Living with Scleroderma

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Up in the Air

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I’m traveling again on my own, sitting at Logan airport, waiting to board my flight to Philadelphia. So far, so good, but as much as I try to anticipate how to make the journey easier on my hands, there are always surprises.

One thing I did right: I knew the flight was full, and my seat is in the back. Chances of getting overhead storage for my carry-on was slim. So I volunteered to check my bag when the inevitable announcement came. Saved $30 and spared my hands and back. There’s an Apple Air Tag in my bag, in case it gets lost in transit.

One thing I should have realized in advance: Getting though the entrance to security requires showing your ID, which I had ready, but my driver’s license is in a wallet with a window. Nope, needs to be handed to the security staff, because they run it through a card reader. I fumbled and fumbled to remove it. Fortunately, no impatient person was in the very short line behind me. But I needed the TSA guy to take it out for me, just couldn’t do it myself. Ugh.

Something I wish I could manage better: Lifting my luggage into the TSA bins, taking out my computer, taking off shoes, et al is always the hardest part of air travel for me. (“Do you happen to be 75 or older?” asked the TSA guy politely, regarding the shoes. Apparently when you reach that magic age, you are no longer suspect for having dangerous items concealed in your footware. “No,” I asserted. He apologized for asking. Ugh.) At least security wasn’t crowded, so I didn’t feel as rushed as usual.

Another thing I did right, sort of: With a lot of time to kill, I got a bagel and cream cheese and some tea at a Starbucks in the terminal. Of course, this meant that I had to spread the cream cheese myself. It came in a foil packet with a nick at one end and directions to “tear here.” Unless you have strong fingertips, these things never work. I had packed a pair of manicure scissors for just such a challenge. But I put them in my backpack, instead of my purse. So, lots of digging around before I could pull them out and use them. Next time, I need to remember that I can put them in my purse—no issue with tiny scissors going through the TSA scan (especially since it raised no issue when my backpack passed inspection—duh).

A useful trick that I learned from my trip to Germany: To protect my thumbs, which are always bandaged because of ulcers that never heal, I wrap the bandages with a second layer using Coban. This is an elastic fabric that comes in rolls and sticks to itself. One of my medical team recommended it as a way to cushion my thumbs and protect them more. It works pretty well, and serves also as a second layer to keep my bandages from getting dirty from travel.

A necessary precaution: I’m wearing a mask in the airport and on the flight. Enough coughs and sneezes in the vicinity, and I don’t want to get sick or make others sick when I arrive.

I wish flying were simpler and enjoyable. It isn’t.

Even still, I am always amazed that a huge steel tube with wings, filled with tons of people and luggage, can rise into the air and carry us to distant places. The view of clouds and patchwork landscape and cities from above never fails to fascinate. For all the drawbacks of air travel in the 21st century, it’s still a wonder. . . .

And I made it to Philly without a hitch.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.

Design Flaw

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Last Friday it was really hot, in the 90s, the kind of sudden temperature spike that causes spring to fast-forward. The kind of day that makes dough rise quickly, as was the case in my kitchen, because Passover was over and I needed to bake some challah for Friday night. By late afternoon, the dough had plumped high in its bowl. Even with the back door and porch slider open, the kitchen was uncomfortably warm.

So, I opened our two solar-powered kitchen skylights to let the heat out through the roof.  They operate by remote control, and if it rains, close automatically. Quite the technological innovation, compared to our old leaky skylights with their clunky crank that required a wobbly pole to open and close.

Cleaning up after dinner, I picked up the remotes (each window has its own) and clicked the button to close each skylight. The left one immediately began to shut. But not the right. I switched out the AAA batteries and tried again. No luck. I tried the remote for the left skylight. Nope. Temperatures were sinking overnight into the 50s, and the skylight was wide open. I said to Al, “We have a problem.”

Now, Al, by his own admission, is not Mr. Handyman, and although I can see what needs to be done, I cannot often do it if the task requires some manual dexterity. Also, when I get stressed, I have trouble with word-finding. This is a problem that developed after I hit menopause, and it is extremely frustrating, which only makes the problem more pronounced. I know what I want to say, but I have to talk around the subject to get to the words I want. “Thingy” is one of my fall-back nouns. Not great for giving directions to my dear husband.

I had no idea where I had put the instructions for the skylights, so I began searching online for our skylight brand and problems with the remote. I soon learned that the issue involved resetting the wireless signal between the skylight and the remote. That made sense. Just one problem. You had to remove the insect screen from the skylight in order to do the reset, because the sensor was in the skylight frame. “It’s easy,” reassured the YouTube video. “All you need is a paperclip.”

Really? Now, I don’t about you, but as far as I know, skylights are located in ceilings. And in our kitchen, the ceiling is high, maybe 12 feet. I imagine that other people install their skylights in even higher ceilings. So you need a tall ladder to reach it. Which we do not own. On the rare occasions when we have a chore that requires one, we borrow from a helpful neighbor up the street. However, at 10:30 at night on a Friday, I was not about to call him.

Al’s first thought was to go up on the kitchen roof and try to make the adjustment from outside, an idea I emphatically vetoed. Even though the one ladder we own would make that possible (the eaves are lower than the peak of the roof), it was dark and too risky. Plus, as we later discovered, it would not have worked.

But he did convince me to let him try to bring that old rickety ladder inside and see if he could reach the skylight screen. He managed to prop it up safely enough, with me holding it steady and spotting him, to climb up and, by standing partly on the ladder and partly on the kitchen table, remove the screen from the skylight.

With Step 1 accomplished, we moved on to Step 2. This involved finding the tiny hole in the skylight frame that accesses the reset device. My ability to explain this to Al while I was getting more and more agitated because I could not find a working flashlight and we had to resort to using Al’s iPhone for him to locate this little pinhole in the skylight frame while I was replaying the YouTube video on mine was, shall we say, impaired.

However, we did locate the hole. Here’s where the paperclip comes in. You have to unbend a paperclip, insert it in the hole for 10 seconds, and then the skylight will move. Yes, a paperclip. Why not a button? Why not a switch? I have no idea.

Al inserted the unbent paperclip. Nothing. Now I was really getting frantic. How were we going to close it before the temperature dropped? Al suggested trying a larger paperclip, since he didn’t think the first one went in all the way. So I dumped all my paperclips on the table and found a bigger one, which I unbent and gave him. And, voila! The skylight began to hum and close. Thank goodness.

There’s a third step involved, which we postponed: sticking yet another paperclip into a hole on the remote, after you do the 10 second routine on the skylight frame, to re-pair the remote with the window. That will wait for a sunny day when we can borrow our neighbor’s ladder and not worry about a temperature drop.

After we put everything back in place and tidied up the kitchen, I was relieved. This was not how I had intended to spend Friday night, but we had managed to solve the problem, together, without breaking anything or getting injured or having an argument.

I was also incredulous. What genius thought it made sense to design a skylight that cannot be closed manually if it fails electronically, without climbing on a tall ladder to do so? And why a paperclip? This presumes not only that you have a tall ladder, but also that you have a stash of paperclips, which, in a world evolving away from using paper for documents that need to be clipped together, is becoming an anachronism.

But I digress. The one bonus of this adventure, if you’ve read this far, is it gave me a ridiculous story to tell. And we all need a good dose of ridiculous these days.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.

Anticipation

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If all goes according to plan, next week I will be traveling to Germany to research my second novel. (Where is the first novel, you might ask? It’s in search of a literary agent, a long process. Details at my author’s website.) The second novel is set in Germany during 1928-1938, and I’m heading for Berlin, Dessau, and Munich. As we all know, when it comes to travel (and life in general) the adage “Man plans, God laughs” is often apt.

So, fingers crossed.

This is the first time I have ever ventured abroad on my own. I never traveled as a teen or young adult, with the exception of a two-week, whirlwind trip with my sister in 1973, a gift from our grandmother, who wanted us to see her German homeland and get a taste of Europe. We traveled by Eurailpass, back when it was really cheap to go First Class, from London to Berlin (we took the train-ferry across the English Channel to Belgium, then flew into Berlin since access was limited because the country and city were still divided), and on from Berlin to Copenhagen, Amsterdam, Zurich, and Paris. We stayed in youth hostels, dragged our suitcases everywhere, saw a lot, but decided to come home a few days early because we were totally exhausted.

In recent years, Al and I have traveled to Israel and made several wonderful trips to Europe, plus a lovely visit to Canada this past summer, and I’ve gained a lot of experience with travel planning. With this trip, I’m putting all of that to good use. I’ve cleared my plan with my entire medical team, who have been universally supportive and encouraging. And Al and our daughter are, as ever, supportive, too.

After all the restrictions of the pandemic and the past couple of years trying to figure out what exactly has been going on with my heart and lungs, I am both grateful to be feeling up for the adventure and trying my best to stay healthy prior to and during my travels. More than just a trip I’ve been dreaming of for several years and planning for months, this is a personal-best challenge to myself. I need to know, as I approach my 69th birthday next month, that I can just do it.

So, if all goes according to plan, I will be taking a break from writing here for a few weeks. I hope to have some great stories and photos to share when I’m back at the end of the month. In the meantime, Dear Reader, be well.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.

Image: Stefan Widua

The Year That Was

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When I was in elementary school, my parents loved watching a TV program on NBC called That Was the Week That Was. Biting political satire was TW3’s forté, and nothing was off limits, from abhorent civil rights murders in Mississippi* to Barry Goldwater’s 1964 presidential bid. Adapted from the BBC original, the US program ran from 1964-1965, and introduced host David Frost to American audiences in the second season. Among the regulars were Henry Morgan, Phyllis Newman, Alan Alda, and Nancy Ames. Tom Lehrer wrote some his most famous songs for the program, including Vatican Rag and National Brotherhood Week.

I was so inspired by the show that in the sixth grade, I convinced one of my friends to help me write a version of the TW3  theme song as “That Was the Year That Was” to present to our fellow classmates as an idea for a class play. Needless to say, it went over like a lead balloon, because none of the other kids had any idea what we were singing about. But I have to credit my teacher, who at least let us give it a try. And, fortunately, there was no backlash from parents over our left-leaning politics.

There’s no shortage of political satire on TV and the Internet today, certainly, but TW3 originated the genre, and I wonder what they would have made of 2022. Plenty of material to parody, from botched Covid messaging to outrageous candidates in the Midterms. I just wish today’s TV satirists would rely less on obscenities for laughs and more on the kind of wry, pointed political commentary that TW3 pioneered.

This past year has been laden with so many tragic events—brutal war, needless deaths from the pandemic, too many mass shootings (and by that I mean even one is too many, which we’ve far exceeded), over-the-top partisanship and division, devastating storms driven by climate change—that it sometimes feels hard to find something to laugh about. But we lose our sense of humor at our peril. To quote the ever-quotable Mark Twain, “The human race has only one really effective weapon and that is laughter.”

As we say goodbye to 2022 this weekend and welcome (perhaps with some trepidation after the last few years) what 2023 has in store, here’s hoping that whatever comes, we all find some good reasons to laugh at our very human foibles, make some time to be silly, and face truths worth contemplating at the heart of the joke.

* Some readers may find this YouTube clip offensive. I doubt if it would be allowed on TV today, risking backlash from both ends of the political spectrum. But the musical sketch was intended to shock, for obvious reasons that still sting the American psyche today—as well it should.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.

Image: “Men, possibly broadcasting technicians, seated in front of bank of television sets at the Democratic Headquarters at the Mayflower Hotel, Washington, D.C. on election night, November 3, 1964.” Library of Congress PPOC

Frazzled

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It’s that time of year when everyone is running around trying to finish up last-minute holiday shopping, fretting over holiday menus and meal prep, and stressing over holiday travel, all while Covid once again seems to be nipping at our heels. (PSA: Please get your Covid bivalent booster and flu shot ASAP if you haven’t already!)

Which is why I was grateful to just sit and finish the Times crossword while our Hanukkah candles burned Sunday night, the first night of the eight-day festival. It was peaceful and our home smelled delicious from the latkes Al was frying. And very good they were, too!

I still have a few small gift errands to run. I’ve also, in recent years, shifted from gifts to charitable donations for family members. I ask what they’d like me to support and then make a donation in their names. Everyone feels good, and there’s no risk of the gift being delayed or late, not fitting, or ending up on a shelf. And it’s easy to do.

Still, the frenzy can be contagious, which can be fun if you like all the stimulation. For my inner introvert, however, peaceful moments watching candles burn is more to my liking.

In the midst of all this, whatever your preferred holiday mode, it’s good to know that the Winter Solstice falls on this Wednesday, December 21. Which means that this Thursday, the days will start getting longer again. The difference may be infinitesimal, but in my mind, realizing we’re making the seasonal turn here in the Northern Hemisphere is always a huge.

And with that, I wish you, Dear Reader, a joyful holiday, whatever you celebrate. Let the light shine in.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com. Please view Privacy Policy here.