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High Wind Warning

Evelyn Herwitz · February 26, 2019 · Leave a Comment


Monday morning. I awake to wind, rushing and subsiding, like an angry tide. A quick check of the weather forecast on my phone reveals high wind warnings all day, with gusts over 50 miles per hour throughout the afternoon. I have to drive into Boston for an evening class. I imagine a tiring commute, fighting the wind, but am determined to go, despite plummeting temperatures.

As I make the bed and bandage my chronic thumb ulcers, I listen to the The Daily podcast by the New York Times. Today’s topic: whoever controls the incipient 5G network, which will integrate all things hooked to the Internet—self-driving cars, smart TVs, home security systems, communications networks, the power grid, artificial intelligence, our brains—will basically control the world. This is the new Cold War. The wind howls outside. I sit cross-legged on the floor, try to quiet my mind and meditate.

While cooking oatmeal and boiling hot water for tea, I call the lab that has sent me two invoices for recent bloodwork stating that we owe $150 because the claims were rejected by our insurance. This happened while our COBRA administrator had not yet told our insurance company that we had renewed our policy back in January, so I have to get the lab to resubmit.

I work my way through their phone tree until I reach the customer service line, which promptly puts me on hold. I put the call on speaker and stir the oatmeal. Winds rush through trees and around corners. I sit down at the kitchen table, sip my tea and begin to eat my comfort food. Peppy music crackles through the phone, interrupted momentarily by a male voice: We apologize for the delay. A customer representative will be with you soon. Your call will be taken in the order it was received.

Over the cycling music, another male voice cheerfully ticks off all the possible lab tests I could consider: prenatal screening with a non-invasive blood test that could inform expectant parents of any chromosomal abnormalities at ten weeks, an eight year risk analysis for diabetes, a comprehensive heart health profile. I wonder about lab test results in a world of 5G interconnectivity. Who will have access to what about me in the future? Who does already?

Eight minutes in, a woman takes my call. She asks for the invoice number, my name, address, insurance policy ID, group ID (name, rank, serial number). I answer. She goes silent. The wind rushes outside the kitchen windows. She tells me to disregard the invoices and that the claims will be resubmitted. I hang up, finish what’s left of my oatmeal, rip the invoices in half and text Al the good news.

I think about the bits of data shooting from my fingers through the Internet to his phone. I think about the digital footprint of this blog, drifting forever in cyberspace. I think about a video clip of three horses galloping away from a swirling wind turbine, seconds before it disintegrates in a powerful storm. As I type, the evergreen boughs of the yew beyond my office window chop and sway in the rushing wind.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.

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Filed Under: Body, Hearing, Mind, Sight, Touch Tagged With: body-mind balance, finger ulcers, meditation and disease management, mindfulness, stress

Beta Test

Evelyn Herwitz · June 2, 2015 · Leave a Comment

This summer, I’m in charge of Emily’s fish. He’s a cobalt blue Beta named Stitch, and he lives in a large glass bowl on our living room mantel, our little guest while Em’s away at an internship for her master’s degree program.

So far, I’ve succeeding in keeping him alive. This is remarkable, because when our girls were in grade school and went through a phase of having Betas (notice the plural), at least three of them died in fairly rapid succession.

This may have been due to the fact that we kept the fish bowl on top of the shelving that held our TV, and the water could have overheated. Or, more likely, it may have been due to the fact that I tried to clean the bowl and change the water every so often and probably shocked the poor fish to death.

This time, all I have to do is give Stitch two pellets of food every morning and add a little distilled water to his tank when the level drops by about an inch. Easy enough.

It took me a few tries to figure out how best to give him the pellets. They are very tiny, and I can’t grasp them with my fingers. So I scoop them out of their bag with a plastic spoon. Then I drop them into the water, being very careful not to drop the spoon in the water, too. That would not go over well.

For Stitch, this is the highlight of his day. As soon as I walk over to his tank and say hello (yes, I do talk to him), he swims over and jiggles around, fluttering his translucent blue flippers in what I can only describe as great fishy excitement. He doesn’t always find the pellets right away, so I tap the bowl in the right direction to give him a hint. Then he gulps them down. And swims back to see if I’m going to give him any more.

At this point, I say good bye and walk away, so as not to raise his expectations that there’s more food to come.

Really, it’s amazing how much you can commune with a fish.

I wonder what he’s thinking in his little Beta brain. Clearly, he’s learned how to recognize me, even if he doesn’t have a clue who or what I am, other than his source of food. I wonder if he hears the music on the stereo or the radio. Or our voices when Al and I are talking.

Mostly, he just floats gracefully around in his bowl, up and down, around and around. Sometimes he sleeps. Sometimes he zig zags. Sometimes he flutters. He seems content. Nothing to do, but just be.

I almost forgot to feed him one day last week—trying to do too much in too little time, juggling a lot of projects and family events and other responsibilities. I’m traveling on business again later this week, and I’ve been pushing to finish one thing and another before I go away overnight.

I’ll be sure to say goodbye to our grandfish before I leave (Al’s in charge while I’m away). And try to remember, in the midst of all my busyness, what Stitch does so well—just be.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

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Filed Under: Mind, Sight, Touch Tagged With: hands, meditation and disease management, mindfulness, resilience

Wake-Up Call

Evelyn Herwitz · December 31, 2013 · 10 Comments

I tried an experiment this morning: Eat a bowl of oatmeal and craisins without doing anything else—no writing, no reading, no New York Times crossword puzzle, no checking email or Facebook or surfing the web on my iPhone, no planning the week’s menus or my work schedule. Just focus on my breakfast.

This proved a challenge. I only partially succeeded. (As soon as I realized I had the lead for this blog post, of course, I had to take a picture of my cereal bowl and tea and the little meditation bowl that a friend gave Al for the holidays). But for a few minutes, I was able to focus, and noticed several things:

  • I love our kitchen. We bought our house in part because of the skylit space over our kitchen table and the view of the rock garden out back. It’s very soothing.
  • I taste more when I’m paying attention to my food. So often I’m thinking of a million other things when I eat that I’m surprised when I’m finished. This was a nice, warming breakfast.
  • There are annoying new floaters in my right eye that have been bugging me for over a week, now—really, sometimes I think I see a bug and it’s a floater.
  • I have to consciously check myself from going off into my head and starting to compose—this blog, a worry-story about what might go wrong today, a trail of images about my long to-do list.

I will try this breakfast meditation again, perhaps not every morning (hard to break the habits of an inveterate multi-tasker), but at least two mornings a week. It’s part of my ongoing effort to be more present in the moment.

My lack of presence was stunningly obvious one evening last week when I was driving home from Boston with a plan to stop at the supermarket. I turned onto the correct street, but then, instead of going to the store, ended up at the gas station right before the store. My tank was three-quarters full. I had no need for gas. But I didn’t realize my error until I started pumping.

I made it to the market afterward and picked up the correct groceries. But I was a bit shaken by how I’d been just too absorbed in too many concerns taking up too much space in my head to go directly there, in the first place. Maybe it’s aging. Maybe I need more sleep. Maybe it’s just one of those silly things that happens sometimes, when you go on automatic pilot without realizing it.

But it’s also the second time in a week that I’ve made a similar error, intending to do an errand at one store and landing at another, nearby, because I was thinking too much about other things and not paying attention to where I was going.

Conclusion: As 2014 arrives, my big goal for the year is to stay more in the present, less in my head, where anxieties—about health, family, finances, safety, what the future might hold—suck up more energy and effort than they are worth, especially since 95 percent of the stuff I conjure up never happens, anyway.

One of the pitfalls of being a storyteller. Better to pour it all into essays or fiction when I’m safely at my computer and not behind the wheel.

For you, dear reader, I hope you avoid your own wrong turns this coming year. May your 2014 bring you inner peace, good health and healing, fulfillment and prosperity, and breakfasts worth savoring

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

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Busy-ness

Evelyn Herwitz · April 2, 2013 · 2 Comments

When did being busy become the equivalent of being virtuous?

Nearly every day, I find myself in some kind of conversation about how busy we are—working, caring for family, solving one kind of problem or another. Especially among women, how well you can multi-task, juggling a job, childcare, other family duties, care for aging parents, errands, entertaining, housework, you-name-it, has become the way we promote ourselves and size each other up. The busier you are, the more ably you handle more stuff, the better. You can complain about being too busy, but there is always pride beneath the gripe. Of course, if you do all of this while managing your own health challenges, you score extra points in the Superwoman contest.

It drives me crazy.

Even as I let myself get sucked into it.

I can multi-task with the best. I run my own consulting business and our home. For years I did extensive volunteer work on top of commuting more than an hour each way to a full-time job. I raised two daughters while running a college marketing department, taking on community leadership roles and managing my parents’ needs for help as their health deteriorated. I’m the go-to mom when my adult daughters ask for advice or support with decisions big and small. All while doing my best to keep myself as healthy and fit as possible with scleroderma.

There. See? I’m busy, too.

But I want to slow down. In fact, I believe my long-term health depends on it. Working for myself these past three years, setting my own agenda, ditching that exhausting commute, working with clients that I enjoy—all of this helps. I no longer do evening meetings and now use my afterwork hours for exercise or creative hobbies that recharge my batteries. I choose volunteer commitments selectively, focusing on work that’s uplifting, rather than spreading myself too thin over projects with stressful politics.

Even still, I feel out of balance. There’s that voice in my head, urging me to be productive, to not waste time. Idle hands are the devil’s playthings and all that. Our culture’s Calvinist undercurrent runs deep.

And there’s another piece. When I’m still, when I’m not busy doing, making, fixing, there are other thoughts that bubble up—worries about my health, all the what-ifs. What if my scleroderma gets a lot worse? What if something happens to Al? What if he loses his job and our health insurance? On and on.

Healthy or not, we all have these worries. But chronic disease brings an added sense of vulnerability. Easy to avoid it if you keep so busy that the disturbing thoughts can’t surface.

One answer is meditating. Mindfulness practice forces you to sit still, let all those thoughts float past as you continually bring your attention to the present moment—which, 99.9 percent of the time, is actually safe, peaceful and just, well, there.

I try to do this every morning. I try to sit still and breathe. I’m not terribly good at it, because I want to get going with the day. If I can sit for five minutes, I’m doing well.

Occasionally I join a drop-in group on Monday afternoons, led by a gifted friend who is a seasoned mindfulness teacher, and manage to meditate for a half-hour. Afterward, I usually feel refreshed and reminded of the tremendous value of just being in the present moment. And tell myself I need to refocus my day on what really matters, rather than all those to-do lists.

On my desk, next to my iMac, I keep a small pink sticky note with a quote by Marlene Dietrich, paraphrasing her longtime love, Ernest Hemingway:

“Don’t do what you sincerely don’t want to do. Never confuse movement with action.”

Indeed.

Photo Credit: Tie Guy II via Compfight cc

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

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Get a Grip

Evelyn Herwitz · July 10, 2012 · Leave a Comment

Last week, a small, black dot appeared in my right eye. No matter which way I looked, the dot moved with my eye, right in my line of sight. I figured it was a floater, one of those annoying little bits of vitreous gel that break away from your retina as you age, liquify and cast a shadow inside your eye. Nothing to worry about.

But it was in the way when I tried to read. And I’d never had one before, and its sudden appearance was unnerving. So, after putting up with it for a few days, I did some research and realized that this sudden onset required a check-up to be sure I wasn’t at risk for a retinal tear.

Of course, because I waited until later in the week, my optometrist was away for the Fourth of July weekend. It never fails that something odd and worrysome happens to me when it’s Friday night or a holiday.

Fortunately, I was able to get an appointment with another good eye doctor for late Friday afternoon, and he did a thorough check of my eyes from every angle. And, of course, the little dot had vanished. Just like that weird clicking noise in your engine that goes silent as soon as you bring in your car for a service check.

But he took me seriously, anyway, diagnosed it as an “incipient vitreous detachment” and told me to have a follow-up with my own optometrist in a month. And, he warned, if you see any more floaters, you need to be checked right away, because the vitreous gel could be tugging at the retina around the optic nerve and cause a tear. If you have blurred vision, see any sparks of light or have pain, you need to be seen immediately. The longer you wait, the greater the risk of permanent vision loss.

Necessary advice, but not great words for the anxiety-prone. So, naturally, on Sunday, I started noticing more floaters in my right eye. Not solid black ones, like the unwanted visitor that appeared last week, but pale, ringlike apparitions swimming around whenever I looked at the sky or a page in a book or my computer screen—like the amoebae you see in a drop of water under a microscope in high school biology, ghostlike, barely visible, until you know what to look for.

I thought, they’ve been here all along, and you’re just noticing them because you’re paying closer attention.

I thought, they’re new since last week and you’re going to have a retinal tear when you’re away on vacation.

I thought, this is ridiculous.

I thought, now you know what to blog about this week.

I thought, call your optometrist first thing Monday morning.

I took Ginger for a walk and made a nice summer dinner of gazpacho and a broccoli-rice-chickpea-carrot salad, with gorgonzola cheese and craisins, to take my mind off my eye.

Just as I finished cooking and turned to put the salad in the refrigerator, the bowl slipped from my grasp. Half the salad spilled on the floor. I dropped the f-bomb about a dozen times, then decided that the floor was clean enough, follow the 10-second rule of contact, the vinegar will kill any germs, and quickly scooped up as much as I could, put it back in the bowl and invited Ginger to lick up the rest. Which she did, with enthusiasm.

My meditation teacher says the one thing we can count on is that everything changes. I can’t keep the floaters from appearing in my eye. I can’t always keep a grip on a bowl full of food. I might have more vision problems on our Maine island vacation. It’s scary. Scleroderma is scary. Life is scary.

All I can do is give myself a hug, take a deep breath, pay attention, and deal.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

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