Living with Scleroderma

Reflections on the Messy Complexity of Chronicity

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Purple Thumb Challenge

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I have never been good at keeping houseplants. I’m most successful with forgiving plants that don’t need much water or attention, like the snake plant that lives on our kitchen table. Every few weeks I remember to soak it in the kitchen sink, give it a good misting, and then leave it be until the next time I remember. It never seems to mind.

All that is about to change. For a combined birthday-Mother’s Day gift this year, Al surprised me with a trip to a bonsai greenhouse last month. I walked around all the many different bonsai trees for sale, but didn’t see one that really struck my fancy. Speaking with one of the staff, however, we found out that I could take a workshop and start my own.

Of all the suitable species, I was most taken by a tree with very delicate, compound leaves that looked like tiny water droplets. This, we learned, was a Brazilian Rain Tree. The greenhouse had an exquisite specimen that turned out to be 75 years old. Something to aspire to, certainly. They were getting a new shipment in mid-June, so I signed up for a workshop on Father’s Day. Al was happy to come along and watch.

Meanwhile, I bought a book about bonsai to learn more. And discovered how much care is actually involved. Bonsai need daily watering and lots of attention. It’s a bit daunting for someone with a purple thumb. But I’m intrigued by the artistry that’s involved to train a tree, in miniature, into a living sculpture that honors nature.

So, on Sunday, we went to the workshop. I found a little Brazilian Rain Tree and a pretty terracotta pot, and following our teacher’s instructions, set to work.

You must first set up the pot with wires and a piece of mesh in the bottom—the wires are used to hold the bonsai roots in the shallow pot. Then you add a layer of very porous bonsai soil. Next comes removing the tree from its pot. You have to clear part of the topsoil to reveal some of the roots—this is essential to bonsai aesthetics—then poke away soil that is entwined with about two-thirds of the lower root system, and trim back the longest roots.

Then you place the tree in the pot and spread out the remaining root system, twist the wires in place to stabilize the tree, and fill the rest of the pot with more topsoil. My teacher had to help me with some of this, because my hands aren’t quite strong enough. But I did much of the prep.

Then came some pruning (Brazilian Rain Trees have thorns) and learning how to clip away deadwood. The next-to-last step involved wrapping a bendable wire around the trunk and up one branch that we bent into a curving upright stance—to train it as an apex for the tree’s eventual shape. Most of this I was able to do myself.

Now it was time to soak it with water, essential for my little tree’s survival. And it was done. I was really pleased with the result. And hoping I wouldn’t kill it.

Back home, all afternoon and evening, I kept checking the soil to see if it needed more water. Then I started to worry, because its leaves were no longer open to the light, but seemed to be drooping. Fortunately, a quick bit of Internet research revealed that Brazilian Rain Trees close their leaves in diminished light and at night, and open them in the day. So far, so good.

And so, I begin my adventure as a bonsai gardener. I understand this can become quite an addictive pastime. Already I feel a special relationship to my little tree and look forward to tending it and watching it grow. With persistence and some luck, maybe I’ll turn my purple thumb green, after all.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.

Make Way for Ducklings

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I haven’t seen my sister in two years—that is, until this Sunday, when we got together for a beach-side picnic in Maine. She and my brother-in-law had finally been able to venture east (delayed a year due to Covid) to visit their eldest daughter and her husband. So Al and I and our eldest daughter drove up to see them for the afternoon. The weather cooperated, the food was delicious, and it was great to visit again, in person.

Despite all that has elapsed in the past two years, however, it also felt as if we were just catching up, like we always have. There is something very odd about how time collapses in our post-vaccination transition. For me, at least, there are no crashing cymbals or pyrotechnics when I get together again with people I’ve missed. It’s simply as if we are picking up where we left off—a good thing, but surprising, all the same.

We’ve all changed, of course, one way or another, in surviving a once-in-a-century (I hope) global pandemic. For some, the experience has been gut-wrenching, an utter up-ending of home, work, and all they hold dear. I and my loved ones have been most fortunate, staying well, maintaining income, feeling safe overall as we’ve learned important lessons about patience and persistence. We’ve taken advantage of robust means of keeping in touch that mitigate long separations. All of this contributes, I suppose, to the surprising ordinariness of our Sunday reunion.

My sister and I took a walk along the beach, settling on a rocky outcropping to watch several broods of ducks riding the waves. This was actually the most surprising aspect of our visit—each pair of mature ducks (I’m guessing, from my field guide, American black ducks) was followed by at least a dozen ducklings, paddling along in a row. There must have been 50 or 60 ducklings, all together, learning to traverse in choppy surf stirred by a stiff off-shore breeze.

As we watched, one brood came ashore on the rocks, peeping and flapping to shake off the sea, following their parents’ example to fluff their feathers and waddle about. They were utterly adorable.

“What do you think they’re saying to each other?” I asked my sister.

“I’m hungry!” she proposed. A good guess.

I wondered how such tiny, vulnerable creatures would survive in such rough waters. What if they were swamped by a wave? What if they were swept into one of the jutting rocks? And yet, to them, this was just a completely normal afternoon, on a sunny, windy day, on the coast of Maine, learning to swim.

We, too, have, learned to ride the waves of this pandemic year. Reuniting after months and months spent Zooming and masking and fretting about an unknown, unseen virus that could level a death blow without warning, after miracle vaccinations and boredom and relief that the worst really does seem to be behind us, at last—I can think of no better ending, and beginning, than savoring the humbling wonderment of dozens of ducklings, finding their way in the world.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.

Inclination

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I was chatting with a neighbor the other day, a geographer who studies the impact of climate change, and he told me that in twenty years, Massachusetts may well have weather more like Virginia’s, and Maine will be more like Massachusetts. Certainly feels that way here in Central New England over the past few days, with temperatures hovering around 90° F.

The one advantage for me, personally, is that my spring digital ulcers are finally healing in the heat (with some help from a round of antibiotics). As long as it’s not humid, or so hot that I must relent and turn on the A/C, I flourish in this weather.

So, despite the temperature, on Saturday afternoon, I walked to a nearby park in our fair city, a green oasis in the midst of traffic and stores and homes and apartments. I’ve been trying to build up my physical stamina on this three-mile route, which includes following a circular, inclined path that winds up a hill—a drumlin, geologically speaking, an oval mound of moraine left behind by a receding glacier millennia ago—to a clearing at the top, where there’s a flagpole and some granite benches. I made it without stopping to catch my breath, this time, an accomplishment. A pleasant breeze and the canopy of trees kept me comfortable along the way.

As I walked the spiraling trail, I recalled something from high school physics, how the angle of an inclined plane affects the amount of effort it takes to move an object upward. The trail’s gradual slope was a perfect example. There were a number of detours, paths that led more sharply up to the top, which I avoided, because they would have required too much exertion. No, I just kept walking gradually higher around the hill, which enabled me to maintain an even stride, manage my breathing, and keep going.

At the flagpole clearing, I rested on a bench and watched a jet high above, tracing a line that disappeared behind a large cumulus cloud, waiting for it to reappear as it flew farther west. I listened to the hum of traffic below, beyond the trees, and a loud voice on a speaker somewhere ranting about something. I hummed a melody and waited for my heart to stop pounding from the climb, gradual as it was. I inhaled the fragrance of flowering trees and evergreens. I wondered who came up here to mow the grass. I prayed for insight about our troubled country and planet and how to find my role in all of this. I left when the jet disappeared behind another cloud, and began my gradual descent.

I didn’t get any big answers to those big questions, which hover in my mind every day. But the spiraling walk up the mound-print of an ancient glacier has given me an inkling—that for all the valid urgency of the present moment, there is also value to patient inquiry, to slow and steady progress, to finding answers that stand the test of time. For one who needs to conserve energy on the climb, as age and scleroderma dictate, that’s the path I’m inclined to follow.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.

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Gone Writin’

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For six-and-a-half years, I’ve been working on my novel set in World War I. And this year, I finally carved out five days to sequester myself near the shore and focus on what is now the eighth round of revisions. Here’s the view a short walk from my little Maine cottage.

More next week. I hope you all are pursuing your dreams, too. It’s never too late . . .

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.

The Things We Take for Granted

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I updated my computer on Monday. That is to say, I transferred data from my six-year-old iMac to my new iMac, so that I could give my old iMac to Al, because my really old iMac that he was using for several years finally up and died. It was time for an upgrade, anyway, and so I made the business investment. I’ve favored Apple computers for more than a decade, now, not only because they’re so intuitive, but also because the keyboard is very easy on my hands. Any other computer keyboard feels like I’m banging on an old manual typewriter—that is to say, painful.

Things did not go smoothly. Following Apple’s instructions, I updated the operating system on my old iMac to the latest version before trying to transfer data between the two machines. But the new iMac, to my surprise and annoyance, did not have the latest OS version. So I had to first update the new iMac.

Issues arose, so I spoke with a very patient Apple tech support guy for at least an hour, trying to get the two machines to speak to each other. At last, the data transfer began successfully. Expecting it to complete overnight, I went upstairs to bed. Shortly after I woke up Monday morning, I checked progress. My old iMac had shut down 12 minutes before the multi-hour transfer process had completed. Back to Square One.

And so, I started the process all over again, with more Apple tech support. My biggest issue, other than tossing my entire morning out the window, was that I had to run a Zoom meeting at noon, and the estimated time for the data migration to complete was about five hours.

My only other option to run the meeting was my aging MacBook Air, which has not worked properly for at least a year because its memory is clogged up (hmmm, sounds familiar). So I asked the tech gal for help with that. She ended up handing me off to one of their senior tech gals, who spent another hour with me trying to free up memory. We never could figure out the basic issue, but I was able to meet my Zoom deadline.

I have to say that Apple support guys and gals are great. Knowledgeable, patient, and really try to help you solve the problems. A good thing, because the next issue arose when I tried to print from my now up-and-running new iMac, and my printer wouldn’t respond. Searching for info about the printer, whether it needed a new printer driver, etc., etc., only confused me more. So I called Apple support once again.

This time, after checking all the obvious stuff (so I thought), the tech support gal asked me if my printer was on the same wireless network as my iMac. Lo and behold, the WIFI had disconnected when I had unplugged the printer and plugged it back in, in the process of prior finagling with all the plugs and wires involved in the data transfer. I was able reconnect the printer to the WIFI and . . . it worked!

So, other than some more annoying app housecleaning, I am now writing on my new iMac with pleasure. And here comes the obvious conclusion: We’re so dependent on our computers. They are amazing tools when they work as intended. They are utterly frustrating when they don’t. If I’d been smarter, I would have set aside an entire day to make this transition, knowing that something would inevitably go wrong.

But these are problems that come with the privilege of being able to afford a top quality desktop computer—even as it’s essential to my work as a writer. I recognize this. I’m very grateful that I can do this. And I hope I won’t need to do it again for at least another six years.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.

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