Living with Scleroderma

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Fall Back

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For the first time since I can remember, setting back the clocks this weekend didn’t bother me. Usually, the shift to earlier sunrise and the quickening of darkness at day’s end leave me feeling a bit claustrophobic until my circadian cycle readjusts. But not this fall. Oddly, the changeover feels like it fits.

There’s been a lot of debate about whether we should change the clocks at all. The U.S. Senate unanimously passed the so-called Sunshine Protection Act last year, but then the bill stalled in the House of Representatives. Given the current chaos in Congress, I doubt if it will go anywhere soon, but the goal is to make Daylight Savings Time permanent, nationwide. Why? The main arguments involve, in part, the notion that more daylight hours for evening activities will provide an economic boost for restaurants and entertainment venues.

Compare that to a push by the American Association of Sleep Medicine (AASM), which advocates for sticking with standard time year-round. Here the rationale is that standard time better aligns with our bodies’ natural rhythms. More sunlight earlier in the day helps our brains to shut down production of the sleep hormone melatonin and switch over to wakefulness.

I had read about this debate last year, and when we switched to DST last March, I felt very off-kilter. Now I feel back in synch. Coincidence, or the power of suggestion? I have no clue.

In any case, everyone seems to agree that switching back and forth twice a year is not good for anyone. According to the AASM, this time toggling actually increases risk of heart attack and strokes, mood disturbances and even suicides.

I’m curious to see how I feel as darkness settles sooner over the next few weeks. Not having to drive back from a doctor’s appointment in Boston in late afternoon or run errands at the end of the day definitely helps me to adjust. So does focusing on the stark light of November, when trees are bare and the shadows sharp, a time of transition that I find particularly striking.

And so does the knowledge that in just over six weeks, our days here in the Northern Hemisphere will gradually lengthen, once again. For all the turmoil in our troubled world, Nature’s rhythms soothe.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.

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Healing Stories

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One of the most complicated aspects of scleroderma is how it changes our relationship with our bodies. Hands that were once dexterous now are cramped, facial skin no longer flexes. It can become very hard to pick up objects, bend over, reach. In its most virulent form, this debilitating disease literally traps you in your own skin. It’s painful, exhausting, achey. Not to mention internal organ damage to heart, lungs, kidneys, gut.

As I’ve written before, I’ve been graced with a reversal of some of the worst aspects of scleroderma during my first decade of the four that I’ve been living with this chronic disease. I credit the use of d-penicillamine early on, a treatment that was never fully embraced by the medical profession due to inconclusive research. But it worked for me, loosening tight skin in my hands, forearms, and face. I still have abnormal skin that limits my dexterity and ability to open my mouth, but nothing like before, when it was becoming uncomfortable to blink.

Grateful as I am with that gift, I also still wrestle with how scleroderma has affected my face and damaged my hands. Scleroderma ages you prematurely. I’ve learned to make the best of what I have, but it can still be discouraging to look in the mirror.

So, I deeply appreciated an interview that I heard over the weekend with Krista Tipppet of the On Being Project, and Matthew Sanford, about “The Body’s Grace.” Sanford, now in his 40s, survived a car crash when he was 13 that took the lives of his father and sister, and left him paralyzed from the waist down. He speaks of a deepened relationship with his body, a knowing derived from inner silence, a reconnecting with those parts that no longer feel and work as they once did.

Sanford likens this awareness to “walking from a well-lighted room into a dark one. At first, you can’t see anything. But if you sit, and you pause, and you listen, usually there’s enough light to get across the room. It’s not going to be like turning the light back on, but in fact, the world gets this other kind of texture that makes it beautiful. It also makes it scary in the dark; it goes either way.”

Coming to terms with a life-altering accident or disease is a lifelong process that Sanford calls a “healing story.” And, as he and Tippett discuss, all too often, in our youth-obsessed culture, the healing stories we tell ourselves are ones of overcoming physical and emotional adversity. With enough willpower, we, too, can be the 80-year-old who runs a marathon or skydives; we, too, can “power through” anxiety or depression.

Though willpower is an important skill for confronting physical weakening or loss or just plain aging, Sanford suggest that it shouldn’t be the sole or primary skill. Finding your own, unique path of mind-body integration when the connections are weakened or severed is a journey toward a deeper relationship with your physicality and your body’s miraculous striving toward healing, even when damaged. It is also a journey toward deeper appreciation of your connections with others and the world.

We are always so much more than our medical diagnoses. We are so much more than our physical limitations. Each of us writes our own healing story as we learn how to see in the dark.

Here’s a link to the On Being podcast interview with Matthew Sanford as well as a transcript.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.

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Enter Fall

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It is rainy and chilly and dreary as I write on Monday afternoon. Here in Central Massachusetts, we were fortunate to avoid the worst of Hurricane Lee over the weekend, and the rest of the week looks sunny. But I’m feeling the chill in my hands today, knowing that fall officially begins this Saturday.

Already, the days are notably shorter, the transition even more striking since we came back from the Baltics, where the sun sets later because it’s farther north.

And so, it’s time to make my annual adjustment, mentally and physically, to inevitable colder weather. I should be used to it by now, but I always hate to bid summer adieu. Time for lined leggings and sweaters and wrist-warmers, heavier coats and gloves and hats, more effort to get dressed and out the door.

Sigh.

At least there is fall foliage to look forward to. That, and crisp air, and fewer mosquitoes, and the way that autumn light etches shadows. Even as leaves begin to drop and trees harden off for winter, new buds are forming. My hands will adjust as I remind myself: Only three more months until the pendulum swings and the days grow longer, once again.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.

Barbie Land

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On Sunday, my older daughter and I went to see Barbie, which, in case you’re not into pop culture, is a movie by director Greta Gerwig about the iconic fashion doll’s existential identity crisis when she confronts the “real” world. Starring Margot Robbie as Stereotypical Barbie and Ryan Gosling as Ken, the film opens with an homage to Stanley Kubrick’s 2001: A Space Odyssey and romps off from there. It’s a hoot. We had a great time.

There’s been a host of critics who’ve reviewed the summer blockbuster, predictably commenting from either side of our culture divide about Gerwig’s feminist message. But I’m not going to get into that here. What I want to write about is one of the underlying notions of the film, that Barbie has been an aspirational toy for young girls since the ’60s, with all kinds of Barbies cast as everything from astronauts (1965, way ahead of NASA) to astrophysicists. Apparently toy-maker Mattel has created more than 200 jobs for Barbie, including U.S. President.

Years ago, when my sister and I played with her Barbies and my Ken doll, that phase of Barbie Land did not yet exist. This was in the early ’60s. We created doll rooms in the bottom three shelves of a bookcase that our dad had built years prior, originally to store his huge LP record collection. The furniture didn’t fit the dolls’ proportions, but we didn’t care much. We were more interested in the family intrigue that my sister would narrate, particularly the conflicts between ponytail Barbie (one of the originals, and yes, she came dressed in that black-and-white strapless bathing suit and sunglasses) and bubble-cut Barbie (bouffant blonde hair), whom my sister named Alice and deemed Barbie’s evil twin.

I could not keep up with my sister’s plots and offer my own. She was an avid reader and two years older, and she came up with all kinds of story lines that were beyond me. I don’t recall much else, other than I preferred to change Ken’s outfits (already, I loved fashion) more than figure out what was going to happen next.

And the clothes were fabulous. Back then, they were made from beautiful fabrics, satin and wool and cotton, with tiny working metal zippers and miniature buttons. No synthetics. Real pleats in Barbie’s tennis skirt and satin stripes on Ken’s tuxedo.

My Ken was not one of those dolls with the plastic molded blonde hair. No, he had brown flocked hair, which unfortunately rubbed off when I struggled to put on his red football pads under his red-and-white football jersey. So I occasionally would repair his bald spots with a burnt sienna Crayola crayon, which seemed to do the trick.

Eventually, I got Skipper (Barbie’s little sister), and she was fun to play with, but Ken was always my favorite. My sister got Midge (Barbie’s best friend), but unlike the later version of that Mattel doll, who apparently was supposed to be pregnant, this Midge had the same voluptuous figure as Barbie, reddish brown hair with bangs, and freckles.

Our dolls could not move their knees or elbows. They could wave their arms up and down and do splits, but when they sat, their legs went straight out. Often, they’d fall to one side, seated.

It didn’t matter. I enjoyed the clothes, and my sister made up dramatic, entertaining stories that had nothing to do with Barbie’s careers. And when the time came to move on from Barbie Land, we packed each doll and outfit into individual plastic bags and stored them carefully. I inherited the collection, with my sister’s blessing. Our daughters—especially our younger daughter—enjoyed playing with them. And now they are stored in a large plastic box under a bed. I’ve been wondering if it’s time to sell them, given the Barbie craze. But I’m not sure if I’m ready to let them go.

P.S: Just a note, if you’ve read this far (thank you!), that I’ll be taking a break for the next three weeks. Enjoy the rest of August and see you in September.

Image: “Barbie’s first clothing designer Charlotte Johnson posing with 1965 Barbie doll model,” by Nelson Tiffany, May 13, 1964, UCLA Libary Digital Collections.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.

Rhapsody in Teal

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I haven’t sewn a garment for myself in quite a while, not since December 2021, to be precise. That project was an alpaca wool jacket, which came out fine, but I haven’t worn it too often because the fabric is a bit itchy. Oh, well. One of the challenges of making your own clothes is learning to pick the right fabric for the right project.

I have a lot of fabric in my stash, accumulated over decades. This is a common challenge for people who enjoy sewing—inspiration and purchase, followed by lack of time, energy, or whatever excuse to actually sew the garment. Call me guilty, as charged. But recently, I decided that if I wasn’t going to sew something or make use of all those fabric scraps from prior projects, I should at least find a way to responsibly recycle them.

Turns out our composting service will recycle textiles for a minimal fee. So I dug through my fabric stash to see what to eliminate. Not easy. I have a lot of nice textiles. Still, it was time to be realistic. After filling a bag for recycling with scraps that I will never use, I examined several yards of beautiful teal rayon. I must have purchased it not long after Al and I married, so it’s nearly 40 years old. But still in excellent condition.

Then I dug through old patterns, many of which I will never sew because I no longer like the styles, and bagged a bunch to recycle. But I found one, a simple caftan, that held promise for that gorgeous fabric.

Rayon is a tricky fiber. It drapes beautifully, but ravels easily and is slippery to sew. With two thumbs in bandages at present and limited dexterity, I knew it would be a challenge. That’s probably why I’ve avoided it all these years.

I read up on sewing techniques for rayon and set to. First I zigzagged the ends to prevent raveling, washed the rayon on delicate to pre-shrink, then air-dried it and pressed it on low (no steam). After testing the pattern with left-over muslin for the front and gingham for the back (more leftovers), I made some adjustments. Then I went to the fabric store and bought a better rotary blade cutter than my old ones, which I could no longer hold properly, some rayon thread, and some extra sharp needles for my sewing machine (recommended for rayon).

The rotary cutter was worth it, because I was able to cut out the pattern quickly and neatly, without hurting my hand. Theoretically, you’re not supposed to use pins other than those intended for silk, or they’ll leave permanent holes in rayon. I tried mini binder clips to hold the seams when I stitched, but they were too clunky and hard to open and place properly. Turns out, fortunately, that this fabric was fine with pins.

I took my time. I experimented with seam binding, but that didn’t work. I couldn’t serge the seams, because the serger destroyed the delicate fabric. So I stitched the seams on my trusty old Huskvarna, trimming them and zig-zagging the edges. For the neckline binding, I had enough fabric to cut bias strips, found some stretchy iron-0n interfacing in my stash, and made custom bias tape, which worked great.

Finishing the sleeves and hem was the hardest part of the project, because the pattern called for pressing under a quarter-inch of the edge, then folding it again and stitching down. Like I said, the fabric is slippery and I don’t have the ability to nudge a narrow, raw edge with my fingertips, which no longer exist. Stitching a quarter inch from the fabric’s raw edge gave me a guide for the first fold, which I pressed. Then I made the second fold, pinned and lightly pressed. But the big aha was realizing I could top-stitch the hem from the wrong side, thus easily controlling the narrow folded edge, and no-one would know the difference.

The finished dress earned a “Wow!” from Al, the desired response. I’m really pleased with it. It’s cool and comfy and fun to wear. All these years later, I finally found the right project for that beautiful teal rayon. I can still sew. And there is so much left in my stash. . . .

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.