Living with Scleroderma

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Memorabilia

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A stack of 1960s Mad Magazines, flame and turquoise and mustard Fiestaware, a fake leopard fur coat. A quarter-size violin in a black cardboard case.

Rainbow mounds of beads, dishes of mother-of-pearl belt buckles, baskets of wooden spools, some with thread still wound. Pitchforks, spades, combat helmets, buoys and cowboy boots. A life-size leather horse.

Shelves of Steiff stuffed animals that remind me of the bristle-haired terrier and goldfish I used to have on my bed as a child. A cancelled Pepsi Cola Bottling Company paycheck for 74 dollars and change. A curled black-and-white portrait of a seated, laughing baby, staring brightly into the camera, with a neat cursive inscription on the back: “Helen or me. Keep.”

Al and I wander through dozens of booths on the last day of the July Brimfield Antique Fair, as exhibitors pack up their goods. The afternoon is humid, 90 degrees once again, and we stroll and poke without buying. Occasionally we ask how much, but the price is always too high and we don’t have the energy to bargain.

One table is stacked with milky green glass dishes that match some of our Passover set, passed down from Al’s grandmother to his mother to us. “Are we missing anything?” I ask as I finger a small 10 cent bowl. “No,” he says, rolling his eyes.

Al inquires about the price of a Red Sox pennant, similar to one he has in our basement. “Twenty-five dollars,” says the seller.

I open a wooden trunk that reminds me how I shipped my bulky clothes and desk supplies and a senior prom portrait of my boyfriend and me to college in a black-and-brass trunk that got misplaced. It took nearly a week to locate it. I missed the portrait the most. We broke up that Thanksgiving.

We walk by a drill press, a radial saw, Sears power tools like the ones that filled my father’s basement workshop. There are tables laden with steel chests that contain stacks of shallow drawers. My father used to store his screws and nuts and bolts by size, neatly labeled, this way. I pull open one of the drawers. Empty.

Al sorts through a bin of hardcover books. I imagine the Louise-Nevelson-like sculptures that could be made from keys and doorknobs and letterpress trays. We admire an old leather barber chair.

Sharing a fresh squeezed lemonade, we head back to our car, drained by the heat, glad our energy timed out in synch, proud we resisted buying any of the same kind of junk we don’t need more of, pleased just to point and nudge each other when we discovered something odd or ironic or familiar.

As I drive us back home on the Mass Pike, I wonder: What will I leave behind that might find its way onto a flea market table, picked over, bargained for, set back because the price is too high?

And I wonder: Whatever happened to Helen and her sister, with the beautiful cursive script?

A zinc bathtub, a white lace bridal gown with crystal beading, a mannequin’s arm. A black-maned rocking horse with a red saddle.

A hand-painted Chinese checker board, a vinyl Barbie case, green glass Coca Cola bottles. A tin milk cooler.

Cobalt champagne glasses, a silver flute nested in blue velvet, a neon orange life preserver. A wheel of fortune.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Backyard Rambles

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A great vacation lifts you out of yourself into a new world that enables you to reflect on your present state of being, gain perspective, inspiration.

And it doesn’t require extensive travel or expense. Last week, Al and I took time off for day-trips to places we’d never been right here in Massachusetts.

This strategy conserved both money and energy. When we’d had enough for the day, we just drove home. We got a relaxing mental break from work without the physical strain of travel—a significant plus for me.

Our drives took us north to Royalston, just shy of the New Hampshire border, for hiking in beautiful forests managed by The Trustees of Reservations; southeast to Brockton’s Fuller Craft Museum, to view exquisite blacksmith art and glassworks; east to Concord for a great exhibit of Annie Leibovitz photos at the Concord Museum, a pilgrimage to the graves of Thoreau, Emerson and Alcott, a view of the Revolutionary battleground at the North Bridge and a trek along Walden Pond; and west to Amherst and the Eric Carle Museum of Picture Book Art exhibit of original illustrations by Ezra Jack Keats (The Snowy Day), as well as a stop at the National Yiddish Book Center, where we watched actors rehearse and sort out the psychological motivations of characters in a translated play by David Pinski.

A rich week. I’m still processing. . . .

Scrambling over roots and boulders alongside Spirit Falls in Royalston, relieved that I could keep up with Al, I savored the music of water slipping over rocks (too dry this summer for much more). If a brook trickles in the forest and nobody hears, does it make a sound?

At the Fuller Craft Museum, marveling over swirled wrought iron tables and whimsical glass lamp sculptures, playing with rag weaving and admiring bowls turned from tree stumps, I envied those gifted, strong hands that made art of the everyday, every day.

Viewing the powerful photos in Annie Leibovitz’s Pilgrimage exhibit at the Concord Museum, I caught my breath before an image of the gloves that Abraham Lincoln wore the night he was assassinated at Ford’s Theatre—index finger and thumb stained by rust-colored blood.

At the headstones of Henry, Ralph and Louisa May, I photographed still lives of thank-you notes, postcards, stones, pinecones, leaves, and clusters of pencils and pens. One note thanked Emerson for saving his life. Another quoted “Self-Reliance”: “To be great is to be misunderstood.”

As rain pummeled the Eric Carle Museum, I read how Ezra Jack Keats broke the color barrier in children’s book illustrations in the ‘60s—a teacher wrote him that, after she read The Snowy Day to her class, African American students began to draw self-portraits with brown crayons instead of pink—and rejoiced in the power of art to change lives.

Sunday night, not wanting to let go of the week’s magic, I found essays by Thoreau and Emerson. Two quotes resonate:

This world is a place of business. What an infinite bustle! I am awakened almost every night by the panting of the locomotive. It interrupts my dreams. There is no sabbath. It would be glorious to see mankind at leisure for once. It is nothing but work, work, work.
—Henry David Thoreau, “Life Without Principle”

Insist on yourself; never imitate. Your own gift you can present every moment with the cumulative force of a whole life’s cultivation; but of the adopted talent of another, you have only an extemporaneous, half possession. That which each can do best, none but his Maker can teach him. No man yet knows what it is, nor can, till that person has exhibited it.
—Ralph Waldo Emerson, “Self-Reliance”

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Blue Sea Glass

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How is it that vacations always end too soon? Just 24 hours ago, we were arriving at the ferry dock in Portland, Maine, back from a week on a lovely, remote island in Casco Bay. The sky was periwinkle, the breeze stiff. As we’d sailed to the mainland, our captain pointed out a half-dozen porpoise riding the tide, hunting fish. I never was quick enough to glimpse them, but I heard one cackling as it dived over the waves.

For eight days, Al and I slept in, took walks every afternoon and went to the beach late, when the sun wasn’t searing hot. We read and I wrote and sketched. We sat for hours watching the terns fly high over the water, then nosedive into the waves, snag minnows and pop back into the air, gulping their silvery catch as they flapped into the headwind to reconnoiter.

And we collected sea glass. Mounds of it. Mostly different shades of white with a tint of lemon or lime, a tinge of aqua, a hint of lilac; also beer bottle browns and greens.

I’ve been gathering sea glass since our now-grown daughters were little and we would scour the beach, holding hands, singing and skipping over surf. Finding even one piece would be cause for a little dance. Here, though, sea glass was bountiful. So the search was on for a sea gluncker’s treasure, cobalt blue.

From our first trip to the beach, the day we arrived, I was hunting for blue sea glass. A great meditation, especially since I was sick with a horrid cold when we left home, hacking and sneezing. And totally pissed off, because, of course, you’re not supposed to be sick on vacation, and I caught it from Al, who had come home sick the week before and missed several days of work, as a result. Plus, after my recent vitreous detachment in my right eye, my sight was full of floaters—so many that when I gazed out at sea, the sky looked like it was filled with space trash.

Grumble, grumble, cough, cough, grumble, grumble. I walked the beach, focused on each stone and shell in my path. Will my vision ever clear? What if I get a retinal detachment? How can I get to the mainland fast enough?  I picked up a white stone shaped like a tiny ice cube and rolled it between my fingers. Why didn’t he wash his hands more carefully? Why was I so stupid to use his computer and not wash my hands after? I don’t want to be sick all week! We wait a whole year for this trip, and now what?

My breathing was so compromised that by Monday morning I woke up and decided that if I was still that sick by Wednesday, I was going home. I told Al, insisting that he stay and I’d pick him up on Sunday. He said he’d come with me, but I really didn’t want to spoil his week. We talked about future vacation plans and how I’ve realized, as my health gets more complex, I need better access to medical facilities, just for peace of mind. He agreed.

With that reassurance, I redoubled my efforts to make the most of the trip, breathed in healing sea air and kept searching for blue sea glass. By Wednesday I was doing much better, well enough to suggest a long walk to see an exhibit of paintings by local artists at the island’s historical museum. We headed out along one of the two main roads, which had just been repaved the day before. And stepped on warm macadam. Which glommed onto the bottom of my good walking sandals.

Grumble, grumble, cough, grumble, grumble. These are my favorite summer shoes! They support my crazy feet! What if I’ve ruined them? I kvetched as I walked along the roadside, trying not to step on any more tar and, instead, packed grass and dirt into the guck. Al said we could stop at the ice cream shack. We found some sharp rocks, and he was able to carve off most of the crud from the soles. When we got back to our rented house, he removed the rest with a putty knife and a nail. Then we went to the beach, Al’s pick.

This beach was next to the island marina. Al wanted to park our chairs with a good view of the moored boats. I wanted to walk a bit farther, but I agreed to his plan. After all, he’d rescued my sandals. As I set down my beach chair, I noticed a speck of cobalt in the sand, inches from the chair’s aluminum footing. It was a chip of blue sea glass, no bigger than the nail on my pinky.

That was the only piece we found on the trip. We walked miles of beaches, clambered over countless boulders, waded and swam in the ocean and trekked across sandbars at low tide. My cold waned and I caught up on my sleep. I discovered that the floaters are less visible when I look at multicolored and darker surroundings, and when I take off my glasses. My finger ulcers improved in the warm sun. I got a great tan. Time slowed.

Now, back home, having kept a morning business meeting, plowed through hundreds of emails and sat at the computer all afternoon, I wish it didn’t seem so long ago, already, that we were walking the beach. Later, I’ll layer this year’s sea gluncking finds to top off a jar on my bureau. And be sure to place the chip of blue where I can see it.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

You Know It’s Time for Vacation When . . .

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  • Your brain turns to sludge at the thought of starting a new project.
  • You would rather pet your dog than write another blog post.
  • You don’t care if your desk is a disaster area and how much more efficient you could be if you just cleared it off.
  • You begin drafting your “out of office” message a week before you’re out of the office.
  • You devote your creative problem-solving skills to convincing the family that it would be nice to go out to dinner for pizza instead of cooking something nutritious.
  • You find a dozen different fascinating questions to research online that have nothing to do with what’s left on your to-do list.
  • You stop adding items to your to-do list because you don’t want to do any of them.
  • Your body starts malfunctioning in all sorts of strange ways just days before you’re scheduled to leave town, causing you to need yet one more doctor’s appointment.
  • You can’t stand the idea of yet one more doctor’s appointment and try to talk yourself out of your symptoms.
  • You go to the doctor’s office after crying about your symptoms to your spouse and find out everything is stress-related and it’s time for vacation.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.