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Vacation State of Mind

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It was blazing hot last week here in Massachusetts—‘90s and high humidity—too hot, even for me, once again this summer. On the plus side, however, we were also on vacation, hanging out at home and doing day trips. Perfect weather for the beach.

Only one problem: I can’t swim in the ocean with ulcers on my fingers. Too much risk of infection. So we just spent one day, last Monday, a real scorcher, at the seashore. The water was wonderfully warm, and I was able to wade up to my thighs, the next best thing to swimming.

For the rest of the week, we escaped the heat and humidity by playing tourist in our own backyard and immersing ourselves in history—from dinosaur bones to the Dead Sea Scrolls, from Emily Dickinson’s reclusive world to whaling ship lore.

One evening, we watched a classic 1921 Swedish silent film, The Phantom Carriage, with live piano accompaniment. Two other nights, we enjoyed free outdoor concerts. We met Al’s infant grand-niece and took her and her parents on a Swan Boat ride in the Boston Public Garden. Later that evening, we paid respects to the site of the Boston Marathon bombing.

On our last day, Sunday, the humidity finally broke, and we headed out to Plimoth Plantation, a recreation of 17th Century life among the native Wampanoags and English settlers who arrived on the Mayflower.

Here we met Phillip, a Wampanoag descendant and interpreter, who wore his hair half-shaved, half braided, as his ancestors did, to avoid entanglement with a drawn bow. He explained all the ways the Wampanoags made use of nature’s bounty to thrive along the Massachusetts coast—building bark longhouses that provided ample heat and comfort throughout the winter, constructing summer huts from reeds that swelled with moisture to become rainproof, planting beans next to corn so the tendrils would curl up the stalks, shading the roots with squash leaves and blossoms that minimized weed growth. There were game and fish aplenty in the forests, rivers and sea. “We had everything we needed,” he said.

In the nearby English community, we chatted with interpreters who reenacted the lives of actual settlers. One young woman rocked in her dark thatched roof house, clothed in a long linen skirt and yellow vest, stitching a napkin’s hem, and told us how hard life was, how much she missed her old home in back in Surrey. The only good thing about coming here, she said, was the promise of owning land, something her husband, a cooper, could never have dreamed of back in England. When asked why they did not call themselves Pilgrims, she explained, “Pilgrims are people who travel a long way to a holy land. This is far from a holy place. It’s but a wilderness.”

Same land. Two diametrically opposed world views. I couldn’t have asked for a better example of how mind-set shapes experience.

So here I sit, typing on my laptop, inching back into my normal routine, pondering. Vacation, we discovered this year, is a state of mind. You don’t have to travel far to find it. And (I am certainly not the first to observe), how we frame our experiences defines every encounter. It’s all too easy to lapse into longing for what you lack in the midst of all the plenty you have yet to recognize. The best respite from struggle is gratitude.

The trick is to maintain that vacation awareness—that ability to step back from daily demands and clutter, to pause and truly see—in order to appreciate and make the most of what’s right here, right now.

I’ll keep trying.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

In Search of Earthworms

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On Sunday, in 90 degree heat, I decided it was time to weed our backyard rock garden. I haven’t done any gardening in several years, mainly because the last time I tried, I messed up my hands. But I couldn’t stand it any more.

Our yellow day lilies, just bloomed, were half-hidden by an encroaching jungle. Between the extreme temperatures and forecasts of more heat, humidity and thunderstorms for the coming week, I figured if I didn’t do something, the weeds would thrive at the lilies’ expense and choke out any hint of beauty.

Besides, weeding seemed like the perfect antidote to all the words swirling in my mind—a writer’s liability. Perhaps the physical work would negate the narration and bring some insight.

I bandaged my finger ulcers with extra care to minimize irritation, lathered on sunscreen and insect repellant, donned an old straw hat, found my lavender gardening gloves in a basket in the kitchen (their special coating keeps out the dirt but allows skin to breathe, essential for my hands), located my angle weeder in the garage (a curved, sawed-edge tool with a prong at the tip), and headed into the backyard.

It was already steamy by 10:30. I tackled a few tall weeds—at least four feet high—first. I have no idea what they were, but they pulled out of the hot, dry earth easily. Ginger, my constant shadow, sniffed around the yard a bit, then wanted to go back inside after about a half-hour. I kept working.

Wild violets had carpeted much of the rock garden. They’re pretty in the spring, but very aggressive, leaving no room for much else. They’re also tenacious. I quickly discovered that I’d have better luck digging and leveraging out the roots with my angle weeder, rather that trying to pull with my hands—more effective, less strain.

As I dug and prodded and pulled, I wondered where the earthworms were. The ground was parched from the five-day heat wave, so maybe they were hiding farther beneath the surface. But their absence surprised me. When I was growing up, I used to love to spend a hot summer afternoon weeding in the shade of my parent’s front garden, watching the earthworms crawl amidst crumbles of dirt, their soft pink bodies squeezing and stretching as they aerated the soil. Wherever they appeared, the earth felt cool and smelled rich.

Mosquitos buzzed in my face, drawn by sweat. I swatted them away, smearing my cheeks with dirt, and kept on weeding. I discovered a forgotten sapling that I’d planted a year ago in the back of the garden. Somehow, it had survived all the snow and cold of winter. Still not much bigger than a twig, it had quite a few leaves. I cleared the ground around it for more sun. Nearby, I left what looked like a wild rose that had taken root, perhaps a mistake, since they’re invasive.

Weeds near the stone steps and larger rocks in the garden proved much harder to evict.  I tried prying them out with an old trowel, but the trowel bent under pressure. So I found a long handled tool in the garage with a curved fork at one end and managed to claw out some dense root clods. I sawed off a few woody weeds that were impossible to dislodge.

As I worked, I tried to shut off the constant flow of description in my head. All the obvious gardening metaphors played through my mind—clearing away the clutter, seeing what’s really in front of you, enabling new growth/life/ideas. But the only way to achieve that through weeding, to turn it into a meditation, is to focus and stop the word flow.

I never got there. I just kept working until I’d cleared as much as I could and my heart was pounding too loudly in my ears from all the heat. It occurred to me that the best thing about weeding is the immediate gratification of making room. I found a slug, glistening on a blade of grass. I observed how some roots are like fine hairs and others, like white and purple carrots. I imagined planting basil and wildflowers.

By 1:00, with sweat flinging off my hair, I declared my weeding done. My hands felt okay, but my back and legs, weary. Grateful to discover I could still dig in a garden, I stepped back to review my handiwork. Plenty of weeds left to be pulled, but the lilies’ sunny trumpets were now easily admired.

Back inside, Ginger at my feet, I sat down at the kitchen table and drank a tall glass of seltzer. Time for a cool shower. It had been a good morning, though no great, hoped-for insights about work or my writing or something else from all that weeding. Such things don’t come when chased. They prefer to tunnel beneath the surface and emerge when ready.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com

Enough, Already

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On Monday afternoon, I took Ginger to the vet. This was her semi-annual check-up, time for renewing all her shots. For a nearly 15-year-old Golden, she’s doing great, though getting a bit slow on the up-take, between arthritis, some hearing loss and what I suspect is a touch of senility, as well as the inevitable lumps and bumps so common to her breed.

Bringing her takes some preparation. She needs a walk, first, around the block, to loosen her joints and be sure she empties her bladder somewhere other than the exam room floor. Of course, the skies chose to open right before we needed to leave, so I took an umbrella and she got soaked, though didn’t seem to mind. Then she scrambled into the car with none of the usual coaxing, probably to get out of the rain.

At the vet, though, anxiety set in. She panted and panted, sounding like a choo-choo train, as she lay on the waiting room’s linoleum floor. When her name was called, she tried to pull me out the door. In the exam room, she paced back and forth, attempting to hide behind my skirt. It took our vet, her aide and me to lay calming hands on her in order to complete the exam and all the shots. We were both glad to get her back into the car and drive home.

I know how she feels. I am tired of doctor’s appointments. In recent weeks, I have seen my local rheumatologist, my Boston rheumatologist, my cardiologist, my uro-gynecologist, my dentist and my podiatrist. I’ve had my feet x-rayed. I need to make an appointment for my bi-annual pulmonary function test.

I don’t mean to whine. I’m grateful for all of these gifted medical specialists. Some people with scleroderma have to travel a half-day or longer to get the equivalent treatment. I only have to travel between 10 minutes and an hour-and-a-half to receive some of the best care in the world.

But I’m still tired of it. I wish I could take a summer vacation from it all.

This past Saturday, June 29, was World Scleroderma Day. Organizations in the U.S., Europe, Canada and Australia rallied to publicize the search for a cure. Someday, I hope, if enough people pay attention, and enough of us contribute, and Congress finally passes the Scleroderma Research and Awareness Act (reintroduced, once again, this legislative session, as HR1429), then maybe, just maybe, researchers will have enough funding to find that cure and future patients will be able to find lasting relief from this complex and devastating disease.

In the U.S., you can contribute here:

Scleroderma Foundation
Scleroderma Research Foundation

And write your representatives here:

Scleroderma Research and Awareness Act – HR 1429 – Scleroderma Foundation

Thanks for listening.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Sister Act

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“Remember, with the slurs, keep the notes nice and light. Let’s pick up at measure 69.”

The conductor taps his baton on the black music stand, and the St. Louis Wind Symphony breaks into John Williams’s Midway March, with the flute section playing brightly above the lush harmonies. This is the group’s first of only two rehearsals before next Sunday’s concert, a week from today. All are experienced musicians. My older sister plays piccolo and flute, first chair.

3320572325_f56c081618It’s been decades since I’ve heard her perform. During this two-hour afternoon session, the group is spot-rehearsing summer show-stoppers like the Candide overture, a Gershwin medley, The Magic of Andrew Lloyd Webber, Big Band Bash. It’s up to each musician to practice and learn or review whatever needs polishing before next Sunday. My sister makes the syncopated piccolo riffs in Bernstein’s Candide sound easy.

Today is the last of my three day visit, my first trip out here in seven years. Far too long. But something always seemed to get in the way of travel—tight budgets, busy schedules, the fact that she made a number of trips east while our father was ailing from Parkinson’s, the fact that flying by myself is exhausting. We’ve kept in touch by occasional phone calls, Facebook and email. Weeks, months, years, have slipped by.

So many years that when I checked my bag at the Delta counter at Logan last Thursday afrernoon, I was shocked that I had to pay $25 for the privilege. “We’ve been doing that for years,” snapped the ticket agent. Well, sorry, I didn’t know—and, by the way, if you didn’t charge so much per bag, maybe there would actually be room in the overhead compartments for everyone’s carry-on luggage. But I digress.

I’d love to carry on my bag. But I can’t lift it overhead or pull it down, and I don’t want to have to ask for help all the time. Getting through security with just my small shoulder bag was exhausting, enough—pulling out my boarding passes, juggling my photo ID, removing and replacing my laptop, taking off my coat, shoes.

Other than being squished like a sardine in my window seat and partially losing my hearing in my right ear due to shifting air pressure on the descent into St. Louis (it cleared by the next morning), the trip was blessedly uneventful. It was a relief to see my sister waving at the edge of the security barrier when I arrived.

Over the past few days, we’ve gone shoe shopping (she helped me find a great pair of Naot sandals that are both elegant and comfortable for my difficult-to-fit feet), walked through the stunning Missouri Botanical Garden in 90-plus heat and humidity, attended the St. Louis Fringe Festival, had lunch with friends I haven’t seen in decades, played Scrabble (no chance of winning against my sister, who has become a Scrabble online maven) and watched a hilarious performance of Spamalot at the outdoor Muny Opera. I’ve shared my new weather spotting fascination with my brother-in-law, had wonderful conversations about favorite writers with my younger niece and enjoyed our joint interpretation of what Tarot cards have to say about my business prospects (trust your intuition).

But sitting in on the Wind Symphony practice is the highlight. Music was a big part of our childhood. My sister was always the lead flutist in our school orchestras and bands. I played first violin and was concert mistress as a high school senior. I also played alto, bass and contrabass clarinet in our wind ensemble. It’s been nearly 35 years since I’ve been part, albeit vicariously, of a band rehearsal.

As the musicians wander into the music department practice room at Missouri U-St. Louis, I try to guess what instruments they play from the shape of the cases slung over their backs and shoulders. No more of those heavy black fiberglass cases that I remembered from high school—everything is lightweight, durable mesh fabric.

Watching one of the clarinetists assemble his instrument, plucking black and silver sections from their blue-velvet lining, I’m surprised as my throat clutches and eyes tear. I miss this. I miss the tangy smell of oiled wood and the bitter-sweet taste of reed on my tongue. I miss being able to make music myself. I can’t play clarinet anymore, because I can’t tighten my lips around the mouthpiece or manage the keys. It’s been decades since I could play my violin—an impossibility with my damaged hands. Octave spreads on the piano are beyond me, now.

So, instead, I write on my laptop as I listen. Composing sentences, capturing rhythms in words, is my music making. I sway to Gershwin and big band hits as I type, stopping to focus on my sister’s flute solos. I enjoy the stop-and-start practice to refine phrasing, the conductor’s bop-a-dah-be-dah-ba-dat-dat explanations of how the music should sound, the group’s wonderful sight reading, the great arrangements, my sister’s fluid notes.

Monday morning, she will drive me to the airport. But the music will linger, long after. And I won’t let another seven years drift past before I return.

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Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Weather Spotting

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Hot. Cold. Hot. Cold. Hot. Cold. Hot.

‘Tis the season for unsettled weather, which always seems to be the case in New England. As the saying goes, if you don’t like the weather here, wait a few minutes.

My neighbors walk their dogs and tend their lawns in shorts, tee-shirts and flip-flops, but I’m still doing my thing with more layers than I’d like—long pants, a sweater or sweatshirt over a lighter top, my indispensable wrist warmers, socks and shoes.

I took the bold step of bringing my winter sweaters to the dry cleaners only last week, but missed them a few days later when we were deluged with cold rains that triggered my Raynaud’s and caused a messy leak in our basement. Why, I wondered, couldn’t the rain have fallen over Colorado’s burning Black Forest, where it was really needed?

Of course, you can’t control the weather any more than you can control a chronic disease with a mind of its own. The only thing you can control is the way you respond.

Managing my health takes much vigilance, many doctor’s appointments, good nutrition, regular exercise, taking all of my meds every day, tending my finger ulcers to ward off infection, getting as much of a good night’s sleep as I can, recognizing and managing stress triggers, appreciating love from family and friends, common sense, pro-active problem-solving and doing my best to stay positive. That’s the short list.

Dealing with the weather is a different beast. It’s not just about following forecasts so I know how to dress and keep warm. It’s also about trying to understand and not get overwhelmed by the strange shifts and extreme weather patterns we’re all experiencing. Fatal floods in Europe, record-breaking forest fires in the Rockies, the Oklahoma City tornado, last fall’s Superstorm Sandy—not a week goes by when there isn’t another extreme weather event somewhere around the globe. Lately I’ve been looking at the sky and feeling like it doesn’t make sense any more.

Mark Twain (or perhaps one of his contemporaries) famously said, “Everyone talks about the weather, but nobody does anything about it.” Well, I decided last week to do a little something. A bit of a weather geek to begin with, I drove an hour-and-a-half to Manchester, N.H., one evening to attend a three hour training as a National Weather Service (NWS) volunteer weather spotter.

Weather spotters fill in the observations that radar can’t pick up closer to the ground—like the size of hail or the siting of a funnel cloud, where there’s flooding or whether winds are strong enough to topple healthy trees. I can now explain how tornadoes form, what kinds of thunderstorms are the most dangerous and their warning signs. I have an official weather spotter ID and the number to call for our NWS bureau in Taunton, Mass., to report on signs of serve weather.

It’s my own small way of responding to climate change. If I can help to fill in the blanks about approaching storms, then maybe I’ll enable someone to get out of harm’s path.

It also gives me some sense of control, albeit illusory. At least I have a better understanding of what clouds signify and why hail falls and when to run to the basement.

In a perfect world, we wouldn’t have to worry about any of this—tornadoes that drop out of the sky and destroy elementary schools or diseases that appear out of nowhere and ravage our bodies. But the world is far from perfect. It just is. All we can control is our own response. This is mine.

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Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.