Living with Scleroderma

Reflections on the Messy Complexity of Chronicity

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Backyard Rambles

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A great vacation lifts you out of yourself into a new world that enables you to reflect on your present state of being, gain perspective, inspiration.

And it doesn’t require extensive travel or expense. Last week, Al and I took time off for day-trips to places we’d never been right here in Massachusetts.

This strategy conserved both money and energy. When we’d had enough for the day, we just drove home. We got a relaxing mental break from work without the physical strain of travel—a significant plus for me.

Our drives took us north to Royalston, just shy of the New Hampshire border, for hiking in beautiful forests managed by The Trustees of Reservations; southeast to Brockton’s Fuller Craft Museum, to view exquisite blacksmith art and glassworks; east to Concord for a great exhibit of Annie Leibovitz photos at the Concord Museum, a pilgrimage to the graves of Thoreau, Emerson and Alcott, a view of the Revolutionary battleground at the North Bridge and a trek along Walden Pond; and west to Amherst and the Eric Carle Museum of Picture Book Art exhibit of original illustrations by Ezra Jack Keats (The Snowy Day), as well as a stop at the National Yiddish Book Center, where we watched actors rehearse and sort out the psychological motivations of characters in a translated play by David Pinski.

A rich week. I’m still processing. . . .

Scrambling over roots and boulders alongside Spirit Falls in Royalston, relieved that I could keep up with Al, I savored the music of water slipping over rocks (too dry this summer for much more). If a brook trickles in the forest and nobody hears, does it make a sound?

At the Fuller Craft Museum, marveling over swirled wrought iron tables and whimsical glass lamp sculptures, playing with rag weaving and admiring bowls turned from tree stumps, I envied those gifted, strong hands that made art of the everyday, every day.

Viewing the powerful photos in Annie Leibovitz’s Pilgrimage exhibit at the Concord Museum, I caught my breath before an image of the gloves that Abraham Lincoln wore the night he was assassinated at Ford’s Theatre—index finger and thumb stained by rust-colored blood.

At the headstones of Henry, Ralph and Louisa May, I photographed still lives of thank-you notes, postcards, stones, pinecones, leaves, and clusters of pencils and pens. One note thanked Emerson for saving his life. Another quoted “Self-Reliance”: “To be great is to be misunderstood.”

As rain pummeled the Eric Carle Museum, I read how Ezra Jack Keats broke the color barrier in children’s book illustrations in the ‘60s—a teacher wrote him that, after she read The Snowy Day to her class, African American students began to draw self-portraits with brown crayons instead of pink—and rejoiced in the power of art to change lives.

Sunday night, not wanting to let go of the week’s magic, I found essays by Thoreau and Emerson. Two quotes resonate:

This world is a place of business. What an infinite bustle! I am awakened almost every night by the panting of the locomotive. It interrupts my dreams. There is no sabbath. It would be glorious to see mankind at leisure for once. It is nothing but work, work, work.
—Henry David Thoreau, “Life Without Principle”

Insist on yourself; never imitate. Your own gift you can present every moment with the cumulative force of a whole life’s cultivation; but of the adopted talent of another, you have only an extemporaneous, half possession. That which each can do best, none but his Maker can teach him. No man yet knows what it is, nor can, till that person has exhibited it.
—Ralph Waldo Emerson, “Self-Reliance”

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Blue Sea Glass

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How is it that vacations always end too soon? Just 24 hours ago, we were arriving at the ferry dock in Portland, Maine, back from a week on a lovely, remote island in Casco Bay. The sky was periwinkle, the breeze stiff. As we’d sailed to the mainland, our captain pointed out a half-dozen porpoise riding the tide, hunting fish. I never was quick enough to glimpse them, but I heard one cackling as it dived over the waves.

For eight days, Al and I slept in, took walks every afternoon and went to the beach late, when the sun wasn’t searing hot. We read and I wrote and sketched. We sat for hours watching the terns fly high over the water, then nosedive into the waves, snag minnows and pop back into the air, gulping their silvery catch as they flapped into the headwind to reconnoiter.

And we collected sea glass. Mounds of it. Mostly different shades of white with a tint of lemon or lime, a tinge of aqua, a hint of lilac; also beer bottle browns and greens.

I’ve been gathering sea glass since our now-grown daughters were little and we would scour the beach, holding hands, singing and skipping over surf. Finding even one piece would be cause for a little dance. Here, though, sea glass was bountiful. So the search was on for a sea gluncker’s treasure, cobalt blue.

From our first trip to the beach, the day we arrived, I was hunting for blue sea glass. A great meditation, especially since I was sick with a horrid cold when we left home, hacking and sneezing. And totally pissed off, because, of course, you’re not supposed to be sick on vacation, and I caught it from Al, who had come home sick the week before and missed several days of work, as a result. Plus, after my recent vitreous detachment in my right eye, my sight was full of floaters—so many that when I gazed out at sea, the sky looked like it was filled with space trash.

Grumble, grumble, cough, cough, grumble, grumble. I walked the beach, focused on each stone and shell in my path. Will my vision ever clear? What if I get a retinal detachment? How can I get to the mainland fast enough?  I picked up a white stone shaped like a tiny ice cube and rolled it between my fingers. Why didn’t he wash his hands more carefully? Why was I so stupid to use his computer and not wash my hands after? I don’t want to be sick all week! We wait a whole year for this trip, and now what?

My breathing was so compromised that by Monday morning I woke up and decided that if I was still that sick by Wednesday, I was going home. I told Al, insisting that he stay and I’d pick him up on Sunday. He said he’d come with me, but I really didn’t want to spoil his week. We talked about future vacation plans and how I’ve realized, as my health gets more complex, I need better access to medical facilities, just for peace of mind. He agreed.

With that reassurance, I redoubled my efforts to make the most of the trip, breathed in healing sea air and kept searching for blue sea glass. By Wednesday I was doing much better, well enough to suggest a long walk to see an exhibit of paintings by local artists at the island’s historical museum. We headed out along one of the two main roads, which had just been repaved the day before. And stepped on warm macadam. Which glommed onto the bottom of my good walking sandals.

Grumble, grumble, cough, grumble, grumble. These are my favorite summer shoes! They support my crazy feet! What if I’ve ruined them? I kvetched as I walked along the roadside, trying not to step on any more tar and, instead, packed grass and dirt into the guck. Al said we could stop at the ice cream shack. We found some sharp rocks, and he was able to carve off most of the crud from the soles. When we got back to our rented house, he removed the rest with a putty knife and a nail. Then we went to the beach, Al’s pick.

This beach was next to the island marina. Al wanted to park our chairs with a good view of the moored boats. I wanted to walk a bit farther, but I agreed to his plan. After all, he’d rescued my sandals. As I set down my beach chair, I noticed a speck of cobalt in the sand, inches from the chair’s aluminum footing. It was a chip of blue sea glass, no bigger than the nail on my pinky.

That was the only piece we found on the trip. We walked miles of beaches, clambered over countless boulders, waded and swam in the ocean and trekked across sandbars at low tide. My cold waned and I caught up on my sleep. I discovered that the floaters are less visible when I look at multicolored and darker surroundings, and when I take off my glasses. My finger ulcers improved in the warm sun. I got a great tan. Time slowed.

Now, back home, having kept a morning business meeting, plowed through hundreds of emails and sat at the computer all afternoon, I wish it didn’t seem so long ago, already, that we were walking the beach. Later, I’ll layer this year’s sea gluncking finds to top off a jar on my bureau. And be sure to place the chip of blue where I can see it.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Get a Grip

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Last week, a small, black dot appeared in my right eye. No matter which way I looked, the dot moved with my eye, right in my line of sight. I figured it was a floater, one of those annoying little bits of vitreous gel that break away from your retina as you age, liquify and cast a shadow inside your eye. Nothing to worry about.

But it was in the way when I tried to read. And I’d never had one before, and its sudden appearance was unnerving. So, after putting up with it for a few days, I did some research and realized that this sudden onset required a check-up to be sure I wasn’t at risk for a retinal tear.

Of course, because I waited until later in the week, my optometrist was away for the Fourth of July weekend. It never fails that something odd and worrysome happens to me when it’s Friday night or a holiday.

Fortunately, I was able to get an appointment with another good eye doctor for late Friday afternoon, and he did a thorough check of my eyes from every angle. And, of course, the little dot had vanished. Just like that weird clicking noise in your engine that goes silent as soon as you bring in your car for a service check.

But he took me seriously, anyway, diagnosed it as an “incipient vitreous detachment” and told me to have a follow-up with my own optometrist in a month. And, he warned, if you see any more floaters, you need to be checked right away, because the vitreous gel could be tugging at the retina around the optic nerve and cause a tear. If you have blurred vision, see any sparks of light or have pain, you need to be seen immediately. The longer you wait, the greater the risk of permanent vision loss.

Necessary advice, but not great words for the anxiety-prone. So, naturally, on Sunday, I started noticing more floaters in my right eye. Not solid black ones, like the unwanted visitor that appeared last week, but pale, ringlike apparitions swimming around whenever I looked at the sky or a page in a book or my computer screen—like the amoebae you see in a drop of water under a microscope in high school biology, ghostlike, barely visible, until you know what to look for.

I thought, they’ve been here all along, and you’re just noticing them because you’re paying closer attention.

I thought, they’re new since last week and you’re going to have a retinal tear when you’re away on vacation.

I thought, this is ridiculous.

I thought, now you know what to blog about this week.

I thought, call your optometrist first thing Monday morning.

I took Ginger for a walk and made a nice summer dinner of gazpacho and a broccoli-rice-chickpea-carrot salad, with gorgonzola cheese and craisins, to take my mind off my eye.

Just as I finished cooking and turned to put the salad in the refrigerator, the bowl slipped from my grasp. Half the salad spilled on the floor. I dropped the f-bomb about a dozen times, then decided that the floor was clean enough, follow the 10-second rule of contact, the vinegar will kill any germs, and quickly scooped up as much as I could, put it back in the bowl and invited Ginger to lick up the rest. Which she did, with enthusiasm.

My meditation teacher says the one thing we can count on is that everything changes. I can’t keep the floaters from appearing in my eye. I can’t always keep a grip on a bowl full of food. I might have more vision problems on our Maine island vacation. It’s scary. Scleroderma is scary. Life is scary.

All I can do is give myself a hug, take a deep breath, pay attention, and deal.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Zen and the Art of Saori Weaving

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Back and forth, back and forth, I slide the shuttle that holds the bobbin that’s wound with the thread that creates the weft that fills the warp that blends into fabric I weave by hand, to make up my scarf as I go.

Tonight is my fourth Saori weaving lesson. So far, I’ve learned how to wind my warp (the long, vertical threads that define the width and lengthwise pattern for my scarf), thread one end of the warp through the reed (the metal comb that holds each thread in place, in the order I define), thread the warp tails through the heddle (two rows of wire guides that divide the warp, so one set of alternating threads moves up while the other moves down), wind a bobbin with weft fiber, and pass the weft shuttle horizontally through the warp, shifting the heddle with foot peddles and beating the weft into place. I’ve also learned how to change weft bobbins, how to pick up a second weft color freestyle and how to add “treasures”—slubs of fiber inserted at random for color accents.

It sounds complicated, but it’s actually quite intuitive, once you get the feel of it. And feeling is what Saori weaving is all about.

This modern Japanese weaving method, created by Misao Jo in the late ‘60s, nurtures individual expression and creativity. Saori looms are simpler to thread and manipulate than traditional looms, and they have adaptive attachments to facilitate weavers with disabilities.

Last week, my instructor, Mihoko, added a narrow shelf to my loom so that I could slide my wooden shuttle back and forth without having to hold it—an advantage when my hands get tired. I use a small pair of tweezers that I always carry to manipulate threads in-between the warp. Mihoko helps with knot-tying and other tasks that I find too difficult. The loom is easy to understand, and the parts take little pressure to maneuver. Nothing hurts.

But what I like the most about this new-found art form is the way you can do just about anything with the fibers, within the constraints of interlocking threads. You can leave gaps in the warp or the weft to create an airy pattern. You can interlace new colors and tufts of fiber or cloth or whatever other kind of material you want, so long as the warp is strong enough. You can break a warp thread—by accident or intent—and weave knotted tails of your repaired warp right into the piece.

Mistakes, imperfections—these are what make the fabric personal, unique and fascinating. Accepting and encouraging exploration and individual vision is the art form’s core philosophy. In Saori weaving, flaws don’t exist.

It’s a welcome break from my daily worries about how I’m going to balance my writing and health and all the necessary hard work of building a consulting practice. And a great reminder of the value of taking risks, making mistakes, and staying clear and focused about what’s important.

Tonight, when I pick up where I left off last week, I’m going to shift the weft from dusty roses to slate blues. I’m going to play more with free-style design and whatever else occurs to me in the moment. When I weave, I’m totally focused on what’s right in front of me, figuring it out as I pass the shuttle and shift the heddle. I can only understand the pattern as I make it happen. And I’m doing it with my own two hands.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

What Did You Do to Your Hands?

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Scene One:
I’m buying a slice of pizza at a luncheonette across from Boston Medical Center before I drive back home from an appointment. As I fumble with my wallet, the middle-aged man behind the counter notices my five bandaged fingers.

“What did you do to yourself?” he asks.

“Oh, I get ulcers,” I say, giving my standard explanation.

“Does that hurt?”

“Sometimes, if they get infected.”

He nods and hands me my change.

 


Scene Two:
I’m taking my first Saori class to learn this fascinating Japanese weaving method that encourages free-form creativity and uses looms that accommodate people with disabilities. The young son of one of my new classmates comes up to greet me. He loves to run around and say a loud Hi to everyone when he’s not weaving wonderful fabric. I shake his hand, and he pulls back. Later, I offer him my hand again. My Raynaud’s has kicked in, and my palm is a mix of indigo and fuchsia from haphazard blood flow. He stares and says No, frowning and shaking his head as he steps away. I believe I’ve frightened him.

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June is national Scleroderma Awareness Month. It’s the month for walkathons to raise money for research, ramped-up efforts to publicize scleroderma’s devastating impact and continued lobbying for NIH funding of scleroderma research to find a cure.

All of this is important, focused work. But I wonder. How do you really get anyone to care about one more way that our bodies fail us, unless they have a vested interest? This time of year, there’s a race or walkathon or bike-athon for some disease every weekend, every cause has its own colored ribbon symbol or rubbery message bracelet, and Congress is still gridlocked over cuts in domestic spending. Not to mention that nobody pays attention to anything in front of them any more, just the alternate reality of their smartphone universe.

As part of its awareness campaign this year, the Scleroderma Foundation has developed a social media strategy to encourage patients to share personal stories about scleroderma and to create a video story collage that they plan to send to Washington lawmakers in the fall. I hope it works. For me, the art of storytelling remains the most viable means of building awareness, a primal way we connect as humans. But it requires a willingness to speak up and a willingness to listen. Neither are easy to come by for a disease like scleroderma.

Before I started writing this blog in January, I had a very hard time talking about my disease. In fact, I’ve been silent about it, for the most part, except when sharing with very close friends and family, for the better part of three decades.

When asked that all-too-common question by curious cashiers (the people most likely to ask, it seems)—What did you do to your hands?—or its variants—Did you cut yourself while cooking? Did you prick your fingers with a sewing needle? Did you stick your hand in a lawnmower?—I used to demure and just say I have sores. Now I say I have ulcers, and if I think the person is genuinely interested, I’ll explain I have scleroderma.

Responses range from compassionate concern to flickering interest in freakishness—the latter, I think, veiling the true reaction so powerfully expressed by the young boy I met in my weaving class: my hands look really strange and scary.

This is the hard truth of scleroderma. It’s rare, it defies easy explanations and it’s disfiguring in a way that others find threatening to their own body image and sense of well being.

It’s hard to talk about. It’s hard to draw attention to yourself, or more attention to yourself, and say, hey, I have this weird disease that makes my hands look like claws and my face like a mask and has screwed up my lungs and digestion and God knows what else.

Honestly, I just want to be known for who I am, not for this disease I live with.

But what I’ve come to understand and am coming to embrace is that scleroderma is a part of who I am. There’s no getting around it. I have this fucking disease, and I’m stuck with it for life. Which is why I’ve begun, finally, to write about it, tell my stories and try to make some sense of it all.

I have no awareness agenda. I am aware, however, that it’s important to get past the shame and embarrassment of living with a disfiguring chronic illness and share this journey with others who want to understand. This blog is my medium for that message. And maybe the next time a stranger asks what I did to my hands, I’ll tell them my real story.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.