Living with Scleroderma

Reflections on the Messy Complexity of Chronicity

Strong Bodies

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Thighs like small boulders, wasp-waisted, she approaches the platform. The young Olympic athlete dips her hands in resin, claps, strokes her chalked palms back and forth over the steel barbell weighing 94 kilos—207 pounds—shifts from one foot to the next, then back again. The horn blasts. She clenches her jaw, squats, yanks the barbell up to her shoulders, strains to stand. But the weight is too heavy. She dumps it, thud, leaves the podium, head low.

She returns a second time, still cannot make the clean and jerk. Her coach drapes a jacket over her slumped shoulders. Other women in her weight class, with equally muscular bodies, have hoisted the barbells high. But I feel for her. I can barely imagine what it takes to grasp a weight that heavy and lift it even an inch off the ground, let alone heft it overhead.

The Olympics are contests of perfection. Swim and track meets are lost by hundredths of a second. Gymnasts fail by degrees of perpendicularity. Divers are dropped for splashing.

And yet. How extraordinary are those strong, perfect bodies. What amazing feats of stamina, coordination, speed and strength, even by those who never make the final eight. Whenever I watch the Olympics, especially the summer games, I’m always amazed—and a bit jealous. At no point in my life, healthy or not, was I athletic enough to entertain a glimmer of hope that I could be like that.

Or so I thought. Every year in high school gym class, dressed in our light blue bloomer jumpsuits, we would tumble and stumble through two weeks of gymnastics. It was always my favorite unit, though I was terrified of the beam (especially since we had to balance in sneakers, which, of course, made it impossible to feel or grip the narrow wooden span).

I loved the parallel bars, felt exhilarated when I could do a flip or a penny drop. I flew over the vault, throwing my legs cleanly across the padded horse and landing firmly. And I amazed my teachers and astonished myself when, one day, I shinnied all the way up one of the thick, scratchy ropes that dangled from the gym’s high ceiling and touched the top. Me, the shrimpy first chair violinist who was afraid of heights. I wrote it all off as a fluke.

Now physical challenges are so much harder. But I’m in better shape today, even with scleroderma, than I was 10 years ago. I take Pilates every Monday night and a dance class on most Thursdays, stretch each morning and walk Ginger in the afternoon. I want to look and feel my best as I age, and I don’t want to give in to my disease. The latter has proven to be a powerful motivation, more than vanity and my own drive for perfection.

I want to be strong. I know I need to be strong to fight scleroderma. Living with any chronic illness involves a willingness to accept limitations, but I keep pushing the envelope to find out which limitations are real and which are just obstacles of my own making.

Sometimes I wonder what my health would have been if I’d had that attitude back in high school and pushed harder to be athletic. If I hadn’t assumed I was a klutz. If I hadn’t bought into negative stereotypes of female jocks.

But it’s far too late for that, now. So I keep working out and take great pleasure and, yes, pride in discovering that my body still responds well to physical exercise. And I watch the summer Olympics, daydream what it would be like to be a competitor—and cheer for the losers who keep on trying.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Blue Sea Glass

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How is it that vacations always end too soon? Just 24 hours ago, we were arriving at the ferry dock in Portland, Maine, back from a week on a lovely, remote island in Casco Bay. The sky was periwinkle, the breeze stiff. As we’d sailed to the mainland, our captain pointed out a half-dozen porpoise riding the tide, hunting fish. I never was quick enough to glimpse them, but I heard one cackling as it dived over the waves.

For eight days, Al and I slept in, took walks every afternoon and went to the beach late, when the sun wasn’t searing hot. We read and I wrote and sketched. We sat for hours watching the terns fly high over the water, then nosedive into the waves, snag minnows and pop back into the air, gulping their silvery catch as they flapped into the headwind to reconnoiter.

And we collected sea glass. Mounds of it. Mostly different shades of white with a tint of lemon or lime, a tinge of aqua, a hint of lilac; also beer bottle browns and greens.

I’ve been gathering sea glass since our now-grown daughters were little and we would scour the beach, holding hands, singing and skipping over surf. Finding even one piece would be cause for a little dance. Here, though, sea glass was bountiful. So the search was on for a sea gluncker’s treasure, cobalt blue.

From our first trip to the beach, the day we arrived, I was hunting for blue sea glass. A great meditation, especially since I was sick with a horrid cold when we left home, hacking and sneezing. And totally pissed off, because, of course, you’re not supposed to be sick on vacation, and I caught it from Al, who had come home sick the week before and missed several days of work, as a result. Plus, after my recent vitreous detachment in my right eye, my sight was full of floaters—so many that when I gazed out at sea, the sky looked like it was filled with space trash.

Grumble, grumble, cough, cough, grumble, grumble. I walked the beach, focused on each stone and shell in my path. Will my vision ever clear? What if I get a retinal detachment? How can I get to the mainland fast enough?  I picked up a white stone shaped like a tiny ice cube and rolled it between my fingers. Why didn’t he wash his hands more carefully? Why was I so stupid to use his computer and not wash my hands after? I don’t want to be sick all week! We wait a whole year for this trip, and now what?

My breathing was so compromised that by Monday morning I woke up and decided that if I was still that sick by Wednesday, I was going home. I told Al, insisting that he stay and I’d pick him up on Sunday. He said he’d come with me, but I really didn’t want to spoil his week. We talked about future vacation plans and how I’ve realized, as my health gets more complex, I need better access to medical facilities, just for peace of mind. He agreed.

With that reassurance, I redoubled my efforts to make the most of the trip, breathed in healing sea air and kept searching for blue sea glass. By Wednesday I was doing much better, well enough to suggest a long walk to see an exhibit of paintings by local artists at the island’s historical museum. We headed out along one of the two main roads, which had just been repaved the day before. And stepped on warm macadam. Which glommed onto the bottom of my good walking sandals.

Grumble, grumble, cough, grumble, grumble. These are my favorite summer shoes! They support my crazy feet! What if I’ve ruined them? I kvetched as I walked along the roadside, trying not to step on any more tar and, instead, packed grass and dirt into the guck. Al said we could stop at the ice cream shack. We found some sharp rocks, and he was able to carve off most of the crud from the soles. When we got back to our rented house, he removed the rest with a putty knife and a nail. Then we went to the beach, Al’s pick.

This beach was next to the island marina. Al wanted to park our chairs with a good view of the moored boats. I wanted to walk a bit farther, but I agreed to his plan. After all, he’d rescued my sandals. As I set down my beach chair, I noticed a speck of cobalt in the sand, inches from the chair’s aluminum footing. It was a chip of blue sea glass, no bigger than the nail on my pinky.

That was the only piece we found on the trip. We walked miles of beaches, clambered over countless boulders, waded and swam in the ocean and trekked across sandbars at low tide. My cold waned and I caught up on my sleep. I discovered that the floaters are less visible when I look at multicolored and darker surroundings, and when I take off my glasses. My finger ulcers improved in the warm sun. I got a great tan. Time slowed.

Now, back home, having kept a morning business meeting, plowed through hundreds of emails and sat at the computer all afternoon, I wish it didn’t seem so long ago, already, that we were walking the beach. Later, I’ll layer this year’s sea gluncking finds to top off a jar on my bureau. And be sure to place the chip of blue where I can see it.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

You Know It’s Time for Vacation When . . .

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  • Your brain turns to sludge at the thought of starting a new project.
  • You would rather pet your dog than write another blog post.
  • You don’t care if your desk is a disaster area and how much more efficient you could be if you just cleared it off.
  • You begin drafting your “out of office” message a week before you’re out of the office.
  • You devote your creative problem-solving skills to convincing the family that it would be nice to go out to dinner for pizza instead of cooking something nutritious.
  • You find a dozen different fascinating questions to research online that have nothing to do with what’s left on your to-do list.
  • You stop adding items to your to-do list because you don’t want to do any of them.
  • Your body starts malfunctioning in all sorts of strange ways just days before you’re scheduled to leave town, causing you to need yet one more doctor’s appointment.
  • You can’t stand the idea of yet one more doctor’s appointment and try to talk yourself out of your symptoms.
  • You go to the doctor’s office after crying about your symptoms to your spouse and find out everything is stress-related and it’s time for vacation.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Get a Grip

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Last week, a small, black dot appeared in my right eye. No matter which way I looked, the dot moved with my eye, right in my line of sight. I figured it was a floater, one of those annoying little bits of vitreous gel that break away from your retina as you age, liquify and cast a shadow inside your eye. Nothing to worry about.

But it was in the way when I tried to read. And I’d never had one before, and its sudden appearance was unnerving. So, after putting up with it for a few days, I did some research and realized that this sudden onset required a check-up to be sure I wasn’t at risk for a retinal tear.

Of course, because I waited until later in the week, my optometrist was away for the Fourth of July weekend. It never fails that something odd and worrysome happens to me when it’s Friday night or a holiday.

Fortunately, I was able to get an appointment with another good eye doctor for late Friday afternoon, and he did a thorough check of my eyes from every angle. And, of course, the little dot had vanished. Just like that weird clicking noise in your engine that goes silent as soon as you bring in your car for a service check.

But he took me seriously, anyway, diagnosed it as an “incipient vitreous detachment” and told me to have a follow-up with my own optometrist in a month. And, he warned, if you see any more floaters, you need to be checked right away, because the vitreous gel could be tugging at the retina around the optic nerve and cause a tear. If you have blurred vision, see any sparks of light or have pain, you need to be seen immediately. The longer you wait, the greater the risk of permanent vision loss.

Necessary advice, but not great words for the anxiety-prone. So, naturally, on Sunday, I started noticing more floaters in my right eye. Not solid black ones, like the unwanted visitor that appeared last week, but pale, ringlike apparitions swimming around whenever I looked at the sky or a page in a book or my computer screen—like the amoebae you see in a drop of water under a microscope in high school biology, ghostlike, barely visible, until you know what to look for.

I thought, they’ve been here all along, and you’re just noticing them because you’re paying closer attention.

I thought, they’re new since last week and you’re going to have a retinal tear when you’re away on vacation.

I thought, this is ridiculous.

I thought, now you know what to blog about this week.

I thought, call your optometrist first thing Monday morning.

I took Ginger for a walk and made a nice summer dinner of gazpacho and a broccoli-rice-chickpea-carrot salad, with gorgonzola cheese and craisins, to take my mind off my eye.

Just as I finished cooking and turned to put the salad in the refrigerator, the bowl slipped from my grasp. Half the salad spilled on the floor. I dropped the f-bomb about a dozen times, then decided that the floor was clean enough, follow the 10-second rule of contact, the vinegar will kill any germs, and quickly scooped up as much as I could, put it back in the bowl and invited Ginger to lick up the rest. Which she did, with enthusiasm.

My meditation teacher says the one thing we can count on is that everything changes. I can’t keep the floaters from appearing in my eye. I can’t always keep a grip on a bowl full of food. I might have more vision problems on our Maine island vacation. It’s scary. Scleroderma is scary. Life is scary.

All I can do is give myself a hug, take a deep breath, pay attention, and deal.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.

Now, Can We Please Move On?

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Many, many words have already been written on this subject, so I’ll keep this short. But I’m extraordinarily grateful that the Supreme Court upheld the Affordable Care Act (ACA) last Thursday. In fact, I’m still amazed that we’ve reached this point in the health care debate—or rather, the health care wrangle.

I’m grateful because I have a complicated, pre-existing condition (great euphemism, that) and if it weren’t for Al’s health insurance through his employer, I’d be in deep, deep trouble. God-forbid he loses his job. I honestly don’t know how we would manage to cover all of the doctor’s visits, diagnostics and medications, let alone a hospitalization.

So now, at least, there’s hope that my health insurance coverage won’t always depend on his employment.

I’m also grateful that our two daughters will remain covered until they turn 26. It’s hard enough for someone fresh out of college to find a decent job, let alone a job with good health benefits. By the time Mindi, our oldest, turns 26, the rest of the ACA will be in place.

Unless, of course, Romney wins and the GOP succeeds in unravelling it.

This is not to say that the legislation is perfect. And I do understand and share deep concerns about our country’s debt, the opposition’s core concern. But to trash everything that’s been accomplished and start from scratch so that one party can claim victory over another would be an incredible waste of time and tax payer dollars, with absolutely no guarantee of a better outcome. We need to work with what is now law and make refinements as the many elements go into effect. We need to address any real problems based on actual experience, not hyped-up claims.

But there is so much misinformation passing for truth about this law, so much harsh, mean-spirited rhetoric, so much ends-justify-the-means politics undercutting our ability to solve serious problems in this country, that I’ve felt very discouraged as the election heats up.

Until last Thursday, when a conservative Supreme Court Justice joined his liberal colleagues and demonstrated what it means to make a decision based on principle.

So, can we please move on, now? Can we stop hurling invectives and actually have a civil discourse about how to get this country back on track? Can we put good minds together, especially when we disagree, to find creative solutions, rather than undercut each other in the race for power and control?

Maybe that’s asking too much. But if we don’t all work hard to find common ground, affordable health care for all Americans will be the least of our worries.

Evelyn Herwitz blogs weekly about living fully with chronic disease, the inside of baseballs, turtles and frogs, J.S. Bach, the meaning of life and whatever else she happens to be thinking about at livingwithscleroderma.com.