Living with Scleroderma

Reflections on the Messy Complexity of Chronicity

Hearing

Snow Day

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On Sunday we had our first big snow of the season, 15.5 inches, officially. Thankfully, the power stayed on despite the heavy, wet snow, although the pole that holds our bird feeder snapped under the weight. Al shoveled our drive and walkway three times, more than earning a good night’s sleep. I clomped through deep snow in our backyard to rescue the feeder and hang it by the back deck, so the birds could still find some food in the storm. Inside, our home stayed warm and cozy, as the world around us slowed down.

I always love this kind of snow, early in winter, before it turns grubby and sloppy and monotonous. The transformation is stunning. Snow outlines lacy tree branches, drags down evergreen boughs, and covers roofs like thick layers of buttercream frosting. Side roads stay white, even after plowing, with high borders lining both sides. Only a few cars venture out, and no planes drone overhead. Quiet reigns.

On Monday afternoon, I bundled up in a long sweater under my down coat, snow boots, wool hat, warm mittens, and sunglasses, and set out to see how the neighborhood had changed.

School was canceled to give the city time to clean up after the weekend storm, but I only saw one dad pulling two of his kids on a red plastic sled, while the other two walked alongside. One of the kids on the sled, his cheeks bright pink, licked a huge ball of snow. I used to love that wintry treat, too, when I his age. Also making snowmen, but so far, none to be seen.

Elsewhere, a few neighbors were shoveling their drives or brushing off cars. Most folks had, like Al, done the main clearing on Sunday. You could tell who had snow blowers by the wide paths along sidewalks that were already melted down to pavement. An icicle shattered on someone’s front steps. Dollops of snow, like whipped cream, clung to branches. Snow covered half of a neighbor’s roof, while the other half had melted to reveal an array of black solar panels.

Aside from enjoying the scenery, the best part of my walk was savoring the moist air that eased my winter-indoors-too-dry nose and eyes, and the fact that it was warm enough to walk with my mittened hands outside my pockets for the whole mile-and-a-quarter route. The air smelled fresh and clean. My head was much clearer when I got home. As I wrote this post, I could hear a red-tailed hawk calling somewhere nearby.

All of this will wash away by mid-week, in another storm, but rain this time. So, here’s to living in the present moment and enjoying all the beauty that surrounds us, each day. You only have to look to find it.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.

Give a Listen

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My mother was a very good listener. When I was growing up, we would spend hours together, sitting on our couch, as I told her all about my day, friends, latest boy crush, and whatever else was on my mind. She was ever attentive, thoughtful, and gave me the time I needed to express myself. I always felt heard.

In her years at Black Mountain College, Mom was fascinated by psychology, the physiology of perception, and Gestalt theory. After graduation, she dreamed of becoming a psychiatrist. Preparing for med school in the late ’40s, she assisted in research about brain chemistry at the University of Illinois-Chicago. Then she met my dad and, like so many women of her generation, dropped her career plans to devote herself to him and becoming a mother.

But she remained a student of human nature, and I learned a lot in our long conversations about why people do what they do, lessons I’ve carried and refined throughout my life. And I learned how to listen with intention, too. It was perhaps her greatest gift to me.

I was thinking about all this while listening to an interview with the writer David Brooks about his latest book, How to Know a Person. Describing what he learned while researching the book, Brooks talks about ways to have the kinds of meaningful conversations that bring people closer together. Being fully present, asking questions that go beyond superficial, being genuinely interested in the answers and probing deeper, resisting the urge to be a “topper” who can only relate to another’s experience by turning every conversation into one about yourself—all are key.

Much of what he discusses resonates with the lessons I learned from Mom. At a time when so many feel so alienated from each other, it’s worth a listen. Here’s the link.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.

Image: Harli Marten

Through Rain and Gloom

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It’s another one of those weeks when I have a cluster of medical appointments. And they involve a lot of driving. Monday dawned with a deluge of rain, which made the prospect of driving into Boston yesterday morning all the more delightful. Wednesday, the next double appointment day, will at least be sunny.

Both ways yesterday, the driving was intense. Visibility in the worst of the Nor’easter downpour (at least without snow, thank goodness) was about ten car-lengths. And, of course, there were some geniuses on the Mass Pike who chose to ignore all the electronic signs that observed that “wipers on means headlights on” and oh, by the way, this is the law.

The one big blessing in all this was that traffic was not nearly as heavy as usual, perhaps because people are taking off for the holidays ahead of time, or because they were smart enough to stay home. Despite all the rain, I was able to make the drive in a little over an hour, even driving below the speed limit.

I could have canceled and stayed home. But appointments are hard to come by, there’s never a convenient time, and I didn’t want to wait another few months to reschedule.

Most importantly, it was good to have my dental check-up and learn that my teeth have not resorbed more. It was also good to see my wonderful cardiologist, who gave me an A+ on my ECG and said my Type II pulmonary hypertension seems to be well-c0ntrolled with my current medication. There’s no cure for it, but I’m holding steady. And I need to exercise more. I know, I know. I will try to do better.

I was tired when I got home, but I made it safely and got the reassurances I needed that all is well, all things considered. Worth driving in a deluge.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.

Image: Jessica Knowlden

The Power of Art to Heal

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It’s been one of those stretches when all of my medical appointments jammed together. Since last Thursday, I’ve had one tele-med plus two in-person appointments at Boston Medical. Thank goodness for remote visits, or I would have had to drive into Boston to the same place on three different days instead of “just” two.

Even so, I am grateful for the excellent medical care I receive. I was reminded of this all the more while recently watching a new documentary, Angel Applicant, by filmmaker Ken August Meyer.

Meyer lives with diffuse scleroderma, the most aggressive form, and he tells of how he found comfort and insight into his experience from the art of Paul Klee, who died of complications from the disease in 1940, seven years after being exiled from Nazi Germany to Bern, Switzerland. Klee is a favorite of mine, too, for his luminous paintings, as well as for my sense of kinship with him as an artist who created some of his best works during the three years that he wrestled with systemic sclerosis.

Meyer’s film is the most meaningful, poignant, and true story of what it means to live with scleroderma that I have yet encountered. Though it is not in wide distribution, it won multiple awards this year and is currently available to stream on DOC NYC for $15, through November 26. I recommend it highly. You can find the link information here.

I must add that it was not easy for me to watch. Meyer’s experiences, though more debilitating than my own, resonated deeply. Everyone’s encounter with scleroderma is unique, and his has been brutal. Even as I have been living with my own version of this inscrutible disease for more than four decades, now, I gained a different sense of what I’ve been up against all these years that really shook me. At the same time, I profoundly appreciated how he has come to terms with all that scleroderma has thrown at him through his exploration of Klee’s exquisite art. We each have to find our own path in dealing with chronic illness. Meyer’s journey is inspiring.

Above all, the love of Meyer’s family and friends has been essential to his ability to persist through life-threatening challenges. I feel equally blessed.

To you and yours, Dear Reader, my best wishes for a healthy and happy Thanksgiving. Be well.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.

Image: Communing with Paul Klee at the Museum Berggruen in Berlin, 2018. Photo by Al.

The View from Black Mountain

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Eighty years ago, my mother graduated from Black Mountain College in North Carolina. She was one of the few students in this small, experimental college to actually graduate, though the fact that the institution was never accredited caused some issues when she began to apply for work beyond the home in the 1970s.

No matter. BMC was a unique, character-shaping environment that left a deep impression on all who studied and worked at its bucolic campus, beneath the beauty of the Blue Ridge Mountains, near Asheville. The college, which existed from 1933 to 1957, placed the arts at the core of its curriculum, with a particular focus on how a specific material or medium—paint, clay, fiber, paper, wood, concrete, photography, dance, music, poetry, and more—defines and informs the act of creating. The place was a hive of interdisciplinary cross-fertilization and produced a generation of extraordinary talents, taught by some of the most influential artists and thinkers of the 21st century.

My Mom, however, was not an artist. She was a psychology major. But she also helped to build BMC’s Lake Eden campus, its second home, as part of the school’s work collective. Collaboration was key to the BMC ethos, perfected in the work program. So was democratic governance by students and faculty. Among Mom’s fondest recollections of her three years at Black Mountain was learning carpentry, pipe-fitting, masonry, and electrical wiring to help build the Studies Building and the college’s farm buildings.

I was immersed in this inspring environment over the past weekend at a conference about Black Mountain, which I shared with our younger daughter. It was a fascinating deep dive into scholarship about BMC, its students and faculty and staff, its unique educational philosophy. We met some truly wonderful people who welcomed us into their circle with open arms. It was also a needed respite from the chaos gripping the world, even as grim headlines tap-tap-tapped on my mind throughout our stay.

Somehow, despite all its many financial struggles, BMC managed to flourish through the Great Depression and World War II as an avant-garde island in the Jim Crow South. The McCarthy era of Red-baiting, as well as changes in GI education funding, eventually spelled its demise. But the cultural and intellectual contributions, as well as the mythology of Black Mountain, live on. I will be processing what I’ve learned for a long time. Already, though, I feel the gravitational pull toward a BMC way of thinking and doing. All good.

Here are some images of our visit to Asheville, the weaving exhibition at the heart of the conference, the former campus, and the stunning Blue Ridge Mountains. Enjoy, y’all.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.