Living with Scleroderma

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Meter Wars

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Years ago at an amusement park with my parents and sister, I remember standing in the arcade, watching a guy in a car-like booth trying to steer through imaginary traffic displayed on a video screen. As the timer ticked, images of people and cars jumped into view, and the guy stomped on the brakes and spun the wheel round and back, round and back, to avoid “hitting” them. The little crowd that had gathered to watch had a good laugh. I think he probably ran over quite a few pedestrians before the game was over.

I often recall that scene when I’m driving in downtown Boston. You never know when someone’s going to run into traffic, pass you on either side riding a bicycle, double-park in front of you, speed around you in a taxi or pull some other stunt in the race to get wherever they’re going.

But the biggest prize in negotiating Boston traffic, aside from arriving at your destination on time without an accident, is finding on-street parking.

Lately, when I’ve had appointments downtown, it seems that the major parking garages are only accepting monthly permit customers, and the Boston Commons garage, while usually available, is a often a longer walk to my destination. Plus, even with a coupon, the garages are pricey. So if I see a site, I grab it.

This happened last week, during Thursday’s Nor’easter. By a miracle, I saw a great space on Boylston, only a couple of blocks from my appointment. But there was one problem: The city is switching over to those new meters that take coins, cash or plastic.

Now, I like the idea of not having to carry exact change in quarters. You need a lot of quarters to feed the meter. But I have an extremely difficult time inserting and removing my debit card in these new machines.

Still, a good parking space is a good parking space, and on a chilly, rainy, blustery day, the less distance I have to walk, the better. So I quickly parallel parked, gathered up my purse and headed to the payment meter.

This one took bills, too. Great, I thought. Then I tried inserting a dollar. The wind was whipping the bill, and, of course, this dollar had a little bent corner, so I was standing there in the cold rain, trying to straighten it out and insert it into the slot. But the meter wouldn’t accept it. I tried reversing the bill. No luck. Each time, the wind nearly ripped the bill from my hand, and my fingers were getting numb.

No choice but to try the debit card. Here’s the issue: For some reason, the way these machines are designed, the slot is very deep and tight, and only a narrow edge of your card protrudes. So it’s very hard for me to grip the edge, because my fingertips are resorbed and sore from ulcers. It’s even more challenging when it’s cold out, since I have to take off my gloves to use the machine and my Raynaud’s kicks in. To compound the problem, for some reason, you have to insert the card and remove it quickly for the machine to read it. I find this next to impossible.

The last time I confronted one of these machines, in a Cambridge parking lot, I had to ask another person who was waiting to use it if she could insert and remove my card for me. This took a leap of faith, since it was my debit card. But fortunately, she was honest and helpful, and I was able to make the transaction.

This time, however, people were hustling down the sidewalk, focused on getting out of the wind and rain. There was a woman parked in a car right next to the payment machine, but I didn’t want to alarm her by knocking on her window. Anyway, I felt really stupid not being able to use the damn thing.

So I just kept trying. I inserted my debit card and tried to pull it out. Bad card read. I turned my hand sideways to try to get better leverage removing it. Bad card read. I tried using my right thumb and left forefinger to grab it. Bad card read. Finally, somehow, on about the fifth or sixth try, I managed to insert it and pull it out in time. This gave me the great privilege of paying $2.25 for nearly two hours on the street instead of at least $16.00 in a garage.

I removed my receipt and proudly placed it on the dashboard of my Prius. One of life’s little victories. But if someone out there is interested in designing a better, accessible parking meter that can be used by people whose hands don’t work, I’d be glad to consult.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Waiting for Sandy

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Rain drips off the ridge of the bay window outside my home office. Leaves tremble and branches sway. One long, thin lilac branch waves back and forth like a pointing finger. The sky is the color of soaked cotton balls. I can hear no birds, only the patter and plop of rain drops falling off the tree limbs overhanging our roof, and the wind’s sigh.

It’s strange and curious and unnerving, this waiting for Hurricane Sandy, billed as the worst storm to hit the Northeast since the Hurricane of 1938. I wonder where the birds and squirrels go, how they will protect themselves when the gale batters their tree-top homes. We live within the red-lined high wind warning zone in Massachusetts, expecting gust of 40 to 70 miles per hour at some point later today. Maybe overnight. And there will be rain. Lots of rain.

I worry about the trees that sustained so much damage in last year’s freak October snow storm, when the night was filled with the gunshot of cracking branches. Our neighbor’s old Silver Maple toppled into our back yard, blocking our kitchen door and missing the roof by inches.

And I worry about losing power for days. This is my biggest concern. I can’t withstand the cold, even as the weather is mercifully well above freezing this time around. The utility companies have promised speedy, efficient repairs to downed wires. They’re anxious to repair their damaged reputations from last year’s storm that left thousands without power for days and even weeks. We were lucky and provided hot meals and showers for neighbors who went without heat. But will our luck hold again? If everyone loses power to this monster storm, where can we go?

It’s a stark reminder of how control is an illusion—often the way I feel about my health. A week ago Sunday, out of the clear blue, I woke up with cellulitis in my left elbow, just one hour before I was leaving for a two-day business trip to New York. Not knowing how quickly the red, puffy skin infection would spread, I took a gamble on managing with oral antibiotics that I always have on hand, per discussions with my infectious disease specialist, and headed out the door.

For the next 12 hours, on the train, at Penn Station, during meeting breaks and at my host’s home, I kept monitoring the progress of the warm redness, telling myself if worse came to worse, I was at least in a place with a high concentration of excellent ERs. “You know the cost of making a bad call,” warned the ID doc who was covering over the weekend, when I called Sunday night to report that the cellulitis had spread around the side of my elbow. “Yes,” I answered, “it could go septic.”

I promised I would go to an ER if I spiked a fever or if the infection spread any farther and prayed the antibiotics would finally kick in. Somehow, I got to sleep that night and woke to discover that the redness was receding. The rest of my meetings went exceedingly well, and I even had a spare hour to walk the High Line for the first time, under exquisite blue October skies.

That day seems a long time ago, already. Now I’m just sitting here, waiting to see if this mega-storm will be as bad as the forecasts predict, or if it will lose power as it spins over land.

We have no control over these things, of course. Whatever extreme weather we have set in motion with global warming, even if all the nations of the world finally get together and commit to reducing carbon emissions, we will all have to live with for years to come. At least we have excellent weather forecasting, unlike so many caught by surprise when the fatal ’38 Hurricane barreled over Worcester and up the Vermont-New Hampshire border. We’re also blessed with extensive emergency support. But there’s nothing I can do to stop another tree from falling or the wires from coming down. All I can do is stay indoors until the storm passes.

And there’s nothing I can do to prevent another mysterious bout of cellulitis or whatever else my scleroderma throws my way without warning. It just is. All I can do is take care of myself as best I can and not let this disease stop me from living my life fully. From where I sit, there’s no other choice.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

What Works for Me

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Every case of scleroderma is different. But after nearly 30 years with this disease, I’ve learned a thing or two about how to manage. So here are some basic suggestions that I hope will make life easier for you or someone you love with scleroderma:

Get the Best Medical Care You Can Find
This probably goes without saying, but it’s the single most important step you need to take to deal with this incredibly complex disease. If at all possible, find a medical center that specializes in scleroderma, even if you have to travel for occasional visits. Both the Scleroderma Foundation and Scleroderma Research Foundation can help you locate the nearest scleroderma specialists.

I’m blessed to live within an hour’s drive of Boston Medical Center, where not only the Rheumatology Department has extensive expertise in the disease, but also many other specialists do, as well. It really helps to have a cardiologist or dermatologist or nephrologist who also knows scleroderma, and you don’t find that unless you’re seeing physicians at a center where there’s a critical mass of scleroderma patients.

Get Enough Sleep
We’re all too busy. We all try to pack too much into each day. Especially if you’re juggling work and family and volunteering and aging parents and all the rest, it’s hard to get the sleep you need, even when you’re healthy. With scleroderma, you need to get sleep. Without it, you’ll get sicker. End of discussion.

Dress in Layers, Favoring Natural Fibers
When you need to keep warm, layers are the best way to go, especially if you’re moving in and out of spaces that vary in temperature. Cotton, wool and silk are my favored fabrics for warmth. Years ago, when I was first struggling with Raynaud’s, my rheumatologist told me that synthetics like polyester trap moisture and can make you chillier, whereas natural fibers wick away moisture and allow your skin to breathe. He was right. This is also the reason I wear shoes made of leather or natural fibers. Anything plastic or rubber causes a lot of perspiration and can lead to skin breakdown.

A lot of heat is lost through your head. That’s why, back in the day, people wore nightcaps (not the alcoholic variety) to stay warm in unheated bedrooms. Especially here in the Northeast, hats are a must in winter. I like wearing scarves made of natural fibers, for reasons cited above and because they make a nice fashion statement while keeping me comfortable.

Protect Your Hands
Okay, this is obvious. Here’s what I do:

  • Use disposable latex gloves for all cooking to keep bacteria out of my fingertip ulcers.
  • Wash my hands frequently with anti-bacterial gel. I have to do this to avoid getting my bandages wet. I checked this with my Infectious Disease doc and he said it was fine, contrary to all the hoo-hah about too much anti-bacterial soap causing germs to flourish. When I wash my bare ulcers, I use Aveeno Ultra-Calming Foaming Cleanser. It never, ever stings and is easy to wash off.
  • Use soft, flexible fabric bandages for finger ulcers. These can be hard to find, as many generic fabric bandages now include antibiotic ointment in the pads, which I don’t like. I favor Coverlet Adhesive Dressing Strips, with one caveat—the adhesive is very sticky, and you have to really soak the bandages before removing so as not to tear your skin. These are available online, not in stores. Aquafor Ointment is an excellent dressing. I also use small squares of Sorbsan, a surgical dressing made of seaweed, as a moisture barrier. And I change my ulcer dressings twice a day. Yes, it’s expensive. But not as expensive as getting an infection.
  • Wear wrist warmers. I like Wristies® fleece warmers, but there are now many alternatives on the market. I use these throughout the year, to keep warm in the winter and protect against air conditioning in the summer, and as an alternative to gloves during transitional seasons. They’re very affordable, come in many colors and several lengths, and there are even Wristies with a little pocket for a hand heat pack.
  • Wear natural fiber gloves and use mittens for best warmth. I have a very well-worn pair of leather gloves that are soft and provide ample room for my many bandages, as well as a good pair of down mittens for winter.

Get Regular Exercise
I let this go for a long time. Big mistake. You lose range of motion if you don’t move. One of my rheumatologists gave me the excellent advice to find some form of exercise I really love, because I’ll be able to stick with it. So I’ve been doing Pilates for several years, now, and also a variety of forms of dance—all beginner classes, and I’m a klutz, but it doesn’t matter, because I always feel so much better afterwards, and I’m even regaining a little grace, despite stiff joints. Yes, it’s hard to exercise when you’re in the active stages of scleroderma and so tired all the time. But even walking a short distance in fresh air is better than sitting still in your home, and it’s also good for your soul.

Surround Yourself with People Who Support You 
Many people don’t understand what you’re going through and will offer a lot of well-meaning but useless advice. Others will treat you like an invalid. Avoid them. Find those who will give you hugs when you need it, listen to your angst without criticism or commentary, remind you of your strengths when you’re at a loss, and most of all, who will accept you for who you are, no matter what. This is essential.

There’s much more I could say here, but I’ll save it for future posts. I’d love to hear what’s worked for you, too.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Don’t Do Anything Stupid

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It’s Sunday morning, overcast, nippy. I’m up at 6:00, most definitely not my favorite time to rise. But today’s the day that Al is running a 5K obstacle course race with his hospital co-workers at a track out in Western Massachusetts, and we need to be there by 8:30.

Al informed me about this a few months ago when he and his fellow social workers decided this would be a great team building activity, plus a good way to raise some money for a local charity, while they were at it. I didn’t give it much thought. As a marketing director, for years I would take my staff out to all kinds of unusual places—the Arnold Arboretum, a glass-blowing studio, a youth concert by the Boston Symphony—to strengthen us as a collaborative working group. So the basic idea sounded fine to me.

That is, until Emily came home for the summer from college and looked at the race track website. “Mom, have you seen what he’s supposed to do?” she asked, incredulous. I had to admit that I hadn’t bothered to look. I was in denial. But the man is going to be 62 at the end of October. He has a pacemaker. We agreed that she would urge him to do more than his usual morning workout to get in shape. “He’ll listen to you,” I said. “He’ll just ignore me.”

So she did. Al started swimming after work. Emily went back to school in early August.

A few weeks later, Mindi came home from Israel for a month’s visit. “Mom, have you seen what he’s supposed to do?” she asked, after checking out the website. We agreed that she would push the pace when they hiked up Mt. Monadnock that week. “He’ll listen to you,” I said. “He’ll just ignore me.”

So she did. They made it to the top of the mountain in good time. Al started running after work, and Mindi went back to Tel Aviv in mid-September.

The week before the race, he was running a full 5K around our neighborhood without stopping. I’d resigned myself to the fact that he was going to go through with it and that the weather forecast was crummy—chilly, with a chance of showers.

We’d discussed the possibility of my staying home, because we were both concerned I would get numb waiting for him to finish. So I decided to find a Starbucks nearest to the racetrack, in case it was raining or too cold for me to stand outside for hours. I finally checked out the website to get the address. And freaked out.

This was no ordinary obstacle course. You had to crawl in muddy water under strings of barbed wire. You had to hop from pylon to pylon over more muddy water. You had to squirm through dark, wet tunnels. You had to run up and down mucky terrain. You had to jump over a fire pit.

When Al came home Friday night, I said we needed to talk. We sat in the living room and I let loose.

“Have you looked at the 5-week training program they have on the website? This isn’t just about running. It’s cross-training! If I’ d realized what this was all about when the girls warned me, I would have tried to talk you out of it. You could really get hurt!”

Al said nothing. After nearly 28 years of marriage, he knew enough not to interrupt me when I was on a tear.

“I don’t care how cold or rainy it’s going to be on Sunday, I’m definitely coming with you. What if you sprain an ankle? What if you break a leg? What if you get a concussion, I thought. What if you have a heart attack? How will you get home?”

He kept listening, his face frozen in a tight grimace.

“I know how important it is for you to do this, I get it that you want to prove to yourself you can, and I know you’d never listen to me if I tried to talk you out of it. So I want to support you, but you have to promise me you will skip any of the obstacles that you can’t do. Don’t be a macho hero!”

“I won’t do anything stupid.”

“Okay, but what does that really mean?”

“It means I won’t do anything stupid!”

We went back and forth for a few more minutes. Al suggested that maybe I should stay home, because it was going to be too cold for me. No way.

“If you’re going to be stupid enough to do this, than I’m going to stupid enough to stand there in the rain and watch you and make sure you get home okay!” He agreed. Truce.

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I take on the elements dressed in jeans and an old short-sleeved cashmere turtleneck, under an old long-sleeve cashmere v-neck, under a fleece vest, under my mid-weight down winter coat. I am armed with my fleece wrist warmers, gloves and a hat, and I have my umbrella. I look ridiculous, but I don’t care. I can’t take a chance on my Raynaud’s triggering for the next three hours.

As we drive out on the Mass Pike, the cloud cover is lifting. There are even a few patches of blue over Berkshire foothills spackled crimson and gold.

At the track, we find Al’s co-workers—three trim women, all at least half his age. Everyone‘s in high spirits as they don their purple tees with the hospital logo and their names on the back. A couple of athletic-looking boyfriends join the team, too.

Music pumps from two huge speakers. Other running teams sport everything from multi-colored unitards to chartreuse tutus, from Batman and Wonder Woman costumes to princess tiaras and centurion helmets.

To get to the starting gate for their 10:30 race, everyone has to climb over a four-foot-high plywood barrier. Al tells me later that he thinks the guys ahead of him are just showing off when they jump the wall. Then he realizes he actually has to get over the thing.

Smoke fills the air beyond the starting gate. An announcer juices the crowd. A siren blasts. And they’re off.

I find my way to a good vantage point midway through the course, a spaghetti-like dirt trail that winds up and down, back and forth through the muck. And wait. After about 20 minutes, I catch sight of part of the team running up the far side of the track. But no Al. A few more minutes pass. Then I see him, trudging slowly up the incline behind his young, spry supervisor. She pauses until he catches up. Okay, she’s making sure he’s doing all right. Good. I snap some pictures.

After another ten minutes or so, the team reaches the muddy sinkhole in front of me. I yell encouragement and snap some more shots. Al pumps his fist in the air as he wades through the guck. He looks exhausted, but he seems to be having a good time. I click away as they all hold hands down the giant slide into a mud hole, as they roll over red-and-white poles laid across muddy water, as they slog up and down.

When I can’t see them anymore, I head to what I think is the final obstacle, a huge pit of muddy water before a steep, gloppy incline. The sun comes out. I unzip my coat and vest and put on my sunglasses. Guys do cannon balls, flips, belly flops. Most of the gals just jump and wade through. One woman in a tutu drags herself to the side with an injured leg and is quickly picked up by the paramedic crew. But no Al and company. I keep watching and waiting.

Suddenly, there’s a hand on my shoulder. It’s Al, grimy and smiling. “We’ve been looking all over for you! We finished a while ago!” Oh no, how could I miss it! They crossed the finish line together, holding hands, he tells me. We head back over so I can take his triumphant portrait.

Al is ecstatic. “I really did it!” he beams. He gets his free beer and we grab some veggie burgers. We say our goodbyes and head to the car. On the way home, he tells me more about the obstacles. He did every one, except the pylons. Too much. So, he kept his promise.

“It was hard,” he admits as we drive back east on the Pike. “But the anticipation was worse than the actual race.” I agree. You never know what you’re capable of, even when your body doesn’t work so well anymore. Unless you try.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

The Waiting Game

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I’m late for my doctor’s appointment. Per usual, I tried to finish just one more thing before I left the house. Then I hit road construction on the main thoroughfare between home and the medical center. By the time I have parked and found the right office inside the cavernous hospital, it’s a good 15 minutes past my scheduled arrival. And the doctor is running on time. Uh-oh.

Usually, it’s the other way around. But I get lucky. The waiting room is empty and my appointment doesn’t get bumped. I have my Kindle along, but I get distracted by the waiting room flat screen TV. It’s an episode of The Doctors, featuring a team of attractive specialists answering studio audience questions about their health. The ER doc wears a pair of blue scrubs and the others, white lab coats. The pediatrician is responding to a young woman’s query about the birth mark on her chest when the nurse calls me into my appointment.

Hoping to shave a pound or two off the digital scale readout, I take off my coat and shoes when she weighs me. We review my meds and allergies. She takes my blood pressure and temperature. We chat about the weather. As she leaves the room, I check the magazines in the wall rack. This exam room could use some better reading material—there’s a Vermont tourist glossy, a couple of trade health publications and an ersatz women’s magazine. I flip through its pages and scan the list of recommended books, wondering why it’s such a struggle to get published when all this dreck makes it into print.

My doctor is prompt and pleasant. He’s an infectious disease specialist, and we’re reviewing the plan we made over the summer to manage any future infections in my finger ulcers. After another year of on-again-off-again antibiotics, it was time to get pro-active. We marvel at the fact that I’ve had no infections since I saw him in June. I joke that all the germs have been scared off by his presence. He laughs. “I wish it were so,” he says.

We review what to do when the next infection hits. It’s a foregone conclusion. The only question is, how soon? There’s a piece of calcium migrating toward the surface of my right thumb. It’s causing me difficulty squeezing a tube of toothpaste and picking up cups. When it finally breaks through the skin, perhaps in a few months, there’s a high chance of infection. And, as the weather gets colder, my skin breaks down and is at greater risk, anyway.

We agree that I don’t need a follow-up. I’ll just call him when the next infection hits. I have the necessary antibiotics at home and know when and how to use them. He trusts my experience and my judgment. I thank him and say good-bye, for now. As I walk out through the waiting room, Family Feud contestants cheer and clap before the commercial break.

Leaving the hospital parking lot, I wait in a line of cars. It’s almost 3:20 and the shift is changing from days to evenings. On the drive home, I ease my car around the exposed man-hole covers that have turned the street under construction into a slalom course. I get home just over an hour after I left, pretty good for any doctor’s appointment—especially when I was the late one.

At the back door, Ginger is waiting patiently for my return. The sun casts long shadows. My right thumb twinges as I set down my Kindle, little green medical notebook and cell phone on the kitchen table. It’s almost time for our walk.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.