Living with Scleroderma

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Mouse Wars

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When my daughters were very young, one of their favorite bedtime storybooks was the lovely classic, Goodnight Moon. We had to find the little mouse hiding in each illustration. It didn’t matter how many times we’d read the book. Finding that mouse was the best part.

full-moon-1506114-640x480A little gray mouse in a picture book is fun to find. A real gray mouse is not. Especially when there are a handful and they are running around your kitchen. And living room. And office.

With this week’s bitter cold and stormy weather, mice have decided our home is a nice place to hang out. They like it warm. We have that much in common. I believe they’ve actually been with us for a while, but had kept to our garage, where we made the huge mistake of leaving a big bag of birdseed unattended for more weeks than I want to admit, after it was clear that some critter had chewed a hole through the plastic.

A couple of times last week, I noticed a chubby black mouse racing away from the bag when I went to my car. High time to clean up the mess, so I bought a plastic bin with a tight lid, put on a pair of work gloves to protect my hands, swept away all the dropped seed and tossed it in the back yard for the birds, and sealed up the rest.

Of course, this meant that the chubby mouse was now deprived of its meals. Which drove it into the kitchen. Midweek, I was sitting in the living room and thought I saw something dart across the kitchen floor. I looked again. Nothing there. I dismissed it as a floater in my eye.

But I was right the first time. All of a sudden, in the midst of the weekend’s storm (only three inches here, nothing compared to all the snow farther south), mice started running through our house. I saw two black ones Saturday night as the snow began to accumulate.

What to do? I hated the idea of killing them. I looked up alternatives online. According to the American Humane Society, house mice don’t do well if you release them to the wild. Plus the idea of live-trapping mice and then transporting them to a snowy field somewhere, in bitter cold, seemed a pretty cruel fate (let alone quite time consuming). Mice can carry viruses, bacteria and fleas. I have an autoimmune disease. We decided to go with traps that did the job quickly.

Al caught one mouse in an old fashioned wood trap Sunday morning. No way I could reset it with my hands. He left it set with more cheese before he went out. I settled down to work on writing my novel at the kitchen table. When I looked again, the cheese was gone. No mouse.

Al had to work all day at the hospital. I tried to concentrate, but I kept hearing scrabbling noises, then nothing, from the kitchen. By mid afternoon, at least half a dozen—maybe some were the same mouse, maybe not—had skittered around the first floor of our home. They were making me crazy.

One darted out of my office just as I was talking to my younger daughter on the phone about the invasion. It ran behind Al’s armchair, under the bookcase, into the dining room and disappeared. Another scooted around the kitchen and into a closet. A little mouse poked out from under the fridge and ran away. But then it or another mouse proceeded to squeak and squeal from somewhere behind the fridge. I actually opened the door to make sure it wasn’t somehow trapped inside.

I’d had enough. I went to the hardware store and bought three quick-kill traps that I thought I could manipulate. I came home and set them up with cheese—not before snapping my finger at least once. Not good. Mouse’s revenge, I suppose.

I set them out and went for a walk. The idea of sitting and listening for the traps to snap was making me very uneasy. But no caught mice when I returned. Instead, as I sat in the living room, trying to distract myself with the Sunday New York Times crossword, a gray-and-white mouse suddenly darted from under the bookcase, skirted a nearby trap without so much as a how-dee-doo, and ran through the dining room before exiting somewhere under the counters. Twice, one of the traps in the kitchen went off without catching anything. And there was more squeaking behind the fridge.

Finally I gave up and called Al at work. He was getting ready to come home soon. By the time the Patriots lost to the Broncos, the little mouse was dead. One down. We went out to dinner because I didn’t want to cook in the kitchen. How many more to go? For all I know, we have an entire extended family in our walls and beneath the floorboards. If the traps don’t do the trick, it will be time to call the environmentally responsible critter control experts and pay the price.

Oh, and by the way, there was a bright, full moon this weekend. 

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

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Rash Conclusions

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When I was maybe three years old, I had a penchant for caterpillars. I loved to let them crawl all over my hands (even though they caused my skin to peel) and would fill mayonnaise jars with sticks and grass, load them with my insect friends and, with my mom’s help, punch holes in the top so they could breathe. Within a day or two, they always died. So much for the budding entomologist.

photoBut my old fascination with the insect world was rekindled this past Sunday, when Em and I went to a botanical garden to see a display of live caterpillars. These were astonishing creatures, some as tiny and well camouflaged as a slender twig, others as thick as my fingers, bedecked in jewel tones. They crawled over docents’ outstretched hands or munched methodically on their favorite leaves. Said one visitor, “I feel like I’m watching someone eating corn on the cob.”

I went home marveling at the beauty of some of Nature’s humblest creations—until later that night, when I was getting ready for bed and noticed an odd series of red spots on my shins. The night before, I’d found a set of four on my right leg. This time, I saw a series of spots on the left. They didn’t itch. But they looked eerily like the connect-the-dots, after-dinner trail of a far more menacing insect—a bedbug.

Worried, given all the traveling we’ve done of late, I forced up the corner of our mattress to check the box spring. There, in a crevice, were two shed exoskeletons of some kind of small bug. I ran and got a piece of tape to extract them and tried to examine them under a magnifying glass. Even with that assist and bifocals, I’m just too farsighted to be able to see clearly. But I was convinced it was proof that I had brought bedbugs home with me from Chicago a few weeks ago.

Al could not dissuade me from my conclusion. He gave me a hug and went to sleep in our bed, and I went downstairs to try to sleep on the couch, too uneasy about getting more bites. I then proceeded to spend half the night agonizing. I looked up heat treatments for bedbugs and fretted over how we could cover the four-figure expense. I did Internet searches for the best contractors. I found way too much information about all the work you have to do to prepare for bedbug extermination. Finally, around four in the morning, I had worn myself down enough to fall asleep. I woke up at six, as Al prepared to go to work.

The A-rated local pest control company didn’t open until eight. At three minutes past, I called and described the situation. They asked me to text an image of what I found. I did my best to take a picture with my iPad, but with my clumsy, tired hands, could not focus it crisply enough for them to be able to ID the bug. So I got dressed and drove my taped sample over to their office.

After a few false starts with an uncooperative computer, their bug ID specialist successfully booted up and got a close look under her electronic maginifier. Lo and behold—it was not a bedbug, after all, but the shed larval “exuvia” of a carpet beetle. Ironically, their larvae resemble tiny caterpillars. In fact, they have hairlike protrusions that have earned them the nickname of “wooly bears”—not, however, to be confused with the same insect as those cute, fuzzy, brown-and-orange caterpillars that are supposed to predict the length of winter.

We don’t have carpeting. But carpet beetles aren’t all that particular. A common household pest, they don’t bite. They just munch on organic matter other than people. Much like all those caterpillars chomping away at leaves like corn on the cob. This larva may have shed its outer skin years ago, for all we know. If we had an infestation, the bug ID specialist told me, we’d know, because they’d be all over the place.

I was greatly relieved. And exhausted. I concluded that this whole episode was a major kick in the pants for us to finally declutter our bedroom and the rest of the house, and deprive any lingering carpet beetles of their smorgasbord of stray fiber delicacies.

As for those spots on my leg, I have no clue what they are. If they get worse, I’ll have to see a dermatologist and get some answers. For now, they don’t itch, which is a good thing. One more chapter in the book of strange skin changes. Whatever the cause, if I ever find out, I’m just grateful I can sleep in my bed, again.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

The Stress Factor

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I come from a long line of worriers. Both of my parents and their parents and, I suspect, their parents’ parents, all the way up the family tree, made an art form of anxiety.

Some of this angst was well-earned. My mother and her parents escaped Nazi Germany in 1936, but other family members were not so fortunate or foresighted to get out when it was still possible. Their Holocaust legacy always hovered in the background, somewhere out of reach and unspoken, throughout my childhood in the 1950s and ’60s.

Some of it is hard-wired. I have a writer’s vivid imagination, which serves me well but also can keep me up at night, ruminating, when I’m fretting about family or finances or how I’m going to get all my work done or the fact that I’m not sleeping and my blood pressure feels higher or my arythmea kicks up, which, of course, only exacerbates my angst.

To be fair, anxiety has its place. It can be a great motivator, as long as it doesn’t get out of hand. My coping style includes thinking through every possible outcome of a particular issue that’s worrying me and how I would handle it. This drives Al crazy, because, as he rightly points out, most of that stuff never happens. But for me, it helps, up to a point, to be proactive.

However, I’ve learned from hard experience that if I go into overdrive mode, I can make myself sick. In fact, though there is no way to know how and why I developed scleroderma, stress—and how I responded—was definitely a contributing factor. I can’t prove this, but I know in my gut that it’s true.

I first began to develop symptoms of scleroderma—odd swelling of my fingers, migrating joint pain (as in, I’d have pain in my shoulder for an hour and then it would shift to my knee, without rhyme or reason) and fatigue, plus intensified Raynaud’s (I’d always had cold hands, but not red, white and blue ones)—in my late twenties.

I had just extricated myself from a very unhappy marriage and was living on my own, struggling to make ends meet after being laid off from my job as news director at a local public radio station, thanks to budget cuts by the Reagan Administration. How could this be? Here I was, with two master’s degrees, coming from a family of long-lived marriages, no divorces. I felt like a total failure.

My response was to shift into fifth gear. I found two part-time jobs and teamed up with a public radio station manager to write a grant to create a statewide news service for all the stations that were cutting news staff due to the same budget cuts. We got funding, and I was off and running.

Run, I did. I drove all over Massachusetts doing interviews. I worked long hours writing and producing stories. I pushed myself very hard. It was great work, but I got run down, physically and emotionally.

In the midst of all this, I began having problems sleeping. I struggled with self-confidence. The idea of dating terrified me. I obsessed about my work and relationships. I was scared any time I got sick. I began to have trouble with digestion and lost weight.

My doctor couldn’t find anything wrong with me, so I just felt ridiculous to be worrying about it all, but worry, I did. I sought help in therapy, which enabled me to clarify some of my issues. I formed new, valued friendships by joining a synagogue. I prayed a lot.

But I continued to worry. Some of this angst translated into panic attacks, particularly when I went out to eat in restaurants. There were nights when I would lie in bed, awash in adrenaline.

With time, I gained more confidence, found success in my journalistic pursuits and learned to take better care of myself. My rabbi introduced me to Al, and within a few months of our first date, we were engaged. Life felt much brighter.

But the damage to my metabolism from all that intense anxiety, all the adrenaline rushes, over the prior three years on my own, was done. A few weeks after Al and I returned from our honeymoon, I saw a rheumatologist, due to abnormal blood tests, and learned I had some form of auto-immune disease—either rheumatoid arthritis, lupus or scleroderma.

This is not to say that I brought this disease upon myself. There was no way to know I had whatever genetic predisposition or was subjected to whatever environmental triggers that are responsible for this illness. But I am convinced that all that adrenaline somehow played a significant role in weakening my immune system. Plenty of research connects the two.

In conversations with other scleroderma patients, I’m always struck by similar stories about disease onset—some kind of major personal loss or trauma, followed by a deep struggle to cope and a lot of angst. I can’t say this is true for all of us, but there seems to be a common thread. Recent research points in that direction.

Would it have made a difference if I’d had a more effective coping style? I don’t know if I could have actually prevented the disease, but I certainly would have felt significantly better if I’d been able to shortcut the adrenaline rush. To this day, I still have to check myself, meditate, walk or do something to shift gears and redirect my brain when I go into overdrive.

Which reminds me. Al just sent me an email that we have meditation group tonight. No excuses, this week.

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Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com

Coyotes of the Mind

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Friday night, as Al and I were walking home from synagogue under a brilliant full moon, a creature darted across the street ahead of us. Ghostly white, scrawny, doggish, with pointed ears and a long, thin tail, it disappeared into a neighbor’s backyard and the trees beyond.

Coyote. Had to be. Though our Central Massachusetts neighborhood is not overly forested, there are enough woods in-between lots for a coyote to lace through in search of food. And there have been occasional sitings in our area.

I shivered. Often during the past few hot summer months and on recent days when I’ve been too busy to take an afternoon break, I’ve walked our 15-year-old golden, Ginger, after dark. She loves nocturnal smells, and the stars have been stunning. No more. It’s colder, anyway, now that fall is here, and I don’t want to chance it with a coyote on the loose.

But I don’t want to give up those evening strolls, either. As long as I bundle up, I love staring up at Orion and Cygnus while Ginger pauses to snuffle each and every fallen leaf by the curb. Risks abound. If all I do is focus on the bad things that could happen, I’ll imprison myself. And her.

According to the Massachusetts Division of Fisheries and Wildlife, you should yell, blow a whistle, bang pots and pans or shine a flashlight to scare off a coyote. Not my preferred mode for a relaxing walk around the block. Maybe I’ll just wait a week or so before we venture out late again, as long as it’s not too cold.

Much as I have no desire to face down a live coyote, there’s another kind that I’m much more accustomed to confronting: those hungry coyotes of the mind—anxieties about health, money, security, family, the future.

These I fight often. Scleroderma, as any chronic illness, births a band of them, trotting across my subconscious, wily, ghostlike. They appear without warning, gobble up energy and optimism, and howl loudest on those nights when I have trouble sleeping.

What if I end up in a hospital some day and get one of those super infections in my ulcers? What if I gag on my food because my swallowing is sometimes uncoordinated and there’s no one here to help? What if I fall and mess up my hands even more? What if something happens to Al’s job and we lose our health insurance?  On and on.

But shouting at those feelings to go away, lecturing myself to silence the angst doesn’t work. It only seems to make those coyotes of the mind even stronger and more voracious.

No, especially if the anxieties have a basis in reality. Disease is disease. When your body doesn’t work right, it’s damn scary. As you gain experience coping, managing your meds and your symptoms and your docs, the anxiety dampens a bit. But the sense of vulnerability never goes away.

Better to shine a light on it, name what’s most frightening, acknowledge the storyline. Separating fiction from fact is the first step toward coming to terms with both the anxiety and the reality.

Power that light with compassion for your trembling, I try to remind myself when I find myself in the grip of wild fears. The more self-compassion, the longer you can be still and see clearly what it is you’re actually contending with—and discover the courage to be present and move beyond coping to living fully. Hard to do, but I keep trying.

Coyotes have adapted to suburban sprawl, say the wildlife experts here. Nearly all Massachusetts residents now live near them.

My inner coyotes roam at random. Lest they get too cozy, I’ll keep my flashlight handy.

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Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Barnacles

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Overheard on the Block Island Ferry this past Sunday . . .

Boy, about 10, looking over the railing at sea foam as the ferry pulls out of Old Harbor, heading back to the Rhode Island coast: “Look, there’s barnacles in the water! Do I have barnacles?”

His older brother, maybe 11: “No, you don’t get barnacles unless you’re under the water for a long time, like maybe two weeks.”

Fortunately, the older brother is correct, and the boy has attracted no barnacles of his own. The ferry’s powerful engine hums as we pick up speed and cruise past the island’s cliff-like dunes, dull copper beneath overcast skies.

I lean back against the blue bench along the middle deck, watching the dunes and the North Lighthouse slip past, and contemplate barnacles, those tiny, cream-colored sea creatures that attach themselves to boulders and boats and whales in lacy patterns and feed on plankton within their sharp, crusty shells. No need to move anywhere once they find a home. They just latch on and draw sustenance from whatever drifts their way.

Like worries.

I have a few of my own that I’d like to shed, worries about my health, money, work, family transitions, our aging golden retriever, reactionary politics, the NSA, the Middle East, climate change.

But they’re tenacious, clinging to my subconscious, scraping me when I indulge them, cutting. No easy way to dislodge them and toss them back into the sea.

The ferry cruises now at full speed across open ocean, heading to the mainland. A small red tugboat pulls what appears to be a stranded white yacht. On the horizon, sailboats catch the evening breeze. I relax into the rhythm of the boat rising and falling over light waves. Concerns that have dogged me all day when I should have been enjoying myself magically evaporate into the moist sea air.

I’ve been rereading Melville’s brilliant Moby Dick this summer. As the ferry surges forward, I recall Ishmael’s opening monologue:

Whenever I find myself growing grim about the mouth; whenever it is a damp, drizzly November in my soul; whenever I find myself involuntarily pausing before coffin warehouses, and bringing up the rear of every funeral I meet; and especially whenever my hypos get such an upper hand of me, that it requires strong moral principle to prevent me from deliberately stepping into the street, and methodically knocking people’s hats off—then I account it high time to get to the sea as soon as I can.

A flock of cormorants fly in formation, skimming the water. The setting sun burnishes blue-black waves to a salmon-pink patina.

From saltwater we came. Perhaps that is why the sea is so soothing. Sail on, sail on, swift enough to evade the barnacle’s pincers, slow enough to cast angst adrift. At least ’til landfall.

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Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.