Living with Scleroderma

Reflections on the Messy Complexity of Chronicity

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Handy

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When you live in a home long enough, stuff breaks. A doorknob loosens, a faucet drips, a burner element wears out on the stove, a toilet leaks, a chair leg cracks, a lock fails. The list is endless.

tools-1553469-640x480If you’re handy, fixing stuff around the house can be a satisfying hobby. If you’re not, it’s a cumulative nuisance. And if you can figure out how to fix it but your hands won’t cooperate, it’s truly irritating.

I used to have extraordinary fine motor coordination in my hands and could do just about any kind of detailed manipulations. I watched my father fix all kinds of objects around the house and build bookcases to hold thousands of tomes, and I imagined being able to do the same someday. But now that I have my own home, I can’t do the kinds of repairs that I wish I could because my hands simply won’t cooperate. Al, by his own admission, is not Mr. Fix-It.

So it was with great satisfaction that we finally found a handyman who can do just about any repair for a reasonable price. Our list has been growing for a long time, but the problem that finally drove us to seek him out was the ladder to the attic, which broke about a year ago, making it impossible to access our luggage. We are planning more travel in a few weeks, this time to Italy, and we needed to get up there.

And so, over the past few days, Marc has been fixing stuff: He replaced the ladder, fixed the impossible leaking toilet, repaired the drippy kitchen faucet and spray hose, reattached the spring on the outer front door that fell off the other day, wired a new front light, replaced some shakes that had been bored through by woodpeckers, and mended two broken chairs and the leg on our coffee table.

As these things go, nothing was as simple as it seemed. Bees were investigating the holes bored by the woodpeckers. The toilet needed several adjustments, as did the kitchen faucet. The attic ladder was a challenge because the original door had been built in the wrong place relative to the upstairs hallway and staircase. But Marc figured it out, spicing his efforts with some colorful language that reminded me of my dad’s cursing when things didn’t go right, and demonstrated an admirable ability to sort through the challenges and solve each one.

While he was working here on Monday, I was faced with a different kind of fix-it problem—trying to get the scanner on my printer to work again. I had an important document to scan, and the printer would create the image, but continually refused to save the file. I tried reinstalling the driver twice, only to have the same result. I groused to Marc, who cracked a sympathetic joke.

I was ready to give up and take the document to an office service store, when I took a break for a late lunch. Marc was up in the attic, adjusting the length of the new aluminum ladder after a particularly difficult battle with the old wooden one, which had twisted and tangled in its ancient spring. If he could persist and figure it out, so could I.

So I read through old printer documentation, tried a different way of getting into the scanner software, and—lo and behold, found the problem—a save option that had not been activated. The scanner worked. “I did it!” I shouted to Marc. He cheered.

I may not be able to do what Marc does with fixing stuff with my hands, but I sure learned a good lesson about persistent problem-solving. When he left Monday afternoon, he told me to start making “another little list.” I already have a few items noted down for after we get back.

Image Credit: Ciska Wesselius

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

 

New Tricks

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mr-fluffy-1358436-639x426In our back yard, a supposedly squirrel-proof bird feeder hangs on the trunk of a Norway maple. For the past year-and-a-half, it has confounded the squirrels. They’ve climbed all around it, certain it contains something good to eat. All that spilled seed near the tree’s roots must mean those birds are onto something, right? There just has to be a way to get some, too!

Then, last week, one wily squirrel finally cracked the code. Hanging down over the roof of the feeder, it managed to push down on the spring-loaded perch, swing around, climb up and sit on the ledge of the seed tray. There it curled its bushy gray tail into a question mark—You gotta problem with that?—and gobbled up black sunflower seeds.

I stepped outside to shoo it away, but in a short while, the squirrel was trying once again to remember the combination of acrobatic moves that had been so rewarding. No luck, at first. Next morning, I looked out the window and discovered it happily munching away again at the feeder.

At first, I was annoyed. But I was also impressed. That was one smart squirrel! Clearly, it was capable of learning from trial and error to get the reward—just like a lab rat learning how to push the right levers to get sugar water.

Since then, however, I haven’t noticed the wily squirrel at the feeder (which doesn’t mean it hasn’t been there). Birds continue to visit, so at least I know there’s still plenty of seed left.

Meanwhile, I’ve been learning some new tricks of my own, out of necessity, since my hand surgery a couple of weeks ago.

For years, I’ve been cutting bandages in half, the long way, for dressing my digital ulcers. I lap and contour them over my finger tips, then secure them in place with a full bandage wrapped around the finger. And I’ve always used a pair of cuticle scissors to cut the bandages. They’re small and sharp and light to handle.

But with my right hand out of commission for well over a week, I needed to recruit some help. My left hand just isn’t as coordinated, and I couldn’t cut the bandages. So I asked Al to do it for me. Another time, when he was at work, I asked Emily, who is home for the summer, for assistance.

Both followed my instructions—but both also inspired shortcuts that I had never considered. Al devised an easier way to cut the bandages—just shy of the peel-open end—so you can peel the wrapper and release both halves at the same time, instead of having to peel each half bandage separately.

Both Al and Em asked me why I insisted on using the cuticle scissors. I had to admit, they don’t cut a straight line very easily and can get stuck in the adhesive. Also, I realized, the reason I can’t use them right now is the holes in the handle are too small and press against my thumb sutures. So I fished out a spare pare of rubber-handled kitchen sheers from the junk drawer and tried them out. Voila! Easy, painless and quick way to cut my bandages in a snap, even with my healing right hand.

Which brings me back to the wily squirrel.

It’s so easy to get stuck in one way of doing things, even when the approach really is not working all that well. You can keep on looking at a problem the same way, circle round and round, trudge along. Or you can stand on your head and open your mind to a new perspective. Even if you’re not an acrobat—or a squirrel—the view is worth the effort.

Image Credit: Piotr Ciuchta

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

That’s a Wrap

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23924473493_f89d1e0822_zWould someone please explain to me why a cucumber requires shrink wrap? I’m talking about English cucumbers, the long ones that have a very crisp texture and fewer seeds. Their skins aren’t as tough as regular cukes. But shrink wrap? Really?

I hate that shrink wrap. It is next to impossible for me to strip it from the cucumber. My fingers just can’t grip that well. And it clings so tightly, the harder you pull, the more it resists. Honestly, all I want to do is make a salad. Why does it have to be so difficult?

Here are some other food packaging items that drive me crazy:

The plastic film covering, beneath the lid, that clings to the rim of sour cream tubs and yogurt containers. (Those plastic lids aren’t so easy to pry up, either.) I usually have to grab a knife to slit them open, because I cannot grasp the longer edge you’re supposed to use to strip the film away.

The tight foil covering of my calcium chews. These come wrapped individually, with neatly turned ends that are folded the way you wrap a birthday present. Picking those ends up with what’s left of my finger nails takes patience, to say the least.

Plastic screw tops with perforated extensions that twist off when you first open the jar. Usually, I need to wear a pair of rubber dish gloves to be able to hold on without my hand slipping and twist without injuring my skin. I have an adjustable jar opener, but it doesn’t always do the job as well as it should.

Sealed plastic bags for items like shredded cheese that have molded ziplock seals. The idea is that you can reseal the bag after you open it the first time. Problem is I can never pry apart the ziplock, so I inevitably cut it off and put the bag in another plastic bag with a usable ziplock—or just use some other clip to keep it shut. Just give me a bag that opens easily, please.

Sealed plastic wrappers inside sealed cereal or cracker boxes. I can never, ever, pull them apart neatly. It seems like these wrappers used to open easily, but now they are made of some kind of heavier plastic that just won’t yield to my fingers. So I usually ask Al to do it for me.

He, of course, is my secret weapon for all of the above and more. Sometimes I wonder if I depend too heavily on my husband for help with all of these simple tasks. I know I should find more adaptive tools to tackle hermetically sealed packaging. But then I have to have those tools handy every time I try to open something. Which is a nuisance.

Some days, like the other night, when I was rushing to make dinner and had to keep struggling with food wrappers, it’s just plain tiring. And wasteful. I do my best to recycle, but some of that packaging has nowhere to go but the trash. We live in a litigious, germaphobic culture where shrink-wrapped cucumbers are the norm. Even if my hands worked perfectly, there has to be a better way.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

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Just Living

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rain-1199464-639x425It’s raining today as I write, a chilly, damp, late March Monday. I’m still in layers of sweaters. The heat is on. I’m wearing my spring green wrist warmers to thaw out my fingers and remind myself that warmer weather is on the way. Really.

But this is not what’s preoccupying me this morning. Nor are my latest episodes of living with scleroderma. (Should I write about the odd tic in my left eye? my search for adaptive tools? the challenges of getting dressed?) No. What’s on my mind is just living, right now, right here, wrestling with all that’s at risk around us.

There is the U.S. presidential election, which has me profoundly worried. I have no intent of turning this blog into a political platform for my personal views (or anyone else’s, for that matter). But I have become a political junkie, reading, watching and listening to the best news analysis I can find to stay on top of developments. I also am inexorably drawn to fiction and histories about the rise of demagogues and Fascism. And I am struggling with my own role: What should I be saying, writing, doing in response?

There are other issues that weigh heavily on my mind—not only the proliferation of terrorism, once again making headlines with last week’s attack in Brussels, but the insidious cultural conflicts fueling this evil; the growing disparities between the haves and have-nots of this world and where that will lead as our planet becomes more crowded (which is intrinsically connected to the rise of terrorism); the existential threat of global warming. And, again, I struggle with my response. What will I be able to say, at the end of my life, that I did to help set things right?

I am not one who can easily compartmentalize and shove all this to the back of my mind. In some ways, I envy those who can. I always have to catch myself from spinning in my head about all the what-ifs, whatever is making me feel vulnerable. These days, however, I feel like I’m in a constant state of orange alert. (Obviously, this is not good for my health—physical, mental or spiritual.)

By comparison, my scleroderma and the challenges it presents are just a lot of white noise. I’m confronted by it every minute of every day—how to pick up a cup, handle a pen, turn a key in a lock, put on a sock, brush my teeth. It is frustrating, angering, time-consuming, exhausting, sometimes painful, often a real nuisance. But it is not what concerns me most in my life.

What concerns me are my family, my art, my work, my friends, my community, my country, our planet. What truly preoccupies me is how to live a meaningful life, how to make my small corner of the world a better place. And this is the real point of writing this blog. Living with a chronic disease can absorb a lot of physical, mental and emotional energy—for many good reasons. But it simply is not and cannot be all that we are about. Scleroderma is only a piece of me. It is far from all of me.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Image Credit: Griszka Niewiadomski

Excavations

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Decluttering the house remains high on my list of things I want to accomplish this year. So last Thursday, Al and I agreed to take time out from work responsibilities to once again tackle the basement family room.

recycling-1239302-639x426It’s really a family room in name only, now. Both of our daughters are grown and living on their own, and neither of us spends any time in that space anymore.

The television is huge and old and no longer attached to our cable, because we would have had to pay for an extra signal conversion box. The DVD player stopped functioning at some point. Toys and games from the girls’ childhood gather dust.

We had started the decluttering project last fall, but stalled when we discovered a major plumbing leak, fixed soon after. The room needed to dry out and, well, we got busy. Not that I didn’t think about it every time I went down to the laundry room on the other side of the basement.

But one of my greatest frustrations with my hands is that I cannot take on any part of major cleaning and organizing on my own. If I try to dust or vacuum, I inevitably smash my fingertips, which are severely resorbed and very painful when banged. Same goes for when I pull old papers out of boxes or move cartons or sort through books.

Fortunately, Al gets it and knows how to help me. He pulls stuff out of boxes and off the shelves, reviews it with me, and then we make a decision about what to do with it: donate, recycle or toss.

We must have sorted, stacked and bundled for at least four, maybe five hours. In the process, we filled several cartons and bags with print materials from my years working in higher ed marketing (I saved my favorites and sent the rest to recycling). I fished through a carton of old sewing patterns, many of which were decades old, and relinquished them for recycling, finally admitting to myself that they were really too dated to ever reconsider making. (The only ones I did save were patterns for a teddy bear, a timeless summer dress and my wedding gown.)

Of the toys, we saved the classics—LEGO sets, wooden Lincoln Logs, blocks, a box of flocked horses, jacks, marbles, a traveling backgammon board that I thought we had lost, a magnetic Scrabble game, jigsaw puzzles and the like. The rest of the old board games, baby puzzles and toys, we donated to a city neighborhood center. The spare office chair went to Goodwill. We pulled together family videotapes to digitize on DVDs. I wound balls of yarn from half-finished knitting projects to bring to my weaving class.

So, we made progress. But there is still a lot more to do. And it’s dusty down there. It took me at least a day to feel like my lungs were clear. I may just have to hire some help to get that under control before we excavate some more.

We are fortunate, I know, to have had the resources to acquire all this stuff over the years—and a home to fill. But the older I get, the less I want to keep. The most precious finds in our family room didn’t take much space at all: a few loose photographs of family events long forgotten, memories of the tapes we used to watch together when the girls were young, a little wooden toy village small enough to fit in a matchbox that had once been my mother’s.

Ultimately, the best way for me to preserve what I really care about, in the least space, with no cleaning or dusting or other maintenance required, is simply to write about it. Thank goodness, I can still rely on my hands for that.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Image Credit: Griszka Niewiadomski