Living with Scleroderma

Reflections on the Messy Complexity of Chronicity

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Sew It Goes

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I spent the Fourth of July sewing. My project: a midnight-blue knit pencil skirt. It was an easy project, and I finished it Friday morning.

I needed a win. The longer term sewing project I’ve been struggling with for months, a tailored wool blazer, has gone through two pattern tests (muslins or toiles), and though I’m getting closer to the right fit, it will require a third toile that I don’t feel like doing right now. Among other things, it’s just too hot.

So I decided to make something simple. A good strategy. Especially since it took me an hour just to thread my serger, which is old and clunky but still sews a very clean, trimmed and overcast seam, perfect for knits. The skirt is nearly perfect. (Only I know where the mistakes are, and they are minor and don’t show.) It fits well, is comfortable, versatile, and an immediate wardrobe staple.

Another bonus: After I finished, I realized that the project had completely absorbed my attention. An excellent escape from all the stress of our current moment in history. What better way to ground myself than by creating something I enjoy wearing? So, I will be sewing more simple projects this summer, using up some of my decades-old fabric stash as well as a few new fabric purchases. No hand sewing required. I’ve found several great patterns and am looking forward to making them.

And keeping my mind clear and calm.

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Hand-off

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I’ve been dropping things lately. This is largely due to calcinosis in my thumbs that makes it harder to hold on. My dexterity waxes and wanes, depending on how a particular piece of calcium is working its way out through the skin, and currently some shards are on the move.

And so, Sunday night, when I tried to lift a large pot of cooked pasta over to the kitchen sink to strain out the water, you guessed it, the pot slipped and I splashed hot pasta water all over the kitchen floor. Thankfully, not the cooked pasta! And I managed to move out of the way so I didn’t get burned.

But I was really annoyed with myself. Al was home, fortunately, and calmly cleaned up all the water on the floor with old newspapers and towels, while I groused.

Finally I calmed down. And the meal turned out well.

I don’t usually get so frustrated with my hands. I try to take very good care of them and respect their limitations.

Which, of course, are my limitations. It’s a strange aspect of this disease, that my hands can look and feel so alien and disfunctional, but they remain a part of me. Even after four-plus decades living with scleroderma, I sometimes still find this surprising. I see my hands all the time, but there are moments when I’ll catch their reflection framed in a mirror and am shocked at how bizarre they look.

Then I remind myself that they are me, that regardless of how strange my hands appear, I’m still able to do as much as I do. And to be grateful for that. And to forgive myself for getting frustrated. It just is.

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Workout

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Memorial Day weekend was beautiful and warm here, a fitting beginning to the summer season. Finally, I’ve been able to go out without a jacket or coat, wearing just a sweater for an extra layer, if at all. We’ve had some rain, too, and as a result, everything is growing. Our new cherry tree has dozens of cherries, still green but getting plump. Our new blueberry bushes are filling out, too, and I’m looking forward to picking some berries in coming weeks.

The grass in our reseeded lawn, a nitrogen-restoring mix of fescue and clover, has grown quite tall, too. The clover takes a couple of seasons to establish itself (at which point the lawn becomes low-maintenance) but the grass has definitely taken hold. Meanwhile, Al has been away for the past week, visiting friends out west, returning Thursday morning. The yard is his turf, and he loves to putter outside. But at the rate the grass has been growing, by the time he comes home, I envisioned monkeys swinging from blade to blade. Or, more realistically, a happy neighborhood of deer ticks.

So, I decided that I needed to mow the lawn myself.

Now, I have never done this before. We have an old, gas-powered mulching mower, the kind with a pull starter-cord. It’s not terribly heavy, so I knew I could push it. But I wasn’t really sure how to operate it. So, I asked a mechanically-skilled friend who lives up the street to give me a lesson.

He inspected the oil and gasoline levels and adjusted the height, because I didn’t want to mow too close to the ground and chop off all the clover that has formed. It took him several tries to start the mower, because it had been sitting idle over the winter. Then I tried, but I didn’t have the grip or arm strength to yank it hard and fast enough. So he started it again for me. All I needed to do was grip the bar that controls on/off, push and mow.

Which I did. It was not terribly difficult, but it was not easy, either. The hardest part for my hands was gripping the bar to the mower handle, so it wouldn’t turn off before I was finished. Maneuvering it around our front yard took some pulling and shoving, especially because the grass was at least a foot tall. I worked up quite a sweat. Just as I was almost done, the mower stopped because it had run out of gas. Good timing.

Next step was to use the weed wacker to trim the borders of the lawn, but our extension cord only goes so far, so I had to leave that task only partially done. Also, the weed wacker vibrates intensely, not great for my hands.

After I put everything away, I proudly reviewed my handiwork. I could feel that I’d used muscles in my arms and legs that I haven’t challenged in a long time. It was actually good exercise, which I hadn’t expected. And the front lawn looks better, albeit far from pristine. Thanks to my good neighbor, I learned a new skill. But if I ever have to care for the lawn more often, I will definitely get rid of that old mower and buy a battery-powered version that is less polluting, more energy-efficient, and easier to operate.

That said, I accomplished my goal. And I proved to myself in the process that my hands are still capable of more than I have come to assume over my decades with scleroderma. Well worth the experiment.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.

Best Laid Plans Department

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And so, despite my best efforts, I did get Covid last week, after all. In fact, I tested positive on Tuesday afternoon. At first, I thought it was just allergies. All the trees have finally bloomed here, and pollen is in the air.

Just to be sure, though, I took a test. When I first looked at the results, I thought I was still okay, but there was the faintest positive stripe. So I repeated it. Same thing. And by evening, I didn’t really need to doubt it. I was starting to get chills, and my throat was swelling.

By morning, I felt truly rotten. No fever, but all the symptoms I get with a virus, especially severe Raynaud’s and joint aches and headache and sinus congestion. My hands felt like blocks of ice, and it took at least a half hour of huddling under blankets and meditative breathing to regain feeling. I called our primary care nurse practitioner’s office, and by midday I’d gotten the go-ahead to start Paxlovid.

This is the second time I’ve caught Covid. Last time was two summers ago, right before we were supposed to go on vacation, causing a total reorganization of travel plans.

This time, it hit right before my 70th birthday and Passover, which begins tonight. So all plans for both had to be scuttled and rethought.

Thanks to my wonderful daughters and husband, my birthday turned out to be a lovely celebration, despite being sick. The Paxlovid kicked in enough for me to feel somewhat better when I woke on Thursday—and discovered in my email a gift certificate from the family, orchestrated by my daughters, for an Air BnB writing retreat, good for anytime I want to go. In addition, my younger daughter had created a fantastic 70th birthday video with greetings from family and friends, including some people I had lost touch with over the years. It gave me a great boost and is a wonderful keepsake.

Al brought home flowers, and later, he picked up a nice dinner from one of our favorite restaurants to eat at home. So, I felt fully celebrated and grateful—and resilient. Take that, Covid!

We’ve had to upend our Passover plans, because we are just barely clearing the hurdle of having to mask in public (five days after you feel better, have no fever and no symptoms). So we are doing a Zoom seder with our immediate family for the first night, and just me and Al, the second. It’s a small and quiet holiday this year. Given my energy level post Covid, that’s just fine. Cooking for just the two of us on Sunday wiped me out.

The one bright side of this, as my Boston Medical rheumatologist said to me weeks ago when we were discussing pros and cons of a spring Covid booster shot, now that I’ve had the latest variant, most likely JN.1, I’ve gained some protection against it. At least, I sure hope so. This virus is not to be messed with, especially for those of us with compromised immune systems.

And so, Dear Reader, I hope you stay well and avoid Covid. But if it nabs you, be sure to ask for Paxlovid. It significantly reduces risks of the virus and really made a huge difference for me. The most recent research says chances of rebound are slim. It makes your mouth taste bitter, but that’s a small price to pay.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.

Something Completely Different

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The sun is bright overhead as I write on Monday afternoon, a few hours before the solar eclipse is set to begin here in Central Massachusetts. We’re expecting that the moon will block about 90 percent of the sun at 3:28 p.m. I have my two pieces of cardboard to create a camera obscura, a pinhole in one piece through which I can project the eclipse’s image onto the other, so as not to fry my retinas.

On a day of a rare celestial phenomenon, it seems all the more appropriate to break from my routine here and share some good news that has nothing to do with scleroderma. I’ve occasionally menioned on this blog about writing my yet-to-be-published work of historical fiction, Line of Flight, set during the First World War. It’s the story of a mother’s journey to find her estranged daughter, who has run off to France with her beau to volunteer for the French ambulance corps. The good news: within the past few weeks, two excerpts from Line of Flight have published on two separate online literary journals.

And so, in an act of shameless self-promotion—and if you’d like to read something that will take your mind off this nasty disease and related medical concerns, or any other stress in your life—I share a few links:

  • The opening of Line of Flight appears in the April 2024 edition of Embark, which presents openings of ten unpublished novels, twice a year. This happens to be their 20th issue, and I’m in good company. You can read my novel’s opening here.
  • A chapter called “The Sinking” is in the spring 2024 edition of The Writing Disorder, an aptly named literary journal for those of us afflicted by this form of art. The action takes place on the fated last voyage of the Lusitania on May 7, 1915. Read it here.
  • I’ve started a Substack newsletter, History Making, that digs into lessons learned from researching and writing historical fiction, as well as other works of historical fiction that I admire, the long and winding road to publication, and related topics. I’m publishing a post twice a month, and subscriptions are free. So, if you’re curious about the writer’s life and this genre of fiction, you can find it all here.

I said none of this has anything to do with my scleroderma—but that’s actually not quite true. When I was growing up, my hands were extremely dexterous. I could make any kind of art or craft, and I played numerous musical instruments. Once, when I was perhaps ten years old, I recall lying in bed and thinking about what it would be like to lose one of my senses. I decided I would never want to lose the touch of my gifted hands.

That was not to be. But I have realized over the decades of dealing with this disease that writing is my art form, my way of creating images and making music. It took me eight years and twelve drafts to get my manuscript to the point where I feel ready to seek publication. And I’ve been seeking an agent and/or publisher for the past two. That involves a lot of patience and persistence and a refusal to give up—all skills I’ve honed through living with scleroderma.

So, getting this far with my novel is a major milestone, indirectly inspired by managing a complex and chronic disease. And, with any luck, my manuscript will get into an enthusiastic publisher’s hands sooner than the next total eclipse of the sun.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.

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