Living with Scleroderma

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Blast from the Past

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Last week, a longtime friend sent me this photo. That’s me, with the dark hair, standing. The year is 1980, I’m 26 years old, a graduate journalism student at what is now the University of Illinois Springfield.

My friend is seated to the left, and our third classmate is to the rear. The guy with the beard and plaid 70s jacket was our news director at WSSR-FM (now WUIS-FM), the Springfield NPR affiliate.

My first reaction to seeing this on my social media feed was laughter. Were we ever that young? Did I ever have that much hair? No glasses, either—that was back in the day when I wore contacts.

Lots of nostalgic memories of covering the Illinois Statehouse during the 1979-80 legislative session, including the infamous June 1980 defeat of the Equal Rights Amendment, which effectively killed it nationwide (until now, when ratification efforts have been revived). I covered the ERA debate for NPR as a stringer, even interviewed ERA foe Phyllis Schlafly once on the phone, a master of the 20-second partisan soundbite. (If you watched Mrs. America on Amazon Prime recently, you’ll know whom I’m talking about.)

As I studied the photo, I zoomed in on my hands. I have very few images of my adult hands before scleroderma. I had forgotten how long my fingers were. As I thought about this some more, I realized this picture was taken the year before I developed the first symptoms—in my case, swollen fingers and migrating arthralgia (as in, pain in a knee, then a few hours later, pain in a shoulder, on and on). I’d had Raynaud’s for years, but only thought of it as a nuisance.

It’s one thing to see a nostalgic picture of your younger self, quite another to see yourself caught in amber, before everything changed.

Yes, I do miss my young hands. But I can no longer remember what they felt like. And I’m not sad. In fact, you couldn’t pay me enough to go back to being 26 years old in that life, at that time. The year after that photo was taken, I moved to Massachusetts, my first marriage broke up, I lost my new job as News Director at our local NPR affiliate due to Reagan-era budget cuts, and I was stressed, to say the least. I believe it is no coincidence that I began to experience strange auto-immune symptoms, even as I had no clue what they were. Though there are no definitive studies that prove a causal relationship between stress and autoimmune disease, there is some pretty interesting evidence that such a connection is likely. From my own experience, I can certainly report that constant triggering of my fight-or-flight adrenaline response when confronted with all of those changes and losses at once did not do my health any good.

Forty years later, I have compassion for that younger me. She did not know what she was in for, but she discovered a deep reserve of grit that she never knew was there until she needed it. None of us ever knows, beyond the moment we live in right now, what is next. As we all find ourselves in our current heightened state of angst and unknowing, only one thing is certain—we’ll find out when we get there. May we all learn how to make the best of it, better than we could have ever anticipated.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.

Image: University of Illinois Springfield

 

Rx for TP

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The Great Toilet Paper shortage may have eased for now, but in recent months, when little was to be found on grocery store shelves, I found myself confronted once again with challenges of personal hygiene. As I’ve written before, cleaning up after #2 is not easy when your hands don’t work well. This has been exacerbated for me recently with painful calcium deposits in the pads of both thumbs. But with toilet paper a scarce commodity, I’ve had to be conscious of conserving paper—as any of you with scleroderma well know, that makes it extra hard to really do the job.

For several years I relied on “flushable” wipes, which are a very efficient solution. But I had to give up after the second of two disastrous lessons in the physics of sewer line back-ups into our basement. As our plumber said, there’s no such thing as a flushable wipe. Indeed, not only do they clog plumbing, but also those wet wipes that make it into the sewer system cause major problems in public waste sanitation systems, creating what the industry terms “fatbergs” that destroy expensive pumps.

After our trip to Greece last summer, where you quickly learn to toss all toilet paper in the handy waste basket next to the toilet, because the plumbing and sewers can’t handle even regular toilet paper, I tried a modified approach of disposing my wipes, wrapped in more toilet paper, into the bathroom waste can. But this uses a lot of paper, once again, and the wipes are also still not biodegradable. Moistening toilet paper with water doesn’t work well, either, if (a) you have bandages that you don’t want to get wet, and (b) the toilet paper often disintegrates.

So, this brings me to my latest solution, which I found thanks to all the articles and blogs being written about toilet paper alternatives when none could be found due to the pandemic: a postpartum peribottle. Designed for women to ease soreness after childbirth, this is a soft rubber bottle with a spout with a hooked end, so you can hold it upside down, aim and squirt. It does not eliminate the need for toilet paper, but it certainly cuts down on how much.

I found one for $15 online, and it has a collapsible spout and even a little bag for travel. It takes a little practice, but it is definitely the easiest and cleanest solution I’ve come across so far. And it’s far cheaper than installing a bidet.

Even if you don’t have hand problems, using a peribottle is a mighty convenient way to conserve toilet paper—which, in turn, saves the trees that toilet paper is made from. And saving trees helps to moderate climate change and maintain animal habitats—which matters for a host of reasons, including the mounting evidence that human encroachment on natural habitats contributed to the way that a bat-borne virus morphed into the COVID-19 pandemic. It’s all interconnected, folks.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.

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Unnecessary Procedures

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For well over a year, I’ve had a piece of grey calcium protruding from the pad of my right thumb. As I wrote back in February, I finally saw my hand surgeon and worked out a plan for him to remove it—the challenge being that it’s only the tip of a long chain of calcium that runs down the entire thumb. It gets in the way, hurts when I bump it, and generally makes me drop things.

Surgery was originally scheduled for this spring, but, of course, the pandemic put that plan on hold. I got a call at the end of May, as the hand surgeon’s office began to reopen, to see if I wanted to reschedule for June, but I declined. It just felt too soon—a good thing, as it turned out, because I got an infection in the left thumb that has taken weeks to clear, and I know he wouldn’t have operated under that circumstance, even if the opposite thumb was the problem.

The situation in the past few weeks has gotten really uncomfortable. With the clearing infection on the left and protruding calcium on the right, I was having greater and greater difficulty doing basic tasks. I had a note in my calendar to call the hand surgeon’s office this week and was now ready to get on his schedule as soon as possible.

Then, Sunday night, as I was changing clothes to get ready for bed, I felt a sharp twinge in my right thumb. Then I noticed some blood on my nightclothes. Sure enough, that nasty chunk of calcium had finally, finally, broken off of its own accord. It left a hole in my thumb, about an eighth of an inch deep. The tip of the rest of the calcium chain was barely visible and far enough beneath the surface to remain inoffensive, for now.

I was thrilled. No more need for surgery, no more risk of exposure in a medical setting to infections or Corona, regardless of precautions. From long experience, I knew the hole would quickly close up on its own. So I rinsed it with peroxide, bandaged it with antibacterial ointment, and went to bed.

By Monday morning, it was already half healed. Warm weather certainly helps. Best of all, I can finally use my right thumb again.

This is not to say that, if I’d had no relief, I wouldn’t have gone ahead with the procedure. But our bodies do have a way of healing themselves. I kept hoping this would happen on its own, which is why I took so long to see my hand surgeon in the first place. As if to drive the point home, in Monday morning’s New York Times was this article about how people who have had elective procedures postponed during the pandemic are actually staying healthier than expected.

Complex trade-offs. Grateful that the scale of options swung in favor of non-invasive, this time.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.

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Celebrating my birthday this past weekend, in the midst of a pandemic, was different, to say the least. Not only were we stuck at home, but also it snowed. In April. I cannot recall this ever happening. Cold, yes. Snow, no.

So, I said to Al, “Let’s build a snowman!” He was surprised, because I never suggest anything that could make my hands cold, but he was also an enthusiastic participant.

When I was a kid, I loved making snowmen. I would stay outside in our front yard, rolling each ball of snow, arranging and decorating, until I was frozen myself. Back then, I didn’t care. I have a dim memory of doing this late one afternoon, the snow tinted blue as darkness fell, mittened fingers totally numb, but still feeling joyful in the act of creating.

Of course, the snow has to be just the right consistency for construction purposes, and we were in luck. Big, fat, pasty flakes had fallen all morning, a few inches worth, the kind of wet snow that gloms together into heavy blobs when you scoop up a handful. We headed out the front door and got to work.

With a shovel, Al created a mound for the base. We slapped on more snow globs to round it out a bit, and then I rolled two very heavy balls for the middle and head (needed Al’s help to stack them). We added stones for eyes and buttons. I found a couple of twigs from a fallen tree branch (very windy last week) for arms. Al added what was left of our horseradish from Passover for a nose, and contributed an old baseball cap. Together, we secured the finishing touch—a green bandana for a face mask. And so, in about twenty minutes, “Covie” was complete.

As we worked, a few neighbors walked by with their dog and voiced their approval. I took Covie’s portrait on my phone and headed inside. My mittens were soaked, just like that day long ago, and my fingers icy, but it was worth it.

Other birthday activities included reading a novel, listening to an inspiring podcast, enjoying birthday greetings from friends and family, catching up with my sister on the phone. In the afternoon, we had a Zoom party with my daughters, complete with a cake baked by Al, and an online card game that kept us laughing for a couple of hours. In the evening, we marked the occasion by making contributions to a variety of non-profits that are helping during the pandemic. This felt good. We capped off the day watching a movie online.

Throughout, I was in an upbeat mood. (This was helped by not reading any news.) For a cooped-up birthday during the scariest experience of my 66 years, it was lovely, memorable, and a good lesson in how much each moment is shaped by how we decide to approach it.

Now, if only the pandemic could end as quickly as Covie melted . . .

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.

Mask-maker, Mask-maker, Make Me a Mask

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More than half-way through Passover now, I’m finding the holiday’s food and kitchen restrictions (no leavening, separate dishes and utensils) a fitting metaphor for our new reality. That, and the spread of matzah crumbs throughout our home. I’m also finding the rituals and rules about what and how to cook strangely comforting. Having our mini Seder last Wednesday night via Zoom with two dozen family and friends from across the country was wonderfully uplifting. Sticking with our Passover observance feels like an act of defiance in the face of this pandemic, that it can’t uproot everything we hold dear.

But there is still a lot to contend with, of course. Here in Massachusetts, we are being told to wear fabric face masks when going anywhere that makes physical distancing difficult, like grocery shopping. So, on Sunday, I pulled out my trusty 35-year-old Viking sewing machine and experimented with making masks out of old pillow cases.

I still love sewing, but it has become much more challenging since I had my hand surgery several years ago. Tweezers are an essential tool for threading the needle. I have to constantly be mindful not to reach quickly as I adjust the sewing foot, thread the bobbin or change stitch settings, or I’ll mash what’s left of my fingertips on metal. Then there’s the nuisance of cut threads sticking to my bandages.

Nevertheless, I persisted, using a pattern I’d found online, one magenta-and-pink and one cobalt-blue pillow case, and a few pieces of quarter-inch elastic from my five-decades-old sewing stash. I cut out enough fabric for several masks, but only finished two—in part, because I skillfully managed to sew the second one together wrong side out and had to pull all the stitches, a real challenge for my hands. I made an opening in the back for an insert. From what I’ve read online, coffee filters are considered one of the best options.

Along the way, I discovered a couple of mistakes in the directions. The biggest issue is how long to make the elastic loops to go over ears. The pattern said seven inches, which seems to be standard advice, but that’s way too big for my narrow face. So, a word to the wise: If you decide to sew your own mask, plan on the first one being a prototype that needs adjusting.

Here is a good article from The New York Times that includes everything you need to knows about wearing and making your own mask.

I hope, Dear Reader, that whatever your circumstance, whatever holiday you may have been celebrating or will be, soon, that you are staying safe and well. And if you can’t sew, here’s how to make a mask from a teeshirt that requires no stitching.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.