Living with Scleroderma

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In Search of Earthworms

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On Sunday, in 90 degree heat, I decided it was time to weed our backyard rock garden. I haven’t done any gardening in several years, mainly because the last time I tried, I messed up my hands. But I couldn’t stand it any more.

Our yellow day lilies, just bloomed, were half-hidden by an encroaching jungle. Between the extreme temperatures and forecasts of more heat, humidity and thunderstorms for the coming week, I figured if I didn’t do something, the weeds would thrive at the lilies’ expense and choke out any hint of beauty.

Besides, weeding seemed like the perfect antidote to all the words swirling in my mind—a writer’s liability. Perhaps the physical work would negate the narration and bring some insight.

I bandaged my finger ulcers with extra care to minimize irritation, lathered on sunscreen and insect repellant, donned an old straw hat, found my lavender gardening gloves in a basket in the kitchen (their special coating keeps out the dirt but allows skin to breathe, essential for my hands), located my angle weeder in the garage (a curved, sawed-edge tool with a prong at the tip), and headed into the backyard.

It was already steamy by 10:30. I tackled a few tall weeds—at least four feet high—first. I have no idea what they were, but they pulled out of the hot, dry earth easily. Ginger, my constant shadow, sniffed around the yard a bit, then wanted to go back inside after about a half-hour. I kept working.

Wild violets had carpeted much of the rock garden. They’re pretty in the spring, but very aggressive, leaving no room for much else. They’re also tenacious. I quickly discovered that I’d have better luck digging and leveraging out the roots with my angle weeder, rather that trying to pull with my hands—more effective, less strain.

As I dug and prodded and pulled, I wondered where the earthworms were. The ground was parched from the five-day heat wave, so maybe they were hiding farther beneath the surface. But their absence surprised me. When I was growing up, I used to love to spend a hot summer afternoon weeding in the shade of my parent’s front garden, watching the earthworms crawl amidst crumbles of dirt, their soft pink bodies squeezing and stretching as they aerated the soil. Wherever they appeared, the earth felt cool and smelled rich.

Mosquitos buzzed in my face, drawn by sweat. I swatted them away, smearing my cheeks with dirt, and kept on weeding. I discovered a forgotten sapling that I’d planted a year ago in the back of the garden. Somehow, it had survived all the snow and cold of winter. Still not much bigger than a twig, it had quite a few leaves. I cleared the ground around it for more sun. Nearby, I left what looked like a wild rose that had taken root, perhaps a mistake, since they’re invasive.

Weeds near the stone steps and larger rocks in the garden proved much harder to evict.  I tried prying them out with an old trowel, but the trowel bent under pressure. So I found a long handled tool in the garage with a curved fork at one end and managed to claw out some dense root clods. I sawed off a few woody weeds that were impossible to dislodge.

As I worked, I tried to shut off the constant flow of description in my head. All the obvious gardening metaphors played through my mind—clearing away the clutter, seeing what’s really in front of you, enabling new growth/life/ideas. But the only way to achieve that through weeding, to turn it into a meditation, is to focus and stop the word flow.

I never got there. I just kept working until I’d cleared as much as I could and my heart was pounding too loudly in my ears from all the heat. It occurred to me that the best thing about weeding is the immediate gratification of making room. I found a slug, glistening on a blade of grass. I observed how some roots are like fine hairs and others, like white and purple carrots. I imagined planting basil and wildflowers.

By 1:00, with sweat flinging off my hair, I declared my weeding done. My hands felt okay, but my back and legs, weary. Grateful to discover I could still dig in a garden, I stepped back to review my handiwork. Plenty of weeds left to be pulled, but the lilies’ sunny trumpets were now easily admired.

Back inside, Ginger at my feet, I sat down at the kitchen table and drank a tall glass of seltzer. Time for a cool shower. It had been a good morning, though no great, hoped-for insights about work or my writing or something else from all that weeding. Such things don’t come when chased. They prefer to tunnel beneath the surface and emerge when ready.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com

Spilled Coins

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Quarter past ten. Why does it always take almost as much time to drive 50 miles from my home into Boston as it does to maneuver through local traffic and park for my rheumatology appointment?

I’ve driven round and round the garage, finally located a space on the sixth level. Heading toward the stairs, I notice the elevator has just arrived and decide to shave a few minutes. For some reason, I have it in my head that I’m late, when I’m actually, amazingly, early for a change.

A curly haired woman in capris steps into the elevator ahead of me. As the doors begin to close, another woman with a rolling briefcase runs, calling for us to wait. The first woman reaches her forearm to hold the door. “I’m not very good at this,” she apologizes. “But you did it!” says the third passenger.

When the curly haired woman steps toward the back of the elevator to make room, I notice her hands. They are frozen into fists, with scabs from ulcers on the back of each knuckle. Her face is smooth and tight, lips pulled into a grin. She carries her paper coffee cup in a pink rubbery sleeve with two handles that she can hook with each hand.

As familiar as I am with scleroderma, I’m startled. I don’t often meet a fellow traveller. I feel badly for her. Her hands seem so much worse than mine. I wonder if I should say something. But casually commenting, “So, I see you have scleroderma, too,” feels awkward. There’s no hiding this disease. We all want our privacy.

We both walk quickly across the street and into the medical center. She pauses to study the floor directory. I signal the elevator and am the first one in, this time. We exit at the same floor, with me a few steps ahead. We sign in for our appointments simultaneously. I overhear her saying that she is seeing the same rheumatologist. Her appointment is the one before mine.

As I open my wallet, a dozen coins spill onto the carpeting. Great. This is the price of leaving the coin compartment unzipped to save my fingers. The curly haired woman is the first on her knees to help me. She scoops up some quarters and dimes with her fists and places them on the counter before I can flip a few into my palm. “I often find using a piece of paper helps,” she says. I thank her, marveling at her speed.

We sit on opposite sides of the waiting room. She scrolls on her pink-encased smart phone. I type on my laptop. Our doctor is running late, as usual. I think how grateful I am that I can still type. I notice how adept she is at maneuvering objects with her two fists. I keep track of her turn, since mine will be next. She disappears into the warren of exam rooms.

When I finally see my doctor, an hour later than scheduled, we go over all my latest symptoms and difficulties. My ulcers have been particularly troublesome for the past few weeks, due, no doubt, to the odd extreme temperature changes of late. It’s frustrating, I tell him. They’re sore all the time. But, I add, there was this woman in the waiting room who had the appointment before me. Her hands were so much worse. What do I have to complain about?

It’s only a few days later, when I recall her comment about how a sheet of paper helps her to scoop up coins, that I realize she may well have thought the same of me and all my bandages.

This is a jarring disease. It disfigures and contorts the body. But it doesn’t straightjacket creativity, so essential for coping. My curly-haired counterpart has figured out how to scoop up coins with her fists. I have found the lightest touch keyboard so I can still write with my bandaged fingers. I wouldn’t trade my frustrating but familiar problems for hers, and I expect she would say the same of me. Maybe we’ll talk about it, next time our appointments coincide.

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Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Why I Don’t Do Much Housework

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I like a clean house. And the older I get, the more I hate clutter. Do we really need all this stuff that just takes up room and collects dust?

The clutter issue has become more salient as I’ve struggled to keep our home as clean as I’d like. I used to manage most of the housework myself, years ago, when the girls were still young. Every Friday, while they were in school, I’d clean the house from top to bottom in preparation for Shabbat. I’d dust every tchotchke, vacuum under the beds, mop the bathroom and kitchen floors, the whole works. I was exhausted by the end of the day, when we’d finally sit down for our Friday night meal. But I also felt a sense of accomplishment and renewed calm, with our home restored to order.

This was before I got a full-time job and began commuting to Boston. It was also before my hands simply became too damaged to manage the work. At that point, we hired a cleaning service.

Over the years, we’ve taken a break to save money, only to rediscover that the only way to maintain my cleaning standards is to have someone come every other week to do all the heavy housework. I picked our current service because they use environmentally friendly products and are very reliable.

Still, it bothers me. There is something about not being able to do this myself that feels like failure. I’m sure this sounds silly. Women have striven for years to be free of the drudgery of housework. It shouldn’t be “women’s work” in the first place. (In all fairness, Al does help a lot around the house, with laundry, dishes and yard work, as well as grocery shopping.)

But the reality is, no one will ever clean my house the way I once could. Whenever I get aggravated and try to tackle the stuff that’s still not the way I want it, I end up hurting myself. Even if I wear gloves to protect my hands, I inevitably smash an ulcer or otherwise damage my skin.

Last Friday, when all the workmen who had been tromping through our house for the past two weeks finally finished connecting our new energy-efficient heat pumps and installing triple-pane windows, I looked at all the tracks across the kitchen floor and couldn’t stand to wait for our cleaners to arrive this week.

So I went out and bought a floor mop that sprays cleaning fluid so you don’t need to wrestle with a heavy bucket and wringing out a sponge mop.

This presented several unanticipated problems, however. First there was all the shrink wrap and plastic packaging to remove, one of my pet peeves that requires deft maneuvers to avoid mashing my hands. Then I had to pry open the battery holder with a knife because I couldn’t slide the compartment door open.

Then we came up one battery short. While Al ran to the store right after he got home from work to pick up more AAs (and stay out of my way because I was on a tear), I vacuumed up all the flotsam and jetsam from the window installation. When he returned, I began mopping, erasing every trace of work boots on the kitchen and dining room hardwood floors. This felt great. I’d actually managed to clean the kitchen floor on my own.

But. As soon as I’d finished, I realized my left ankle was sore, and my back, and my joints were acting up. One more reality check. I just can’t do what I used to be able to do.

This is what’s so frustrating. I’m sure it doesn’t really matter if our home doesn’t sparkle.  I know the extra degree of clean is all in my head. I’m grateful that we can afford some help and, in the process, support another woman entrepreneur. I just hate feeling like I have to rely on others to do something so basic as mop my kitchen floor. It’s one more reality of this disease.

So the only alternative is to make it easier for our cleaners to clean. And that means reducing the clutter. I have a long list. But it’s a worthwhile effort, and one I can still manage, without help—to decide what’s really essential.

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Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

The White Glove Test

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Years ago there was a commercial—at least, I think so, because I can’t find it on YouTube, which is, of course, the repository of all things ephemera—that involved a nosey neighbor who wore white gloves. She would come to visit, and while her hostess wasn’t looking, check to see if there was any dust on the furniture by swiping a tabletop with one of her gloved fingers. Heaven forbid if she found a smudge and you failed The White Glove Test. Your reputation as a proficient homemaker would be ruined.

That was, of course, back in the day when women wore white cotton gloves to go shopping and white kid gloves to a cocktail party. My mother used to outfit me and my sister in white cotton gloves, black patent leather shoes and roll brim hats with grosgrain ribbons that dangled down our backs when we went into New York City for an outing. You could walk into any department store and find a variety of fine gloves for every occasion, and a saleswoman who knew how to fit you.

No more. So when I recently had the brainstorm to use white cotton gloves at night to relieve my ulcer-ridden fingertips from the bandages that have begun to shred my skin like cellophane—an insidious problem that seems to have arisen from some kind of reaction to the adhesive in the only bandages I can tolerate otherwise—I went online.

This is why I love the Internet. Type in a phrase like “white cotton gloves,” and you discover a variety of options plus an anthropological snapshot of how our culture has evolved from the formality of the early ‘60s to our denim-casual style of 2013. No dress gloves in the top ten. But you can find white cotton costume gloves from party stores and white cotton gloves from parade uniform suppliers.

Dress-up resources aside, the best option, for my purposes, were white cotton gloves from a photography supply site for handling archival film and other materials that shouldn’t get smudged by the natural oils in your skin. The kind of oils I don’t have enough of to keep my fingers lubricated and my skin elastic.

These lightweight gloves cost about eight bucks for a dozen pair. They are so thin, I can text with them on my iPhone. And they’re hand-washable.

Best of all, they seem to be helping my skin to heal. My new routine at night, after I shower and bandage any ulcers that are open wounds, is to slather my other fingers with a really good moisturizer, dip the most delicate tips in Aquaphor ointment (which I’d normally bandage for protection from overnight cracking) and pull on the gloves.

It feels absolutely luxurious to get out of those bandages, even while I sleep. And the treatment is working. In just a few days, I went from seven heavily bandaged fingers to four. This is a major accomplishment. Especially in January in New England.

If I’m not going out of the house, I can even cut back to two bandaged fingers, and either wear hand lotion under a pair of the white cotton gloves to protect my fingers while I type (I cut down the fingers on one pair and stitched them on my sewing machine to fit my stubby fingers for day use), or swaddle the most sensitive tips in white cotton-polyester finger cots—like little white socks for your fingers, which I also found online.

Now, you may ask, why didn’t I think of this before? I’ve spent a small fortune on bandages, ointments and dressings to protect my fingers over the last 30 years. Honestly, I don’t know. Probably because I’ve been so focused on finding the right bandage that it didn’t occur to me. Also, my finger skin is extraordinarily fragile because my circulation is lousy, even with medication. And I’ve had far too many infections. So I’ve always erred on the side of overprotection at the first sign of damage. What spurred this latest experiment was a conversation with a wound care specialist. When I showed him my shredding skin, he said you need to get out of the bandages. His ruminating about silicon finger protectors got me thinking about low tech solutions, and here I am.

The system is not foolproof. Of course, nothing with scleroderma can ever be that simple. I have to continue to be vigilant, to catch any skin cracks or scaling, and just keep moisturizing during the day. The finger cots really help with this, because I can moisturize any damaged skin, slip on the cot, and keep going.

Right now I’m typing with four bare fingers on my right hand. One, my ring finger, has had an ulcer that has refused to heal for at least six years. I’ve gone without a bandage or open sore on that fingertip for over a week. In January. In New England.

So, miracles can happen. I’ll continue to bandage up against dirt, bacteria and the elements when I go beyond my doorstep. And I know that my ulcers will continue to wax and wane. But at least I can get some relief at night. And who knows. Maybe white cotton gloves will come back in style someday.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

What Works for Me

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Every case of scleroderma is different. But after nearly 30 years with this disease, I’ve learned a thing or two about how to manage. So here are some basic suggestions that I hope will make life easier for you or someone you love with scleroderma:

Get the Best Medical Care You Can Find
This probably goes without saying, but it’s the single most important step you need to take to deal with this incredibly complex disease. If at all possible, find a medical center that specializes in scleroderma, even if you have to travel for occasional visits. Both the Scleroderma Foundation and Scleroderma Research Foundation can help you locate the nearest scleroderma specialists.

I’m blessed to live within an hour’s drive of Boston Medical Center, where not only the Rheumatology Department has extensive expertise in the disease, but also many other specialists do, as well. It really helps to have a cardiologist or dermatologist or nephrologist who also knows scleroderma, and you don’t find that unless you’re seeing physicians at a center where there’s a critical mass of scleroderma patients.

Get Enough Sleep
We’re all too busy. We all try to pack too much into each day. Especially if you’re juggling work and family and volunteering and aging parents and all the rest, it’s hard to get the sleep you need, even when you’re healthy. With scleroderma, you need to get sleep. Without it, you’ll get sicker. End of discussion.

Dress in Layers, Favoring Natural Fibers
When you need to keep warm, layers are the best way to go, especially if you’re moving in and out of spaces that vary in temperature. Cotton, wool and silk are my favored fabrics for warmth. Years ago, when I was first struggling with Raynaud’s, my rheumatologist told me that synthetics like polyester trap moisture and can make you chillier, whereas natural fibers wick away moisture and allow your skin to breathe. He was right. This is also the reason I wear shoes made of leather or natural fibers. Anything plastic or rubber causes a lot of perspiration and can lead to skin breakdown.

A lot of heat is lost through your head. That’s why, back in the day, people wore nightcaps (not the alcoholic variety) to stay warm in unheated bedrooms. Especially here in the Northeast, hats are a must in winter. I like wearing scarves made of natural fibers, for reasons cited above and because they make a nice fashion statement while keeping me comfortable.

Protect Your Hands
Okay, this is obvious. Here’s what I do:

  • Use disposable latex gloves for all cooking to keep bacteria out of my fingertip ulcers.
  • Wash my hands frequently with anti-bacterial gel. I have to do this to avoid getting my bandages wet. I checked this with my Infectious Disease doc and he said it was fine, contrary to all the hoo-hah about too much anti-bacterial soap causing germs to flourish. When I wash my bare ulcers, I use Aveeno Ultra-Calming Foaming Cleanser. It never, ever stings and is easy to wash off.
  • Use soft, flexible fabric bandages for finger ulcers. These can be hard to find, as many generic fabric bandages now include antibiotic ointment in the pads, which I don’t like. I favor Coverlet Adhesive Dressing Strips, with one caveat—the adhesive is very sticky, and you have to really soak the bandages before removing so as not to tear your skin. These are available online, not in stores. Aquafor Ointment is an excellent dressing. I also use small squares of Sorbsan, a surgical dressing made of seaweed, as a moisture barrier. And I change my ulcer dressings twice a day. Yes, it’s expensive. But not as expensive as getting an infection.
  • Wear wrist warmers. I like Wristies® fleece warmers, but there are now many alternatives on the market. I use these throughout the year, to keep warm in the winter and protect against air conditioning in the summer, and as an alternative to gloves during transitional seasons. They’re very affordable, come in many colors and several lengths, and there are even Wristies with a little pocket for a hand heat pack.
  • Wear natural fiber gloves and use mittens for best warmth. I have a very well-worn pair of leather gloves that are soft and provide ample room for my many bandages, as well as a good pair of down mittens for winter.

Get Regular Exercise
I let this go for a long time. Big mistake. You lose range of motion if you don’t move. One of my rheumatologists gave me the excellent advice to find some form of exercise I really love, because I’ll be able to stick with it. So I’ve been doing Pilates for several years, now, and also a variety of forms of dance—all beginner classes, and I’m a klutz, but it doesn’t matter, because I always feel so much better afterwards, and I’m even regaining a little grace, despite stiff joints. Yes, it’s hard to exercise when you’re in the active stages of scleroderma and so tired all the time. But even walking a short distance in fresh air is better than sitting still in your home, and it’s also good for your soul.

Surround Yourself with People Who Support You 
Many people don’t understand what you’re going through and will offer a lot of well-meaning but useless advice. Others will treat you like an invalid. Avoid them. Find those who will give you hugs when you need it, listen to your angst without criticism or commentary, remind you of your strengths when you’re at a loss, and most of all, who will accept you for who you are, no matter what. This is essential.

There’s much more I could say here, but I’ll save it for future posts. I’d love to hear what’s worked for you, too.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.