Living with Scleroderma

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Take Me Out to the Ball Game

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Some people have a knack for winning raffles. Al is one. So when he told me a few weeks ago that he’d won a raffle at work for two Red Sox tickets, I wasn’t really surprised, but I was glad to go. I enjoy a good game of baseball, and I hadn’t been to Fenway Park in far too long.

Fenway_5-8-13Our tickets were for last Wednesday night, Red Sox versus the Minnesota Twins. Tuesday, I checked the forecast: rain, maybe even a thunderstorm. I started fretting. I had spiked yet another infection over the weekend in an ulcer in my left thumb. What if it got too cold and damp for me to sit outside?

Al checked the location of our tickets, and our luck held—we were in the grandstand, under the second deck. Okay, game on! Even if rain caused a delay, I’d have my layers. I put two coats to choose from in the back of the car, brought along my gloves and leg warmers, just in case, and we set out for Boston.

Despite a downpour on the Mass Pike, heavy traffic and a search for ridiculously expensive parking, we made it with about 10 minutes to spare before game time. The sky had lifted, and everyone was in a good mood as we walked past the food and souvenir barkers, through security (a sign of the times, especially after recent events in Boston), and into the ball park.

Our seats, way in the back of the grandstand, were high and dry, and we had a great view along the first base line. Call me corny, but there’s something about that first glimpse of the ballpark—the emerald green outfield, neatly trimmed in a criss-cross plaid; the perfectly groomed clay-red infield; the players in their bright uniforms, warming up; the good-old red neon Coca Cola sign; the inevitable baseball trivia opening award ceremony (it was the 40th anniversary of the American League’s designated hitter rule)—that just made me grin and get a little lump in my throat.

We were both smiling by the end of the first inning. After the Sox pitcher gave up far too many walks, loading the bases for the Twins and enabling them to drive in four runs, our boys redeemed themselves in the bottom half with a run and a grand slam that put us up by one.

But it was all downhill from there. The Twins scored seven more runs in the second inning, and we never caught up. Final score, 15-8, a total rout.

Al was not pleased. But I didn’t really care that much, even though I would have preferred a better contest. I was having too much fun watching the people show—the guys in yellow vee-neck tees and ball caps, climbing up and down the stadium, carrying trays on their heads loaded with nuts, lemonade, hot dogs, water bottles and chowda-chowda-he’ah; the spectators bopping to the music, laughing at themselves on the big screen, trying to start a wave around the stadium, cheering as the ball flew high into the night sky and sighing as it was caught only a few feet from the Green Monster; the between-innings standing ovation for a dozen Rhode Island state troopers in their dress olive green uniforms and Smokey hats, honored for their help after the Marathon bombing; the seventh inning stretch, singing along with the crowd and organ to Take Me Out to the Ball Game.

No one around us got too drunk. People were chatting and texting and just relaxing, despite the lousy game. We had plenty of room and were able to move down to the front section as discouraged fans left early. People danced and pumped their fists to the team’s informal theme song, Neil Diamond’s Sweet Caroline.

Even in the bottom of the ninth, when we were so far behind, die-hard fans (maybe a quarter of the stadium, at this point) were still chanting a sing-song let’s-go-RED-Sox! It started sprinkling just as the game was ending, and the deluge and lightening held off until we were well on our way home.

Hope springs eternal at Fenway. Despite the fact that we lost, despite the threat of rain and my lousy infection, despite the fact that if Al hadn’t won the tickets we wouldn’t have been able to afford to go, despite doping scandals and the commercialization of professional sports and outrageous players’ salaries, there is just something so sweet about a Wednesday night baseball game at an old fashioned ball park that makes everything seem possible again. So good, so good, so good.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Blizzard Warning

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The sun is shining, the snowplows are revving and Al is raking two feet of snow off our kitchen roof as I write. Twenty-four hours after Nemo blasted through New England, our street is a canyon of bright white snowpack amidst four-foot walls of plowed drift. Evergreens bow, weighted by mounds of melting snow, while barren hardwoods stand tall and unbroken, spared accumulation of Nemo’s fine, cold powder.

We went to bed Friday night listening to the wind howling overhead. The snow was blowing sideways near midnight. I watched it from our bedroom window, swirling and streaming in the streetlamp’s golden glow—reassurance that the power was still on.

Around five I awoke, unable to go back to sleep. Overnight, true to predictions, the snow had piled more than two feet high. Al’s car, parked in the drive, was half-buried. Only the  yellow cap of the fire hydrant at the front of our lawn was visible. The wind drove snow at a 45 degree angle. Flakes swirled and danced like millions of down feathers in a colossal pillow fight. And still, the power was on.

Once again, we got lucky. Through Tropical Storm Irene, through the 2011 Halloween Surprise, through Super Storm Sandy, through severe ice storms of recent years, and now through Nemo, we’ve had light, heat and hot water. I’m almost afraid to state it and tempt fate.

This has become my constant fear, whenever I hear news of a major storm’s approach: What if we lose power? With extreme weather the new normal, it is now inevitable that strong winds plus precipitation on a large scale will cause massive power outages that can incapacitate for days and even weeks.

At its peak, Nemo knocked out power for 650,000 families and businesses in Long Island and up the New England coastline; that number was halved by Sunday. Still, losing power in a record-breaking winter storm means waiting in the cold for your turn on the utility company’s long punch list. This is what scares me.

Because of my Raynaud’s and poor circulation in my hands and feet, I simply can’t stay in a cold house for long. Well before the pipes might freeze, I will go numb. We have yet to invest in an emergency generator, but if the extreme weather patterns persist, this may become a necessity in a few years.

I hate thinking this way. I used to love snow as a kid. A storm like Nemo would’ve had me itching to run outside and build a snowman, or flop on my Flexible Flyer to slide down the hill in our back yard. I would’ve played outdoors until the snow turned blue at dusk and I lost all feeling in my fingers and my teeth chattered. The next day I would’ve raced out to snap icicles from the eaves and slurp them like popsicles.

As Nemo kicked into gear on Friday afternoon and I walked Ginger in the mere two inches that had accumulated so far, I watched children a few houses up the street slipping and sliding in the snow. It looked like fun.

I chose to live in New England because I love the full four seasons, including winter’s magical frosting of the landscape. I don’t want only to think of weather in terms of the risks involved. Storms are part of Nature’s cycle.

And yet. Now every significant storm has an ominous edge. There were plenty of online jokes about naming this one Nemo, moniker of the little orange-and-white clown fish of Disney’s animated pantheon. But Nemo was also the name of the vengeful, tormented submarine captain in Jules Verne’s 19th century science fiction novels, Twenty Thousand Leagues Under the Sea and The Mysterious Island.

In Verne’s world, Nemo raged against oppression and British imperialism, sinking war ships and rescuing castaways, living by his own law under the seas. The storms that now confront us are Nature’s payback for humans’ destroying carbon reserves and wasting the planet. What we’re experiencing is just a taste of even more severe weather to come, if we fail to act.

I want to believe that we humans are creative, adaptable and capable not only of coping with the severe consequences of global climate change that we’ve brought upon ourselves—but also able and eventually willing, collectively, to reverse the trend, at least for our grandchildren and future generations.

Home generators may be the immediate response to ensuring personal safety during extreme weather. But if we’re really serious about reversing global climate change, we need to take responsibility for much more than our own homesteads. And we need to start now.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Grieving

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I had a blog post in mind for today, one that has been incubating since the middle of last week, as is usually my practice. But it can wait. After the Friday massacre of so many innocents at Sandy Hook Elementary in Newtown, Conn., it seems self-serving to write about what’s going on in my own little corner of the world.

Since last Friday, as more details have emerged about the shooter and his victims, about the heroism of those who sacrificed their lives trying to save more children, about how many rounds of ammo the shooter had in his cache, about how many more might have been killed if the police hadn’t arrived when they did, I have been struggling, like so many, to grasp fully what happened.

One morning you send your first grader off to school, and then. Gone. Murdered. No, slaughtered with a semiautomatic. Along with dozens of classmates, teachers. The images don’t go together. The pain is too great, too hard, even from a distance. My heart hurts. My prayers of comfort go to all of those who lost loved ones. But that seems inadequate, even still.

As President Obama spoke to the Newtown community Sunday night, you could hear a baby cooing somewhere in the audience. No one shushed it. Perhaps that was the most profound response to the nightmare.

Even in the midst of such tragedy, we are resilient. The will to live and heal and flourish, despite overwhelming loss and pain, is powerful, thank God. More powerful than the will to destroy.

And yet. As the days go on, as we return to our routines, will we maintain the focus and fortitude to ensure that our schools and malls and movie theatres are safe places for our children? Safe for all of us, regardless of social class, race, ethnicity, religion, sexual preference, physical disability, health challenges, whatever sets us apart?

President Obama issued a challenge. We need to change. The time is now. Yes.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

The New Normal

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After Sandy skirted most of Massachusetts and spared us from week-long power outages and cold I couldn’t manage; after the nail-biting climax to the presidential election; after the Nor’easter that turned out to be more of a threat than a reality in these parts; after a major water main broke in Worcester last week, forcing the city to shut off the entire water supply for the night and institute a 48-hour boil order that had me fretting about how to keep my ulcer-ridden fingers free of infection; after all that, when the water was clean and the power was on and the heat was working and the sun was out—I came home to my email last Wednesday to learn that Israel and Hamas-controlled Gaza were shooting rockets at each other and all hell was breaking loose just 44 miles from where our oldest, Mindi, lives in Tel Aviv.

It was about 8:00 p.m. when I sent Mindi a text to find out how she was doing—3:00 a.m. her time. I figured she’d see my message when she woke up for work.

A few minutes later, the phone rang. It was Mindi. She had been out late with friends, talking about the situation, finding out who of her friends in the Israel Defense Force had been called up. She sounded okay, tired but confident, and it was a great relief to hear her voice. We agreed she would check in again on Thursday.

The next day, I was working on a project, trying to concentrate while scanning whatever news I could find about events in Israel. American media were still preoccupied with the Petreaus scandal and election aftermath. I discovered the Times of Israel live blog, which gives excellent up-to-the-minute coverage. I sent Mindi a text about when I would be home to talk.

Around mid-day, the phone rang. I recognized Mindi’s caller ID and answered right away. Long pause on the other end.

“I know you’re going to hear about this, so I wanted to tell you there were sirens in Tel Aviv today,” she said. Her voice was measured, carefully paced so as not to upset her already anxious mother. She explained how she had gone to her apartment’s bomb shelter for a half-hour, no damage from the rocket attack, and she was doing okay. Neither of us knew what to say. I tried to stay calm and absorb her news. We agreed she would continue to let me know if there was another attack. I told her I loved her. We hung up.

I spent the rest of the day trying to understand what was going on. I couldn’t concentrate. I was fighting tears. I skipped my evening dance class to be home with Al. We spoke to Emily and shared all of our concerns. I read as much as I could online to stay informed.

Friday morning, I woke around 7:00 a.m. to find a text from Mindi that there had been more rockets, but she was fine. She sent me a picture from her iPhone of a Fox news reporter interviewing people in a Tel Aviv café, shortly after the all clear. I asked her if she knew where the public bomb shelters were. She wasn’t sure. I spent the next 20 minutes on my iPhone, researching, and discovered that underground parking garages are on the list. I sent her all the links. I wondered how this could be, that I was looking up information about bomb shelters in case my daughter is on the streets of Tel Aviv when a rocket lands. Later, as I read of Hamas’s threats to send suicide bombers into Israel if the IDF sends in ground forces to Gaza, I texted updates. “Please don’t ride the buses or go to cafés right now,” I wrote.

On Saturday, I was relieved to read that the IDF had placed a fifth Iron Dome anti-missile defense system in place to cover central Israel. Hours later, it downed another missile heading for Tel Aviv. Mindi wrote, reassuring me she was fine and with friends.

On Sunday, I woke to a 6:45 a.m. text that more rockets had been intercepted while she was taking care of her toddlers in the Tel Aviv nursery school where she works. They were fine, she wrote. Then another message, about six hours later, that there was yet another missile attack, again intercepted. She went to the bomb shelter in her apartment. We texted a bit. She was on her way to friends for dinner. I told Al, who was outside, raking leaves. Then I went back to my writing, taking care not to bang the fingers sprouting new ulcers from all this stress.

Later, we spoke by phone. “You sound sad, Mom,” she said, edgy. No need to be concerned, everything is normal here, she insisted. I understood. She was coping on her own, and I needed to back off. Our old dance.

And so it is. My new routine: reading updates several times a day to keep on top of the news and any glimmer of a cease fire, trying my best to concentrate on my work and what’s in front of me, trying not to worry about my very capable 24-year-old who can manage by herself when rockets are flying toward her city, thank you very much, praying for peace, praying for the safety of innocents.

It’s amazing what you can get used to. Like the coming and going of strange, extreme weather. Like learning how to bleach your hand-washed dishes during a 48-hour boil order. Like sprinting to a bomb shelter within the two minute window you have after an enemy rocket launches toward your city, then going about your business. Like accepting that you have no control over what’s happening to someone you love so much, so far away. Like living with the drip-drip-drip of a chronic disease. Amazing.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Waiting for Sandy

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Rain drips off the ridge of the bay window outside my home office. Leaves tremble and branches sway. One long, thin lilac branch waves back and forth like a pointing finger. The sky is the color of soaked cotton balls. I can hear no birds, only the patter and plop of rain drops falling off the tree limbs overhanging our roof, and the wind’s sigh.

It’s strange and curious and unnerving, this waiting for Hurricane Sandy, billed as the worst storm to hit the Northeast since the Hurricane of 1938. I wonder where the birds and squirrels go, how they will protect themselves when the gale batters their tree-top homes. We live within the red-lined high wind warning zone in Massachusetts, expecting gust of 40 to 70 miles per hour at some point later today. Maybe overnight. And there will be rain. Lots of rain.

I worry about the trees that sustained so much damage in last year’s freak October snow storm, when the night was filled with the gunshot of cracking branches. Our neighbor’s old Silver Maple toppled into our back yard, blocking our kitchen door and missing the roof by inches.

And I worry about losing power for days. This is my biggest concern. I can’t withstand the cold, even as the weather is mercifully well above freezing this time around. The utility companies have promised speedy, efficient repairs to downed wires. They’re anxious to repair their damaged reputations from last year’s storm that left thousands without power for days and even weeks. We were lucky and provided hot meals and showers for neighbors who went without heat. But will our luck hold again? If everyone loses power to this monster storm, where can we go?

It’s a stark reminder of how control is an illusion—often the way I feel about my health. A week ago Sunday, out of the clear blue, I woke up with cellulitis in my left elbow, just one hour before I was leaving for a two-day business trip to New York. Not knowing how quickly the red, puffy skin infection would spread, I took a gamble on managing with oral antibiotics that I always have on hand, per discussions with my infectious disease specialist, and headed out the door.

For the next 12 hours, on the train, at Penn Station, during meeting breaks and at my host’s home, I kept monitoring the progress of the warm redness, telling myself if worse came to worse, I was at least in a place with a high concentration of excellent ERs. “You know the cost of making a bad call,” warned the ID doc who was covering over the weekend, when I called Sunday night to report that the cellulitis had spread around the side of my elbow. “Yes,” I answered, “it could go septic.”

I promised I would go to an ER if I spiked a fever or if the infection spread any farther and prayed the antibiotics would finally kick in. Somehow, I got to sleep that night and woke to discover that the redness was receding. The rest of my meetings went exceedingly well, and I even had a spare hour to walk the High Line for the first time, under exquisite blue October skies.

That day seems a long time ago, already. Now I’m just sitting here, waiting to see if this mega-storm will be as bad as the forecasts predict, or if it will lose power as it spins over land.

We have no control over these things, of course. Whatever extreme weather we have set in motion with global warming, even if all the nations of the world finally get together and commit to reducing carbon emissions, we will all have to live with for years to come. At least we have excellent weather forecasting, unlike so many caught by surprise when the fatal ’38 Hurricane barreled over Worcester and up the Vermont-New Hampshire border. We’re also blessed with extensive emergency support. But there’s nothing I can do to stop another tree from falling or the wires from coming down. All I can do is stay indoors until the storm passes.

And there’s nothing I can do to prevent another mysterious bout of cellulitis or whatever else my scleroderma throws my way without warning. It just is. All I can do is take care of myself as best I can and not let this disease stop me from living my life fully. From where I sit, there’s no other choice.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.