Living with Scleroderma

Reflections on the Messy Complexity of Chronicity

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Sister Act

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“Remember, with the slurs, keep the notes nice and light. Let’s pick up at measure 69.”

The conductor taps his baton on the black music stand, and the St. Louis Wind Symphony breaks into John Williams’s Midway March, with the flute section playing brightly above the lush harmonies. This is the group’s first of only two rehearsals before next Sunday’s concert, a week from today. All are experienced musicians. My older sister plays piccolo and flute, first chair.

3320572325_f56c081618It’s been decades since I’ve heard her perform. During this two-hour afternoon session, the group is spot-rehearsing summer show-stoppers like the Candide overture, a Gershwin medley, The Magic of Andrew Lloyd Webber, Big Band Bash. It’s up to each musician to practice and learn or review whatever needs polishing before next Sunday. My sister makes the syncopated piccolo riffs in Bernstein’s Candide sound easy.

Today is the last of my three day visit, my first trip out here in seven years. Far too long. But something always seemed to get in the way of travel—tight budgets, busy schedules, the fact that she made a number of trips east while our father was ailing from Parkinson’s, the fact that flying by myself is exhausting. We’ve kept in touch by occasional phone calls, Facebook and email. Weeks, months, years, have slipped by.

So many years that when I checked my bag at the Delta counter at Logan last Thursday afrernoon, I was shocked that I had to pay $25 for the privilege. “We’ve been doing that for years,” snapped the ticket agent. Well, sorry, I didn’t know—and, by the way, if you didn’t charge so much per bag, maybe there would actually be room in the overhead compartments for everyone’s carry-on luggage. But I digress.

I’d love to carry on my bag. But I can’t lift it overhead or pull it down, and I don’t want to have to ask for help all the time. Getting through security with just my small shoulder bag was exhausting, enough—pulling out my boarding passes, juggling my photo ID, removing and replacing my laptop, taking off my coat, shoes.

Other than being squished like a sardine in my window seat and partially losing my hearing in my right ear due to shifting air pressure on the descent into St. Louis (it cleared by the next morning), the trip was blessedly uneventful. It was a relief to see my sister waving at the edge of the security barrier when I arrived.

Over the past few days, we’ve gone shoe shopping (she helped me find a great pair of Naot sandals that are both elegant and comfortable for my difficult-to-fit feet), walked through the stunning Missouri Botanical Garden in 90-plus heat and humidity, attended the St. Louis Fringe Festival, had lunch with friends I haven’t seen in decades, played Scrabble (no chance of winning against my sister, who has become a Scrabble online maven) and watched a hilarious performance of Spamalot at the outdoor Muny Opera. I’ve shared my new weather spotting fascination with my brother-in-law, had wonderful conversations about favorite writers with my younger niece and enjoyed our joint interpretation of what Tarot cards have to say about my business prospects (trust your intuition).

But sitting in on the Wind Symphony practice is the highlight. Music was a big part of our childhood. My sister was always the lead flutist in our school orchestras and bands. I played first violin and was concert mistress as a high school senior. I also played alto, bass and contrabass clarinet in our wind ensemble. It’s been nearly 35 years since I’ve been part, albeit vicariously, of a band rehearsal.

As the musicians wander into the music department practice room at Missouri U-St. Louis, I try to guess what instruments they play from the shape of the cases slung over their backs and shoulders. No more of those heavy black fiberglass cases that I remembered from high school—everything is lightweight, durable mesh fabric.

Watching one of the clarinetists assemble his instrument, plucking black and silver sections from their blue-velvet lining, I’m surprised as my throat clutches and eyes tear. I miss this. I miss the tangy smell of oiled wood and the bitter-sweet taste of reed on my tongue. I miss being able to make music myself. I can’t play clarinet anymore, because I can’t tighten my lips around the mouthpiece or manage the keys. It’s been decades since I could play my violin—an impossibility with my damaged hands. Octave spreads on the piano are beyond me, now.

So, instead, I write on my laptop as I listen. Composing sentences, capturing rhythms in words, is my music making. I sway to Gershwin and big band hits as I type, stopping to focus on my sister’s flute solos. I enjoy the stop-and-start practice to refine phrasing, the conductor’s bop-a-dah-be-dah-ba-dat-dat explanations of how the music should sound, the group’s wonderful sight reading, the great arrangements, my sister’s fluid notes.

Monday morning, she will drive me to the airport. But the music will linger, long after. And I won’t let another seven years drift past before I return.

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Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Weather Spotting

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Hot. Cold. Hot. Cold. Hot. Cold. Hot.

‘Tis the season for unsettled weather, which always seems to be the case in New England. As the saying goes, if you don’t like the weather here, wait a few minutes.

My neighbors walk their dogs and tend their lawns in shorts, tee-shirts and flip-flops, but I’m still doing my thing with more layers than I’d like—long pants, a sweater or sweatshirt over a lighter top, my indispensable wrist warmers, socks and shoes.

I took the bold step of bringing my winter sweaters to the dry cleaners only last week, but missed them a few days later when we were deluged with cold rains that triggered my Raynaud’s and caused a messy leak in our basement. Why, I wondered, couldn’t the rain have fallen over Colorado’s burning Black Forest, where it was really needed?

Of course, you can’t control the weather any more than you can control a chronic disease with a mind of its own. The only thing you can control is the way you respond.

Managing my health takes much vigilance, many doctor’s appointments, good nutrition, regular exercise, taking all of my meds every day, tending my finger ulcers to ward off infection, getting as much of a good night’s sleep as I can, recognizing and managing stress triggers, appreciating love from family and friends, common sense, pro-active problem-solving and doing my best to stay positive. That’s the short list.

Dealing with the weather is a different beast. It’s not just about following forecasts so I know how to dress and keep warm. It’s also about trying to understand and not get overwhelmed by the strange shifts and extreme weather patterns we’re all experiencing. Fatal floods in Europe, record-breaking forest fires in the Rockies, the Oklahoma City tornado, last fall’s Superstorm Sandy—not a week goes by when there isn’t another extreme weather event somewhere around the globe. Lately I’ve been looking at the sky and feeling like it doesn’t make sense any more.

Mark Twain (or perhaps one of his contemporaries) famously said, “Everyone talks about the weather, but nobody does anything about it.” Well, I decided last week to do a little something. A bit of a weather geek to begin with, I drove an hour-and-a-half to Manchester, N.H., one evening to attend a three hour training as a National Weather Service (NWS) volunteer weather spotter.

Weather spotters fill in the observations that radar can’t pick up closer to the ground—like the size of hail or the siting of a funnel cloud, where there’s flooding or whether winds are strong enough to topple healthy trees. I can now explain how tornadoes form, what kinds of thunderstorms are the most dangerous and their warning signs. I have an official weather spotter ID and the number to call for our NWS bureau in Taunton, Mass., to report on signs of serve weather.

It’s my own small way of responding to climate change. If I can help to fill in the blanks about approaching storms, then maybe I’ll enable someone to get out of harm’s path.

It also gives me some sense of control, albeit illusory. At least I have a better understanding of what clouds signify and why hail falls and when to run to the basement.

In a perfect world, we wouldn’t have to worry about any of this—tornadoes that drop out of the sky and destroy elementary schools or diseases that appear out of nowhere and ravage our bodies. But the world is far from perfect. It just is. All we can control is our own response. This is mine.

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Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Spilled Coins

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Quarter past ten. Why does it always take almost as much time to drive 50 miles from my home into Boston as it does to maneuver through local traffic and park for my rheumatology appointment?

I’ve driven round and round the garage, finally located a space on the sixth level. Heading toward the stairs, I notice the elevator has just arrived and decide to shave a few minutes. For some reason, I have it in my head that I’m late, when I’m actually, amazingly, early for a change.

A curly haired woman in capris steps into the elevator ahead of me. As the doors begin to close, another woman with a rolling briefcase runs, calling for us to wait. The first woman reaches her forearm to hold the door. “I’m not very good at this,” she apologizes. “But you did it!” says the third passenger.

When the curly haired woman steps toward the back of the elevator to make room, I notice her hands. They are frozen into fists, with scabs from ulcers on the back of each knuckle. Her face is smooth and tight, lips pulled into a grin. She carries her paper coffee cup in a pink rubbery sleeve with two handles that she can hook with each hand.

As familiar as I am with scleroderma, I’m startled. I don’t often meet a fellow traveller. I feel badly for her. Her hands seem so much worse than mine. I wonder if I should say something. But casually commenting, “So, I see you have scleroderma, too,” feels awkward. There’s no hiding this disease. We all want our privacy.

We both walk quickly across the street and into the medical center. She pauses to study the floor directory. I signal the elevator and am the first one in, this time. We exit at the same floor, with me a few steps ahead. We sign in for our appointments simultaneously. I overhear her saying that she is seeing the same rheumatologist. Her appointment is the one before mine.

As I open my wallet, a dozen coins spill onto the carpeting. Great. This is the price of leaving the coin compartment unzipped to save my fingers. The curly haired woman is the first on her knees to help me. She scoops up some quarters and dimes with her fists and places them on the counter before I can flip a few into my palm. “I often find using a piece of paper helps,” she says. I thank her, marveling at her speed.

We sit on opposite sides of the waiting room. She scrolls on her pink-encased smart phone. I type on my laptop. Our doctor is running late, as usual. I think how grateful I am that I can still type. I notice how adept she is at maneuvering objects with her two fists. I keep track of her turn, since mine will be next. She disappears into the warren of exam rooms.

When I finally see my doctor, an hour later than scheduled, we go over all my latest symptoms and difficulties. My ulcers have been particularly troublesome for the past few weeks, due, no doubt, to the odd extreme temperature changes of late. It’s frustrating, I tell him. They’re sore all the time. But, I add, there was this woman in the waiting room who had the appointment before me. Her hands were so much worse. What do I have to complain about?

It’s only a few days later, when I recall her comment about how a sheet of paper helps her to scoop up coins, that I realize she may well have thought the same of me and all my bandages.

This is a jarring disease. It disfigures and contorts the body. But it doesn’t straightjacket creativity, so essential for coping. My curly-haired counterpart has figured out how to scoop up coins with her fists. I have found the lightest touch keyboard so I can still write with my bandaged fingers. I wouldn’t trade my frustrating but familiar problems for hers, and I expect she would say the same of me. Maybe we’ll talk about it, next time our appointments coincide.

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Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

What a Blast

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When I was little, one of my prized possessions was a Japanese fan, the kind you could snap closed with a flick of your wrist and spread open with your fingers, gently, so the paper wouldn’t tear. It was pale gray with hand-painted, pink-and-white blossomed cherry trees and gilt edging. I don’t know what ever became of it, but I could have used it this past week.

It was really, really hot here in Massachusetts.

So hot (’90s-muggy-record-breaking-air-quality-alert-hot) that our neighbor’s three dogs were outside, barking, at 12:30 in the morning because it had finally cooled down enough for them to do their business, and I’m sure she assumed that everyone else had their windows closed and air conditioning on and wouldn’t be disturbed.

So hot that our lawn must have grown three inches, one for each day of the heat wave, not unlike the corn that grew so rapidly on hot, humid days near my home in Central Illinois years ago that you could actually hear the stalks squeaking as they reached for the sun.

So hot that I, perpetually cold, broke into a sweat just sitting at my computer in my converted-porch home office, finally tried out our new heat pumps on their dehumidify cycle—and was grateful, so grateful for the instant relief.

One weekend ago, everyone was shivering and complaining that their heat was turned off and sweaters packed away. Five days and 50 additional degrees later, it felt like deep summer, already.

Climate change, anyone?

I love heat. It makes my hands and feet very happy. But there’s heat, and then there’s heat. My perfect weather is sunny, mid-’80s, low humidity, with a light breeze. High ’90s, with air so thick it clings to your lungs, is too much, even for me.

My annual summer dilemma usually surfaces mid-July, when we get a stretch of this kind of stifling weather and I can no longer make due with just open windows and ceiling fans. Air conditioning, which we have studiously avoided for years because of my Raynaud’s, then becomes a necessary evil—too cold to tolerate for more than about a half hour, but impossible for me to concentrate, without.

Our new heat pumps provide a miraculous compromise. I can set the kitchen on dehumidify, and it refreshes the entire first floor during the hottest part of the day. Or just flip on the pump in my office for a half-hour and then shut it off again as I enjoy the residual coolness. If it gets really bad outside, there’s an AC setting, too, but I haven’t broken down to try it, yet. We’ll be paying off the interest-free loan for the next seven years, but well worth the investment to have year-round, personalized, energy-efficient climate options in every room of the house.

Not so when I leave home, though. Whenever I enter and exit a commercial building in the summer, it’s as if I’m going between this past week’s two weather extremes—from the equator to the arctic, and back again. I always carry a sweater and my wrist warmers wherever I go, so I can quickly adjust layers to the interior climate change.

This makes dressing for special summer events a major challenge. This past Saturday, we had a family bar mitzvah to attend. What to wear? I remembered the temple from the last time we were there, a few years ago for the older sister’s bat mitzvah, as icy cold. But it was in the mid-‘90s, for crying out loud! Just once, just once, I wanted to wear a summer dresses without a bulky cover-up.

I decided on a sleeveless rayon knit—lightweight, but warm—with a cotton crocheted sweater. I brought along a rayon shawl and a pair of my fleece wrist warmers, just in case. Sure enough, as we entered the lobby, I could feel my fingers chilling. On with the wrist warmers, but, fortunately, no need for the shawl. As the AC cycled throughout the service, I countered by slipping my wrist warmers on and off, as needed.

I was expecting a similar experience at the reception, held at another location. But to my astonishment, the event space was—heaven forbid—comfortable.

So comfortable that I could actually take off my sweater and wrist warmers and enjoy the next few hours with family and friends in a sleeveless dress. I cannot remember the last time this happened. It must have been back in the 1960’s when central air was still a luxury.

Maybe this phenomenon occurred because businesses are finally starting to realize that you save money if you don’t crank the AC down to 65, which most people in their right minds and bodies can’t tolerate, anyway, for more than about 15 minutes.

Or maybe it was because their central air was malfunctioning.

Anyway, I was happy. Who knows? As the world gets hotter and we finally learn, the hard way, that we can’t suck all the fossil fuels out of our planet and pump CO2 into the atmosphere without dire consequences of extreme weather patterns, we’re all going to have to adjust, one way or another.

For my own part, I’d much rather wear a sleeveless dress and carry a beautiful Japanese paper fan to a summer celebration—because everyone finally agrees to keep the AC at 78 or even turn it off and open some windows if there’s a breeze—than tote a sweater, a shawl and a pair of fleece wrist warmers in a 90-degree heat wave.

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Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

In the Belly of the Beast

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There’s no such thing as a non-invasive test. Some are just more invasive than others.

Last week I found myself inside a clanging, banging, buzzing, bleeping MRI machine, undergoing a 25-minute diagnostic that was probably unnecessary, one of those just-in-case procedures you occasionally have to endure because one of your specialists needs to validate a hypothesis and define a baseline.

I’d had an MRI once before, at Boston Medical, lying on my back with a pair of headphones, listening to Ray Charles. The procedure was longer, but the music was good enough to distract me from the machine’s clanging, so the time passed relatively quickly.

Not so last week at an outpatient facility near home. First of all, the position was uncomfortable. I had to lie on my stomach, head in a padded masseuse-like cushion, arms forward, another pad pressed against my abdomen, ankles draped over some kind of wedge, like a swimmer frozen in a dead man’s float. Secondly, the music was lousy—a choice between two stations I dislike (pop rock versus easy listening) on headphones with poor reception. So equipped, unable to see around me, with an IV in my arm and a rubber squeeze ball to grasp in case of emergency, I slid backwards into the MRI’s gullet.

Buzzing soon commenced. Through the headphones, I could hear the tech’s voice alerting me that this first scan would take five minutes. BEEEEP. BANG-BANG-BANG-BANG. I could barely hear the music because of all the static in the headphones, let alone all that banging and clanging, and the song wasn’t anything I really wanted to listen to in the first place, but I hung onto the notes so as not to start feeling claustrophobic.

CLANG-CLANG-CLANG-CLANG. The music ended and the announcer started jabbering, followed by a lot of commercials that sounded like gibberish. I tried to figure out how many more of the five minutes were left by counting the number of ads. Finally, a moment of silence inside the machine.

BUZZ-BUZZ-BUZZ-BUZZ-BUZZ. Another series of scans. I did my best to keep breathing without moving anything I wasn’t supposed to move. This was not easy, especially with the pad compressing my diaphragm. I practiced Pilates breathing, expanding the sides of my rib cage. I wondered if either of the techs had ever gone through this procedure. I decided this should be part of every MRI tech’s training.

The tech’s voice in my headphones informed me that she was now going to insert the contrast dye through the IV. I might feel a cool tingling, but if I took a few deep breaths, the sensation would pass. BEEEEEEEEEEP. BANG-BANG-BANG-BANG. Somewhere in the background, I could hear Billy Joel’s “Just the Way You Are.”

I tried to monitor the progression of the slightly cool dye through my veins. I have an allergy to certain contrast dyes, but I had been assured this was very safe. BUZZ-BUZZ-BUZZ-BUZZ-BUZZ. So far, so good. I tried to focus on the barely audible lyrics as the machine moved through a series of five scans, grateful for the brief silences between each cacophonous set.

More commercials. Next up, “I’m Never Gonna Dance Again.” Yuck. The voice in the headphones said this was going to be the last set, a two minute scan. Thank goodness. BLEEP-BLEEP-BLEEP-BLEEP-BLEEP.

All of a sudden, I felt flushed and unable to get a full breath. I tried to calm myself, but my breathing was too shallow. I squeezed the rubber ball several times. The tech and her assistant were both in my headphones, slightly annoyed. This was the final scan, just two minutes left, what was wrong? “I feel like I’m going to faint,” I said, twice. The machine stopped. A door opened. I moved forward. Someone took my hand, probably the assistant. The tech reassured me it couldn’t be a reaction to the dye, I’d had it seven minutes ago and been fine, it was like aspirin, it would just pass through my system. The weird sensation lifted, and I was able to breathe fully again. Back into the belly of the monster.

BLEEP-BLEEP-BLEEP-BLEEP-BLEEP-BLEEP-BLEEP. Not a procedure for anyone with a propensity for migraines. I told myself it would be over soon and marveled at how anyone in their right mind could think all these decibels should be tolerated for the sake of more medical data points.

At last, blessed peace. The awful radio music ended, too. I could feel myself moving out into the open air of the room. As the tech removed the IV catheter, she noticed my bandaged fingers.

“Are you a nail biter?”

“No, I have scleroderma.”

“Oh.” Silence. She had no clue what I was talking about.

I sat up, slowly, feeling groggy. The assistant brought me a bottle of apple juice. I took a few sips and wondered aloud why the machine was so noisy. The tech explained that it had to do with the various levels of magnetic resonance. Then she added, “A man made it. That’s why it doesn’t work right.”

I was still a little woozy getting dressed, but relieved to slip my wedding ring back in place. Fresh air felt wonderful. I took another sip of juice as I relaxed into my car seat, Symphony Hall playing on my satellite radio, then realized I’d forgotten to ask when the test results would be available. But I didn’t really care. I’d hear soon enough.

Down the street was a car wash. No one was in line. As my Prius drifted gently into the dark, automated cavern, I lay back, listening to Brahms, drinking my juice, and watched the clear, fine spray wash the last traces of late winter’s grime from my windshield.

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Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.