Living with Scleroderma

Reflections on the Messy Complexity of Chronicity

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Sister Act

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“Remember, with the slurs, keep the notes nice and light. Let’s pick up at measure 69.”

The conductor taps his baton on the black music stand, and the St. Louis Wind Symphony breaks into John Williams’s Midway March, with the flute section playing brightly above the lush harmonies. This is the group’s first of only two rehearsals before next Sunday’s concert, a week from today. All are experienced musicians. My older sister plays piccolo and flute, first chair.

3320572325_f56c081618It’s been decades since I’ve heard her perform. During this two-hour afternoon session, the group is spot-rehearsing summer show-stoppers like the Candide overture, a Gershwin medley, The Magic of Andrew Lloyd Webber, Big Band Bash. It’s up to each musician to practice and learn or review whatever needs polishing before next Sunday. My sister makes the syncopated piccolo riffs in Bernstein’s Candide sound easy.

Today is the last of my three day visit, my first trip out here in seven years. Far too long. But something always seemed to get in the way of travel—tight budgets, busy schedules, the fact that she made a number of trips east while our father was ailing from Parkinson’s, the fact that flying by myself is exhausting. We’ve kept in touch by occasional phone calls, Facebook and email. Weeks, months, years, have slipped by.

So many years that when I checked my bag at the Delta counter at Logan last Thursday afrernoon, I was shocked that I had to pay $25 for the privilege. “We’ve been doing that for years,” snapped the ticket agent. Well, sorry, I didn’t know—and, by the way, if you didn’t charge so much per bag, maybe there would actually be room in the overhead compartments for everyone’s carry-on luggage. But I digress.

I’d love to carry on my bag. But I can’t lift it overhead or pull it down, and I don’t want to have to ask for help all the time. Getting through security with just my small shoulder bag was exhausting, enough—pulling out my boarding passes, juggling my photo ID, removing and replacing my laptop, taking off my coat, shoes.

Other than being squished like a sardine in my window seat and partially losing my hearing in my right ear due to shifting air pressure on the descent into St. Louis (it cleared by the next morning), the trip was blessedly uneventful. It was a relief to see my sister waving at the edge of the security barrier when I arrived.

Over the past few days, we’ve gone shoe shopping (she helped me find a great pair of Naot sandals that are both elegant and comfortable for my difficult-to-fit feet), walked through the stunning Missouri Botanical Garden in 90-plus heat and humidity, attended the St. Louis Fringe Festival, had lunch with friends I haven’t seen in decades, played Scrabble (no chance of winning against my sister, who has become a Scrabble online maven) and watched a hilarious performance of Spamalot at the outdoor Muny Opera. I’ve shared my new weather spotting fascination with my brother-in-law, had wonderful conversations about favorite writers with my younger niece and enjoyed our joint interpretation of what Tarot cards have to say about my business prospects (trust your intuition).

But sitting in on the Wind Symphony practice is the highlight. Music was a big part of our childhood. My sister was always the lead flutist in our school orchestras and bands. I played first violin and was concert mistress as a high school senior. I also played alto, bass and contrabass clarinet in our wind ensemble. It’s been nearly 35 years since I’ve been part, albeit vicariously, of a band rehearsal.

As the musicians wander into the music department practice room at Missouri U-St. Louis, I try to guess what instruments they play from the shape of the cases slung over their backs and shoulders. No more of those heavy black fiberglass cases that I remembered from high school—everything is lightweight, durable mesh fabric.

Watching one of the clarinetists assemble his instrument, plucking black and silver sections from their blue-velvet lining, I’m surprised as my throat clutches and eyes tear. I miss this. I miss the tangy smell of oiled wood and the bitter-sweet taste of reed on my tongue. I miss being able to make music myself. I can’t play clarinet anymore, because I can’t tighten my lips around the mouthpiece or manage the keys. It’s been decades since I could play my violin—an impossibility with my damaged hands. Octave spreads on the piano are beyond me, now.

So, instead, I write on my laptop as I listen. Composing sentences, capturing rhythms in words, is my music making. I sway to Gershwin and big band hits as I type, stopping to focus on my sister’s flute solos. I enjoy the stop-and-start practice to refine phrasing, the conductor’s bop-a-dah-be-dah-ba-dat-dat explanations of how the music should sound, the group’s wonderful sight reading, the great arrangements, my sister’s fluid notes.

Monday morning, she will drive me to the airport. But the music will linger, long after. And I won’t let another seven years drift past before I return.

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Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Road Trip

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Hello, I love you, won’t you tell me your name?
Hello, I love you, let me jump in your game.

Taconic ParkwayI’m singing with Jim Morrison’s husky baritone, cruising west on the Mass Pike. It’s Sunday of Memorial Day weekend, drizzling, then raining, then sunny with patches of azure flashing behind wooly clouds, then pouring again, as I head toward the Hudson Valley to help Emily move home from college for a couple of weeks before she leaves for her summer internship.

Driving long distance is a meditation for me. As long as traffic isn’t onerous, I can focus on the present moment of the road before me while allowing the back of my mind to wander. Often, the answer to a problem I’m trying to solve will pop out of nowhere. During the dozen years that I used to commute 100 miles round-trip to Boston daily, I would do some of my best thinking during rush hour traffic jams.

But today, I’m just enjoying the classic rock road trip medley playing on my satellite radio and trying to keep my joints from locking up. I didn’t sleep well the night before, so singing words to old favorites is the best way to stay alert, and bopping to the beat helps me shift my weight so my back and hips don’t get sore.

If I ever get out of here…if I ever get out of here.

Wings will never rival the Beatles, but I still like McCartney. Most of the traffic, heavier than usual for a Sunday, drifts off the Pike at the exit to Interstate 84, heading, no doubt, for New York City and environs. Not yet few enough cars and trucks to set the cruise control, but easier from this point west.

Now that I don’t have to drive daily into Boston, I enjoy the road more. But commuting forced me to be a better driver. I had always been intimidated by heavy highway traffic, especially in and around a major cities, until about 17 years ago, when I agreed to participate in a study for new medication to treat Raynaud’s at Boston Medical Center. I had to drive into Boston once a month for a check-up as part of the study and realized the commute was not only doable, but I reveled in the sense of independence it gave me and the discovery that the city was more accessible than I’d thought. That led to the decision to seek a better-paying salary in Boston and twelve-and-a-half years as a marketing director in higher education. I had some hairy trips in bad traffic and nasty weather, but I never had an accident.

Working for myself now, I don’t miss the commute one bit. But on a day like today, I enjoy the feel of the road, the lush green landscape, the ever-changing sky. I just wish I weren’t quite as tired. Time to make a rest stop and stretch my legs.

Layla, you’ve got me on my knees.
Layla, I’m begging, darling please.
Layla, darling won’t you ease my worried mi-i-i-i-i-i-i-nd. . . . .

Thank you, Eric Clapton. Thank you Duane Allman. Thank you, Derek and the Dominos. No better song for driving, ever. More sun than rain, now, as I cross the New York border and head down the Taconic State Parkway.

I grew up farther south, along the Hudson, and there is something about the rolling landscape, the view of majestic blue Adirondacks on the horizon, the Dutch and Indian names for creeks and towns that feels comforting, familiar. I set my cruise control close to the 55 mph speed limit, sit back and glide up and down the hills. The Taconic is notorious for speed traps and deer. I will be glad to get out of the car soon.

Does anyone really know what time it is?
Does anyone really care about t-i-i-i-m-e?

Belting it out with Chicago, I finally reach the quaint Hudson River town near Emily’s college. Just a few more miles to go. The sun is out, it’s cool and windy. Rainbow pinwheels spin in a bakery’s front yard. The farm stand near the college is open for the season. I have figured out the structure for this week’s blog post.

I park behind the row of dorms near a few other parents, their cars crammed with luggage and boxes. Em arrives, smiling, with her bike and a few other items that we need to fit into my Prius. She’s already packed everything else into her sister’s Elantra that she’s borrowed for the year while Mindi is living in Tel Aviv.

The wind feels refreshing, now. It’s so good to stretch. We visit with a friend, drop off Em’s keys to the dorm that she’s overseen as a peer counselor (otherwise known as an RA) for the year, and go out for a late lunch at the local diner. The fish burger, sweet potato fries and tea revive my brain, a good thing. We have a three hour drive home, with me in the lead.

I switch from classic rock to jazz. Is it really possible that Em has just completed her junior year of college? Is it really possible that summer is almost here?

As we cross the Massachusetts border, the bottom arc of a huge rainbow bends from massive, scudding clouds to the Berkshires, below. I call Em, following several car lengths behind, on my cell. “Welcome back,” I say. “That rainbow is just for you.”

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Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Fantastic Voyage

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In 1966, when movies still cost 50 cents and popcorn a quarter, I went with a friend to the Peekskill Paramount movie theatre on a Saturday afternoon to huddle in the crowded balcony with a bunch of other giggly, wise-cracking kids and watch Fantastic Voyage.

In what has become a sci-fi classic, a team of miniaturized surgeons enter the body of a scientist to zap a life-threatening, inoperable blot clot in his brain; the scientist is the only person in the world who knows how to make the miniaturization state last more than an hour, a secret essential to U.S. Cold War military strategy.

The team travels in a mini submarine through blood vessels and organs, battling antibodies along the way and a fiendish saboteur in their midst. If that isn’t enough to pique your curiosity, the movie stars a very young Rachel Welch and won two Academy Awards for some pretty neat special effects before the days of computer animation.

I’ve been thinking of this movie lately and just added it to my Netflix queue. One of the curious aspects of living with a complicated disease for so long is that I’ve seen more and more of my own internal landscape in recent years. With each new complication of my scleroderma, there are tests and more tests. And with digital imagery and optic probes the norm in medicine, and X-ray results easily viewed on an exam room computer screen, I’ve seen some pretty fantastic, albeit sometimes disturbing, sights.

There are the basics—all the many, many X-rays of my deteriorating hands, with each iteration revealing less bone at the fingertips and more starbursts of calcium floating under the skin. There are some foot X-rays, too, more recent, to confirm calcinosis in my toes.

There was the MRI of my chest a few years ago, when a CT scan to check rasping in my right lung (a possible sign of interstitial lung disease) revealed a questionable spot. It turned out, my pulmonologist explained while we toured the results on his computer screen, that the spot was nothing to worry about, just evidence that I’d contracted histoplasmosis years before, probably while spelunking one weekend near Pittsburgh when I was in grad school. As he scrolled through the MRI, the inside of my lungs revolved like the ceiling of a planetarium speckled with tiny white stars. Some scarring, yes, but so far, nothing too debilitating.

There have been regular echocardiograms to monitor signs of pulmonary hypertension, a late-stage scleroderma risk. Sometimes I close my eyes and try to doze through this non-invasive but often uncomfortable procedure, which requires the tech to press a rolling probe all over my chest and ribcage. Other times I’ll distract myself by watching the dark computer screen, with its blue and red images of blood surging through my heart, like an animated deKooning.

More tests. A CT scan of my brain and skull X-ray one Fourth of July weekend when I started to go numb on the left side of my face. Cross-sections of my very own convoluted gray matter. Yes, that’s where all those thoughts and images and feelings ping around. No stroke, thank God; rather, an inflamed trigeminal nerve was the culprit. But there was something eerie about seeing an image of my own facial skeleton, not some Halloween mask—the exact position of my eye sockets, nasal cavity, cheekbones, jaw—shades of what will remain when the rest of me turns to dust.

Of course, there have been all the routine images, too—ultrasounds of my womb when I was pregnant with Emily, the squashed elliptical pancakes of my breasts as seen on a mammogram, a slew of dental X-rays revealing how some of the roots of my teeth are resorbing—a rare scleroderma complication. Fortunately, I slept through my colonoscopy a few years ago.

I’ve seen the pink marbled walls of my bladder and the black-and-white image of a PICC line snaking into one underarm vein and then the other, when the first side was blocked by too much scarring. Not fun.

Most intriguing, once we got past the unpleasantness of inserting an optical probe through my nose, was a view of my pharynx. This took place when I saw a speech therapy specialist a few years ago to evaluate problems with swallowing. There are times that I feel like food gets stuck in the back of my throat, and I worry about choking. She handed me items to swallow—crackers, apple sauce, Jello—tinged with Kelly Green food dye, so we could see if the pathway to my windpipe closed properly as I ate. It did, a great relief, and also fascinating. I thought of a camera lens opening and closing when you squeeze the shutter.

I’m sure, as time goes on and my scleroderma does its own thing and medical technology becomes ever more sophisticated, I’ll see even more of my innards. Not the kinds of images you put in your photo album, like pregnancy ultrasounds. But miraculous, nonetheless. Even if the reason we’re digging around with probes and such is due to damage caused by an insidious disease, I’m still amazed by the view.

We take our bodies for granted, all the inner workings so hidden beneath our skin. If we could see what was really going on inside, all the intricacies of our interior universe, how the balance here affects the balance there, would we take better care?

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Feast of Freedom

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My hands are in pretty good shape today. A blessing, because I spent all of last Thursday and Friday cooking our annual Passover seder—a five course extravaganza that I manage to pull off each year.

I’ve evolved the menu over decades, based on what works, what doesn’t and what everyone asks for and complains about if I don’t make it. For the past few seders, I’ve switched from a meat-centric meal to fish and vegetarian entrées, creating a new challenge to find great recipes for guests who still wish I’d make that brisket.

And I’ve tried to modify my approach to accommodate my hands, which I’ve managed to wreck a number of times in the past when I went overboard with elaborate menu planning. I pace myself through two days of cooking, choose recipes that are fairly simple but taste terrific, and always wear disposable vinyl gloves to protect my ulcers as I cook.

Al serves as sous chef and kitchen first mate, helping with all of the chopping, slicing, jar-opening, package-ripping, utensil-retrieving and the many, many, many rounds of dish-washing and drying as I power through preparation of each dish. I could not do this meal without his help. Not to mention the fact that he takes care of the huge task of switching over our kosher kitchen to our Passover dishes.

But for all my planning and experience, on Thursday I was struggling. My hands were killing me because much of our Passover cookware is old and cheap (no point spending money on stuff you use only eight days of the year), and harder to handle than our regular kitchen utensils. By the end of the evening, after I’d worn out my right hand from folding all the meringue into the spongecake batter, I sat down, exhausted, and wondered why I was doing this to myself once again.

I could simplify the menu—this year’s included Egyptian haroset, a paste made of dates, raisins and filberts; pickled salmon; Persian cucumber and yogurt soup; a Moroccan salad of fresh oranges and greens with a cinnamon dressing; a main course of Turkish leek patties, Moroccan eggplant and tomato casserole, and steamed asparagus; and apricot sponge cake, strawberries, grapes, figs and chocolate for dessert.

It’s a lot of work. But the truth is, much as it takes a physical toll, I don’t want to give it up. The meal was wonderful. Everyone loved it. There were barely enough left-overs for our Sunday night supper.

My bottom line is this: I just don’t want to give in to my scleroderma. I am incredibly stubborn, a perfectionist and, yes, a card-carrying control freak when it comes to anything I’m creating.

In Gabriel Axel’s 1987 film Babette’s Feast (based on a story by Isak Dinesen), the heroine, a French refugee who becomes the cook and housekeeper for a pair of Danish spinster sisters, creates an exquisite meal for them and members of their small, austere church community, to thank them for sheltering her over the years. I won’t spill the delicious secret twist that’s revealed at the film’s end, except for Babette’s concluding line: When the sisters realize she has spent all of her money to create her amazing gift of a meal, she answers, “An artist is never poor.”

Creating a wonderful meal for people you love is an art form. It’s nourishment wrapped in beautiful presentation and delicious flavor. It’s a gift that makes everyone feel good, that enhances sharing, conversation and connection. For the Passover seder, it’s also a reminder of all that we have to be grateful for, living in a free country. I don’t entertain often because of my hands. But when I do, I go all out. And I’ll keep doing so as long as I’m able.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

 

Why I Don’t Eat Meat but Still Wear Leather Shoes

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Living amidst abundance, graced with super-sized supermarkets that devote an entire aisle to the vast variety of mustards and ketchups Americans supposedly crave, we struggle with the luxury of choice: What to eat?

Years ago, I decided, out of religious commitment, to follow Jewish dietary law and keep a kosher home. No more ham-and-cheese sandwiches or shrimp cocktails. I didn’t really miss the forbidden foods, and the discipline gave my life needed structure and spiritual focus. In recent years, I’ve added a new requirement: stay away from meat.

In part, my reasons involve how my scleroderma makes it harder to eat meat. This is personal. There is, to my knowledge, no definitive research about the best diet for people with scleroderma.

I’ve simply learned over the years that if I ate red meat, I’d wake up in the middle of the night with indigestion and reflux. Sometimes, I’d aspirate the reflux and sit bolt upright out of a deep night’s sleep, gasping for breath. Not worth it, even though I used to love brisket.

I also find red meat difficult to chew and swallow. I’ve had a few decayed molars extracted because I can’t open my mouth wide enough for my dentist to fill cavities in the back. Sluggish esophageal motility has more than once caused me to gag on meat that I couldn’t chew completely. So, dense foods are problematic. But I have zero interest in pureeing my food, as some recommend. There are plenty of creative, nutritional alternatives for these issues without resorting to pablum.

Those are the pragmatic considerations. My decision to eliminate all meat from my diet is also ethical, inspired by my daughters while they were still in high school. Mindi, our oldest, was the first to disavow meat after learning how animals are abused when raised for slaughter. Emily, our youngest, came to the same conclusion about a year later after attending a week-long seminar on animal rights.

Between hearing what they had learned and expanding my repertoire of nutritious vegetarian meals for growing adolescents, I decided they were right. The cons simply outweighed the pros. An added benefit, going vegetarian significantly simplified our kosher kitchen, since we now only needed one set of dishes, instead of separate sets for meat and dairy.

That said, I am not a vegan, nor am I a pure vegetarian. I still eat fish because of the health benefits of anti-oxidants, but I’m seeking affordable resources for fish caught in the wild. I also take fish oil every day, which has significantly helped me fight colds.

And I still wear leather shoes. My feet are difficult to fit and require custom orthotics, because the fat pads have thinned due to scleroderma. There simply aren’t enough comfortable vegan shoe options with removable insoles, made from materials that breathe and won’t cause my skin to break down. So, this remains a compromise.

For me, the shift toward vegetarian eating has been an evolving process. The first step was giving up pork and shellfish, and separating meat from milk, as a daily reminder of my religious values. This is the next major ethical step I’ve made in redefining my diet.

I have friends who are vegetarian purists, who won’t eat “anything with eyes” and who won’t wear leather. I admire their commitment.

But even as I try to honor the rights of all living creatures, hoping to do my part to create a humane world, I also need to put my health first. Without it, I’m no help to anyone, least of all myself. So, for now, I’ll stay away from meat, but keep eating fish and wearing leather shoes. Not the ideal solution. Not yet.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.