Living with Scleroderma

Reflections on the Messy Complexity of Chronicity

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The other night, I dreamed I had normal fingers and had to choose the right color nail polish. Nothing garish. Maybe a pearl pink or cream, my old favorites.

Of course, when I woke up, there were my fingers in their night-old bandages. The only real surprise was that I had that dream at all. It’s been almost 30 years, nearly half my life now, that my fingers have been damaged by scleroderma.

The bones in my fingers are resorbed, so the tips look stubby and my nails, like moon slivers. With rare exceptions (two summers ago I managed to go bandage-free for a couple of weeks), at least half my fingers are protected by bandages to cushion chronic ulcers that take months and even years to heal.

Oddly, although my fingertips are extremely sensitive to the pain of ulcer infections, they are dulled receivers of everyday stimuli. I feel the world through a scrim of damaged nerve receptors, fleeting numbness, ointment, dressings and bandages.

So I drop knives and forks. Or think I’ve removed an errant strand of hair from my face when I haven’t. Or whack my fingertips when I misjudge the grasp of a faucet or doorknob.

I wear disposable rubber gloves, the kind you find in the drugstore first aid aisle, whenever I cook, so I test, poke and knead through a thin rubber barrier. It used to bother me to lose that tactile sensation of food, but now it’s just second nature—I assume doctors and dentists make a similar adjustment to examining gloves.

Sometimes, it’s incredibly frustrating. I always loved to explore with my hands, and now I just have to be extremely careful. I can sense more through the skin on my inner arms, so that’s a back-up strategy for choosing which fabric to sew or ensuring the right water temperature for proofing yeast. I can make general distinctions by touch, but need to extrapolate for finer gradations of texture.

Even as I wish my fingertip nerves weren’t so damaged, however, there are some advantages to my ever-present adhesive barrier. When I sew, I can use my bandaged thumb like a thimble, as long as I’m careful not to accidentally stitch or pin my wrapped fingers to the fabric. I rarely cut myself, because my fingers are so protected. The rubber gloves save me extra hand washing.

And my bandaged, odd fingers have proven useful in another way. Several years ago, when I managed a marketing department and had to make hiring decisions, I would always note how interview candidates looked at my hands. If they stared at my bandages and didn’t make eye contact, they didn’t make the cut.

Conversely, if they just glanced at my hands but spoke directly to me for most of our conversation, I’d give them more consideration. Arbitrary, perhaps, but I always sensed that people who related to me on a personal level and didn’t get sidetracked by my strange hands were more likely to be good people to work with. Most of the time, I was right.

I still envy other women’s beautiful fingers—at least sometimes. I wish I could actually get a great manicure and have stunning, shiny oval nails, or even flaunt those miniature hand-drawn flowers or intricate patterns with tiny glass beads for special occasions.

But this is not to be. So I do my best to keep my fingers clean and safe, reach carefully, and paint my toenails, instead.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Heat Wave

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In India, “cold weather” is merely a conventional phrase and has come into use through the necessity of having some way to distinguish between weather which will melt a brass door-knob and weather which will only make it mushy.
—Mark Twain, Following the Equator

It’s been extraordinarily hot in India in recent days, and here in Massachusetts, as well—not hot enough to melt brass door-knobs, but close. Temperatures in Delhi neared 109 degrees Fahrenheit over the weekend. We weren’t that far behind. I was in Cambridge on Thursday, and my Prius recorded 99 degrees outside around 7:00 p.m.

Normally, I enjoy hot weather. Summer is my time of year. My Raynaud’s quiets down, and my hands are comfortable most of the day. My ulcers heal. But last week’s record-breaking heat wave was too much, even for me. I hardly ever break into a sweat, but I was perspiring rivers.

We New Englanders are fond of saying if you don’t like the weather here, just wait a few minutes. Not so last week, when the heat wave locked in for nearly three solid days. I was grateful to be in air conditioning, which I usually can’t stand.

I used to work in an office that was so cold in the summer, those of us with slighter builds would walk around in heavy sweaters and, sometimes, coats. What amazed me (to put it mildly) was that we had to put up with it. Some of my co-workers had heftier physiques and thrived in the cold. Some were men, who just seem to burn hotter than women (and who always, especially the heftier variety, seemed to be in charge of the computer program that ran the heating and cooling system). Some had normal internal thermostats, unlike myself. Whatever the reason, the majority didn’t want it any warmer. Some complained it wasn’t cold enough. This, despite the need to conserve energy and finances. The shivering ones among us were told to put on sweaters and deal. Infuriating. One of the many reasons I’m glad to be working for myself, now.

When you have severe Raynaud’s and finger ulcers, air conditioning isn’t just a nuisance. It hurts. More than winter’s chill, because you can’t escape the cold in the space where you need to do your work, keep your appointments or shop for food. Your blood vessels contract and your ulcers smart like crazy.

I always carry layers with me in the summer—a sweater and my Wristies, which are great fleece hand-warmers. This usually does the trick. But it’s a constant balancing act, because my hands can turn blue even if it’s in the ’80s and a breeze starts blowing. Summertime is all about managing relative temperature changes, more than absolute temperature. Except above 90 degrees.

At home, we have no air conditioning, just ceiling fans and window screens. Al is fine with it, concerned for my health and glad to save money on our electric bill. Our daughters both grew up with no AC and understand my issues with staying warm. For most of the summer, this works well—except on days like the end of last week.

It was so hot (how hot was it?) that I went to the grocery store without a sweater to protect me from the freezer section. I never do this. I hate grocery shopping because the stores are so cold, they make me feel sick from numbness. It was so hot that I had to put my Aquafor ointment in the refrigerator so it wouldn’t turn to soup when I squeezed it onto my finger ulcers. It was so hot that I blasted the AC in my car at 68 degrees and directed the vents onto my face and neck to clear my logy brain.

Today, we’re back to normal, whatever that means with global warming on the rise—another rainy June day, thunderstorms, temperatures in the ‘70s. Later in the week, it’s supposed to creep up to 90 again. It’s going to be an interesting summer.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

What Did You Do to Your Hands?

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Scene One:
I’m buying a slice of pizza at a luncheonette across from Boston Medical Center before I drive back home from an appointment. As I fumble with my wallet, the middle-aged man behind the counter notices my five bandaged fingers.

“What did you do to yourself?” he asks.

“Oh, I get ulcers,” I say, giving my standard explanation.

“Does that hurt?”

“Sometimes, if they get infected.”

He nods and hands me my change.

 


Scene Two:
I’m taking my first Saori class to learn this fascinating Japanese weaving method that encourages free-form creativity and uses looms that accommodate people with disabilities. The young son of one of my new classmates comes up to greet me. He loves to run around and say a loud Hi to everyone when he’s not weaving wonderful fabric. I shake his hand, and he pulls back. Later, I offer him my hand again. My Raynaud’s has kicked in, and my palm is a mix of indigo and fuchsia from haphazard blood flow. He stares and says No, frowning and shaking his head as he steps away. I believe I’ve frightened him.

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June is national Scleroderma Awareness Month. It’s the month for walkathons to raise money for research, ramped-up efforts to publicize scleroderma’s devastating impact and continued lobbying for NIH funding of scleroderma research to find a cure.

All of this is important, focused work. But I wonder. How do you really get anyone to care about one more way that our bodies fail us, unless they have a vested interest? This time of year, there’s a race or walkathon or bike-athon for some disease every weekend, every cause has its own colored ribbon symbol or rubbery message bracelet, and Congress is still gridlocked over cuts in domestic spending. Not to mention that nobody pays attention to anything in front of them any more, just the alternate reality of their smartphone universe.

As part of its awareness campaign this year, the Scleroderma Foundation has developed a social media strategy to encourage patients to share personal stories about scleroderma and to create a video story collage that they plan to send to Washington lawmakers in the fall. I hope it works. For me, the art of storytelling remains the most viable means of building awareness, a primal way we connect as humans. But it requires a willingness to speak up and a willingness to listen. Neither are easy to come by for a disease like scleroderma.

Before I started writing this blog in January, I had a very hard time talking about my disease. In fact, I’ve been silent about it, for the most part, except when sharing with very close friends and family, for the better part of three decades.

When asked that all-too-common question by curious cashiers (the people most likely to ask, it seems)—What did you do to your hands?—or its variants—Did you cut yourself while cooking? Did you prick your fingers with a sewing needle? Did you stick your hand in a lawnmower?—I used to demure and just say I have sores. Now I say I have ulcers, and if I think the person is genuinely interested, I’ll explain I have scleroderma.

Responses range from compassionate concern to flickering interest in freakishness—the latter, I think, veiling the true reaction so powerfully expressed by the young boy I met in my weaving class: my hands look really strange and scary.

This is the hard truth of scleroderma. It’s rare, it defies easy explanations and it’s disfiguring in a way that others find threatening to their own body image and sense of well being.

It’s hard to talk about. It’s hard to draw attention to yourself, or more attention to yourself, and say, hey, I have this weird disease that makes my hands look like claws and my face like a mask and has screwed up my lungs and digestion and God knows what else.

Honestly, I just want to be known for who I am, not for this disease I live with.

But what I’ve come to understand and am coming to embrace is that scleroderma is a part of who I am. There’s no getting around it. I have this fucking disease, and I’m stuck with it for life. Which is why I’ve begun, finally, to write about it, tell my stories and try to make some sense of it all.

I have no awareness agenda. I am aware, however, that it’s important to get past the shame and embarrassment of living with a disfiguring chronic illness and share this journey with others who want to understand. This blog is my medium for that message. And maybe the next time a stranger asks what I did to my hands, I’ll tell them my real story.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Waking Up Is Hard to Do

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It takes me a long time to get going each morning. No matter when my cell alarm vibrates, I press snooze at least three times before I can fully gain consciousness and know for certain that I am here, in my bed, not hugging a newly planted tree to protect it from a group of strangers who want to rip it out of the soil.

A relief to know I’m not stuck in those early morning dreams. But then there’s the matter of getting up. My body is always stiff, my hands often a bit swollen and my mind is sluggish. In winter, as steam heat slowly rises in our radiators, all I want to do is lie there under the blankets and stay warm.

The first step is, literally, always the hardest. I know my joints will feel better once I start moving, so I roll myself up to sit on the side of the bed, let my normally low blood pressure adjust, then push up onto my feet. This entire process, from first alarm to standing upright, takes about a half-hour. I just have to plan it into my schedule.

Some of this morning sluggishness is due to my scleroderma—unless there’s some kind of emergency and my adrenaline blasts me out of bed, I simply cannot accelerate quickly from zero to even 30 mph.

Some of it also has to do with not getting quite enough sleep. I know I should get to bed earlier, but I’m hooked on the Daily Show and Colbert Report to have a good laugh before turning in. If I were wiser, I’d watch the night’s episode online the following evening. But it’s not the same, and, besides, I prefer bandaging my finger ulcers, a 20-minute process, while watching. It’s become my evening ritual.

Even when both shows are in reruns for yet another vacation hiatus, I’ll find a different reason to stay up too late, like finishing the Sunday Times crossword or watching episodes from the first season of Mad Men.

But mostly, my slow morning trajectory just is. When I used to commute every day to Boston, often an hour-and-a-half drive in morning rush hour, it was extraordinarily hard to get up early enough to beat the traffic.

Now, working for myself and being able to set my own schedule, I have more flexibility. It’s a mixed blessing—the feast-or-famine stress cycle of finding clients for my marketing consulting is offset by the freedom of knowing I can get a few more minutes’ rest in the morning if my body just isn’t ready to move. I set appointments for late morning and early afternoon to maximize my attention and alertness, and work after dinner, as needed, to put in a very full day.

Which is why I stay up until midnight to let my brain unwind, and why I have trouble getting up in the morning. Recently I read an essay by William Zinsser, one of my writing heroes, describing how he used to get to his office at the New York Herald Tribune around 10 o’clock each morning. It made me feel better. At least I’m in good company.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Stream of Consciousness

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It’s after 1:00 a.m. and I can’t sleep. One of my ulcers, that stubborn one near the tip of my middle left finger, won’t stop smarting. I try shifting positions, rubbing my hand, warming it under the pillow. Sometimes the pain is caused by a Raynaud’s spasm and eases as soon as my blood flows more freely.

But not tonight. I have to get up and redo the bandage. I don’t want to. It’s chilly in our bedroom, because I’m a fresh air freak and left the window cracked and it’s windy outside. But the ulcer stings and I can’t sleep. So I pull myself out of bed, grab all my hand stuff (bandages, Aquaphor ointment, Sorbsan dressing, cotton swabs, manicure scissors) and go into the bathroom so as not to wake Al (even though an overhead thunderbolt won’t disturb his slumber), turn on the light, cut off my bandage and redo the dressing.

This works, thank goodness. I must not have used enough Aquaphor the first time to salve the sore. Or maybe I didn’t cover the ulcer with a large enough piece of Sorbsan, an ecru-colored, felted material made of processed seaweed that binds with the ointment to create a gel-like cushion of protection. Or maybe it was the cheap CVS fabric bandages I use at night, which have some kind of waterproof coating that can irritate on occasion. I’m using my good, soft Coverlet bandages for this round. Not worth the night-time rationing routine.

So I go back to bed, snuggle under my blankets. And am wide awake.

Maybe it’s because I had to get up, even though my ulcer has finally quieted down. Or maybe it’s because I was writing well into the evening, eight hours of solid composing at the computer, working against a deadline to finish a client’s web content. Too much light from the computer screen before bedtime can affect your ability to sleep, I’ve read.

Maybe all that typing is why my finger was irritated in the first place. Except I don’t use it to type. I’ve become a master at touch-typing with only the fingers that can stand the pressure—and since I use a Mac wireless chiclet keyboard, the pressure is very light.

Maybe it’s because I’ve been immersed in words all day. When I write, I slide into a zone where an hour or two will disappear as the words fly from my mind, through my fingers to the keys onto the screen, and I won’t know what time it is. Even when I’m finished writing, the words whirl in my head, narrating story lines, fantasies, worries, what I have to do tomorrow, what I forgot to do today.

I lie in bed and the words swirl and swirl, until I remind myself that everything I’m thinking about will still be there in the morning when I wake up. I pour all the words into a large square box—this one is sea-foam green—close the lid, lock it and put it on a high shelf in the back of my mind where I know I can access it tomorrow.

Usually this works. Sometimes it doesn’t. Tonight, with God’s grace, it does, and I fall asleep. In the early morning, when my dreams are so sharp that I’m certain they’re real, I’m convinced I’ve been awake all night.

The sun shines through our bedroom shades, then slips behind a cloud. Wind puffs the curtains of the one cracked window. Half an hour after my cell alarm vibrates, I realize that I did sleep, for six hours, after all.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.