had minimal turbulence, ample food, excellent service, and our bags arrived with us. But for me, it has been very strenuous.

I haven’t traveled abroad in 16 years. Then it was challenging because the girls were young. Now it’s challenging because I’m getting older, my hands are more damaged, and I don’t sleep as well, even under the best of conditions.

I was prepared, but not. I packed well-organized carry-ons but didn’t realize that I had to pull out my laptop for security checks in Boston and London, which required unzipping and unpacking and repacking and re-zipping twice. I knew we’d have in-flight meal service but didn’t anticipate all of the myriad shrink-wrapped and hermetically sealed food items and utensils that I couldn’t open without Al’s help. I wore soft sweat pants and brought slippers for the plane but realized as we squeezed into our seats on both flights that comfort and coach don’t belong in the same sentence.

All of this took a toll on my body, especially my hands. So many barriers, from the seat belt clips that I had to pry open to the lavatory door’s narrow pull grip. With a current count of eight ulcers, I knew I needed to change all of my bandages at some point along the way or my skin would deteriorate, but I also knew I needed to be meticulous about keeping the wounds clean in the process.

I solved the problem somewhere high over the Mediterranean, using disposable aloe hand wipes to clean my fingers before replacing all the dressings. One of the flight attendants, noticing the mounting pile of bandage wrappers on my tray table, asked if I needed any help. No, I said, I do this all the time (just not at 30-thousand feet).

Sleep was elusive. I avoided everyone’s advice to take sleeping pills because I didn’t want to get groggy and dehydrated. So I dozed as much as I could and caught up over the next few days.

Yes, it was a major challenge. But so worth it.

There is no better medicine in the world than seeing your daughter all grown up, finding her way in a complex foreign culture, thriving. And there’s no better feeling than knowing, despite chronic medical challenges, you can still fly halfway around the globe to see her new world through her eyes. And you’d do it again, in a heartbeat.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Monday Night Pilates

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We’re lying on our backs, the four of us, each on a black padded platform carriage called a reformer, our legs extended at 45 degrees, our heads and shoulders curved forward, straight arms pumping alongside our torsos, hands in straps that pull against a combination of springs and our own body weight, doing The Hundred.

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Welcome to Monday night Pilates. Our instructor calls out the count. We pump and breathe in unison, shew-shew-shew-shew-shew, trying to keep our backs imprinted flat against the platform, trying to move our arms without moving the carriage, trying to suck in our guts and keep our legs up and not strain our necks.

I’ve been taking Stott Pilates for about four years now, ever since I decided I was losing range of motion and hunching my shoulders so much to keep warm that I was beginning to look like a little old lady. I’ve worked my way up from introductory mat classes to the reformer, which looks a bit like a medieval torture contraption. But I actually like the workout—especially once our hour is done.

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My classmates range from forties to seventies, all moderately fit, and we enjoy kvetching and an easy camaraderie as we sweat and strain. Our instructor, a former Air Force Academy gymnast and competitive ice skater, is just the right combination of tough, precise and caring. She pushes us to the point of exhaustion, but also offers me creative modifications for any move that my joints won’t allow me to do.

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Halfway. Around this point my head feels like it weighs a ton and I struggle to keep it raised. But I keep pumping. And wondering, why am I doing this to myself? I used to hate gym.

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But the workout is essential. If I miss a week, I feel it the next. And if I miss two weeks, I start feeling crummy. Keeping my joints moving and my muscles strong and my posture aligned make a huge difference in my ability to get through the day, sleep well at night and stay positive about my health and whatever other stress I’m managing.

Plus, it makes me feel mighty. I never exercised seriously growing up. Here I am, 57 years old, with all sorts of crazy ailments, and I can kick butt. Sort of.

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I stare at my thighs and wonder why, with all this exercise, I can’t get rid of the cellulite. Pump-pump-pump-pump-pump. My neck feels like it’s going to snap. Our instructor always says we can put our heads down if we need to, but I don’t want to cave.

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Almost there. Keep going. Sometimes she forgets the count and skips a set of ten. No such luck tonight.

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We bend our legs to a table-top position and squeeze our bodies like a fist, then, relief, roll our heads down and lower our feet to the platform.

I adjust the platform tension and check the clock on the wall. Half-an-hour to go. Next, front rowing, bicep curls, tricep presses, I’m getting stronger, my muscles are shaking, shew-shew-shew-shew-shew.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Why I Don’t Eat Meat but Still Wear Leather Shoes

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Living amidst abundance, graced with super-sized supermarkets that devote an entire aisle to the vast variety of mustards and ketchups Americans supposedly crave, we struggle with the luxury of choice: What to eat?

Years ago, I decided, out of religious commitment, to follow Jewish dietary law and keep a kosher home. No more ham-and-cheese sandwiches or shrimp cocktails. I didn’t really miss the forbidden foods, and the discipline gave my life needed structure and spiritual focus. In recent years, I’ve added a new requirement: stay away from meat.

In part, my reasons involve how my scleroderma makes it harder to eat meat. This is personal. There is, to my knowledge, no definitive research about the best diet for people with scleroderma.

I’ve simply learned over the years that if I ate red meat, I’d wake up in the middle of the night with indigestion and reflux. Sometimes, I’d aspirate the reflux and sit bolt upright out of a deep night’s sleep, gasping for breath. Not worth it, even though I used to love brisket.

I also find red meat difficult to chew and swallow. I’ve had a few decayed molars extracted because I can’t open my mouth wide enough for my dentist to fill cavities in the back. Sluggish esophageal motility has more than once caused me to gag on meat that I couldn’t chew completely. So, dense foods are problematic. But I have zero interest in pureeing my food, as some recommend. There are plenty of creative, nutritional alternatives for these issues without resorting to pablum.

Those are the pragmatic considerations. My decision to eliminate all meat from my diet is also ethical, inspired by my daughters while they were still in high school. Mindi, our oldest, was the first to disavow meat after learning how animals are abused when raised for slaughter. Emily, our youngest, came to the same conclusion about a year later after attending a week-long seminar on animal rights.

Between hearing what they had learned and expanding my repertoire of nutritious vegetarian meals for growing adolescents, I decided they were right. The cons simply outweighed the pros. An added benefit, going vegetarian significantly simplified our kosher kitchen, since we now only needed one set of dishes, instead of separate sets for meat and dairy.

That said, I am not a vegan, nor am I a pure vegetarian. I still eat fish because of the health benefits of anti-oxidants, but I’m seeking affordable resources for fish caught in the wild. I also take fish oil every day, which has significantly helped me fight colds.

And I still wear leather shoes. My feet are difficult to fit and require custom orthotics, because the fat pads have thinned due to scleroderma. There simply aren’t enough comfortable vegan shoe options with removable insoles, made from materials that breathe and won’t cause my skin to break down. So, this remains a compromise.

For me, the shift toward vegetarian eating has been an evolving process. The first step was giving up pork and shellfish, and separating meat from milk, as a daily reminder of my religious values. This is the next major ethical step I’ve made in redefining my diet.

I have friends who are vegetarian purists, who won’t eat “anything with eyes” and who won’t wear leather. I admire their commitment.

But even as I try to honor the rights of all living creatures, hoping to do my part to create a humane world, I also need to put my health first. Without it, I’m no help to anyone, least of all myself. So, for now, I’ll stay away from meat, but keep eating fish and wearing leather shoes. Not the ideal solution. Not yet.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Dropping the F-bomb

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Whenever I smash one of my fingertip ulcers—reaching for a faucet, reaching for the gear shift, reaching for a doorknob, any time I’m rushing and not paying attention—I curse.

And the only curse that works is the f-bomb. It’s short, explosive and foul. It’s the best way I know to discharge my anger and diffuse the intense, sharp pain.

My fingertip bones are severely resorbed, so the tips are jagged. When I hit an overlaying ulcer, it’s a double whammy of banging a deep sore on the outside and stabbing it from the inside. Even with my bandages, which provide a little cushioning, it hurts like hell.

But oh hell doesn’t cut it.

I also curse when my hands won’t do what I want.

A spoon slips through my grasp and hits the floor. F-bomb.

Coins slide out of my palm and scatter. F-bomb.

It takes five tries to pick the coins off the floor. F-bomb.

I can’t grab a knife from the flatware tray and have to pry it out with another utensil. F-bomb.

It takes ten minutes to align the zipper pull and zip up my winter coat. F-bomb.

I have a battle with shrink-wrap and the shrink-wrap wins. F-bomb.

I drop my cell phone getting out of the car and the back falls off into the sewer (yes, this really happened once). F-bomb.

Sometimes, when I’m cooking a big meal for company and getting tired and things start slipping out of my hands—like a potato I’m peeling or an onion I’m slicing—I don’t simply drop the f-bomb, I start throwing utensils into the sink and slamming drawers and yelling about how the counters are too cluttered and there’s no place to put anything. My family knows enough to stay out of the way.

I try my best not to curse when others are around or within earshot. I don’t want the f-bomb to creep into my everyday conversation and contribute to the decline of civil discourse.

But I hate this disease. Even though I’ve been living with scleroderma for three decades, and most of the time I can manage quite well, it really gets to me some days. I hate the way it’s wrecking my body. I hate how it’s robbed me of activities I love. I hate all the bandages, the ulcers and infections. I hate all the trips to various doctors and all the waiting in waiting rooms and all the medications. I hate discovering yet one more bizarre complication, like the fact that the roots of my molars are resorbing or the time the left side of my face went numb and I thought I was having a stroke and had to go to the ER and learned that I had an inflamed trigeminal nerve that the ER doc diagnosed as trigeminal neuralgia, which fortunately turned out not to be the case. It was “just” a rare neurological issue associated with scleroderma.

There’s no polite way to put this: When your body craps out on you, it sucks. And with a disease like this, you’re stuck knowing there’s no cure, for now, probably not in your lifetime, and even if, God-willing, there is a cure, your body’s too damaged for it to make a difference, and your health is only going to get worse.

Like aging.

When my sister and I were kids, our family used to travel by overnight train from New York to Cincinnati to visit my grandparents every December. Inevitably at the big family gatherings, all the adults would start complaining about their latest physical ailments. We’d sit on the side and snicker to each other, “When are they going to start passing around their X-rays?”

Fifty years later, I find myself engaged in those same conversations with my friends all too often. The older we get, the more stuff malfunctions, breaks and hurts. It’s shocking when it starts. We all know that our bodies are going to give out and we’re going to die someday, but we don’t really want to believe it until our mortality slaps us in the face. I’ve just been battling the inevitable much longer than most of my peers.

So I guess I have something of an advantage in the how-to-cope sweepstakes. But that doesn’t help on days when my house keys slip through my fingers and I drop the package I’m carrying as I try to pick them up and have to take off my glove to grasp the keyring but it’s too cold and my fingers go into a Raynaud’s spasm.

Then the only thing that works is dropping the f-bomb.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.