In less than a month, 25 days, to be exact, the winter solstice arrives here in the Northern Hemisphere. Which means that in just about two months, even as the sun will be visible about the same lenth of time as it is today, it will seem a little brighter because we’ll be gaining, instead of losing, a few seconds of daylight every day.
I always feel better when we finally reach the first day of winter. Even when it’s cold in January (though that is a relative concept these days) and I have to layer up to keep warm, even as our heating bill balloons, I feel a bit more optimistic, knowing that each day the sun will be shining a bit longer.
But, of course, this is all in my head.
So much of how we experience the world depends on the stories we tell ourselves. They can be empowering. For decades I have told myself that my scleroderma may limit me in certain ways that I need to respect, but it does not define who I am. That story has become my reality, and it’s enabled me to keep going.
But those self narratives, which are often not obvious when deeply entrenched, can also be the source of much pain. When we filter our lived experience through old, worn-out stories that were birthed in childhood, we get mired in doubts and fears and anxiety.
There are a lot of real reasons for doubts and fears and anxieties right now, but I am trying my best not to allow myself to get stuck in old, worn-out narratives that cramp my ability to see clearly how best to respond. It’s hard. Then I remember the natural cycle of the sun, admire November’s sharp shadows, and ground myself, once again. And if the prospect of lengthening days gives me a boost, even if it’s just in my head, I’ll take it.
Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.
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